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Mar 12, 2010 @ 7:50 PM Rape fantasy?    
Luv2Laugh2


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^^^
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Mar 12, 2010 @ 8:00 PM Rape fantasy?    
Luv2Laugh2


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Actually, it's kind of healthy for a woman to fantasize about being raped. It doesn't have to be for maturbatory purposes. They say that women who fantasize about it in various ways, including how they would react (fight him, lie still, scream) are more likely to handle it the way they imagined it and to survive it. In other words, if you picture yourself fighting him off, the better your chances that you will if it ever happens to you because you are less likely to be paralyzed by fear. If she visualizes lying still until it is over, she is less likely to feel guilty or ashamed for not fighting. Each of us is different and there is no wrong way to handle it.
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Mar 12, 2010 @ 8:00 PM Rape fantasy?    
V_Dresden


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OK Luv, I'm glad you went there. Sort of disturbed me too.
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Mar 13, 2010 @ 2:44 AM Rape fantasy?    
B9CC1D


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Dresden and Luv: That's not exactly fair.

It's important to note that in a healthy Dominant/submissive relationship all parties have willingly chosen that lifestyle. This actually puts the bulk of the power into the submissive's hand because without them the Dominant is just a thug, and easily dispensed with in society.
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Mar 13, 2010 @ 3:04 AM Rape fantasy?    
Luv2Laugh2


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B, I don't think something people get to that extreme with the dom/sub thing because it sounds like the thing to do. I don't think it's like being born gay or straight. I think something traumatic had to happen to her to be that extreme in the lifestyle. And I think that anyone that hardcore into the dom side has a sexual sadist gene, not to mention he/she must be very insecure about something in their life and they are trying to compensate. I don't get it and it makes me sad for the sub.
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Mar 13, 2010 @ 3:19 AM Rape fantasy?    
V_Dresden


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I don't mind Dom/Sub relationships. I don't mind roll playing. What got me was the blood. A little pain is not a bad thing and pain is relative to those involved. But drawing blood is a little too much for me.
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Mar 13, 2010 @ 2:40 PM Rape fantasy?    
B9CC1D


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Well, you'll note I said a HEALTHY relationship.

Since none of us are direct outside observers we can't be impartial judges, which means we shouldn't be applying our own personal feelings to someone's circumstances.

Are they a willing sub that is having the time of their lives? Are they someone who's just downtrodden and "trained" to say they are enjoying themselves when they really are not? Are they lying and just a teen-age frat boy that's looking to provoke a response?

My point is that until we know the truth we can neither condemn nor extol them.

On the other hand, there is good, safe, and most importantly fun practice that can be enjoyed by everyone, no matter how harsh it may look to the casual observer.

{and quickly edited here to add a post-script}

Besides, the statement is actually off-topic. If it is willful participation then it's not a rape, and if it is actually happening then it's not a fantasy.
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Mar 13, 2010 @ 2:52 PM Rape fantasy?    
Spookey_Ruben


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You have issues young_and_ready but, then again don't we all...

You are just as perverted as the rest of us and you should just admit it! Damn shame that you, apparently, don't have a profile on AMD anymore...
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Mar 14, 2010 @ 4:31 PM Rape fantasy?    
B9CC1D


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You make a good point Spookey. What if it's a male rather than a female having the fantasy?

Well, if it's a fantasy or role playing between consenting partners, then it's okay. But allowing fantasies to escalate into realities is not always a good thing, and in this case it's just horrid.

On the other hand, if the only way that you can arouse yourself is through fantasies that involve violence then you also need to see a therapist.
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Mar 14, 2010 @ 5:41 PM Rape fantasy?    
V_Dresden


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But sometimes we get the chance to make our fantasies a reality. Do you take that chance?
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Mar 14, 2010 @ 7:48 PM Rape fantasy?    
B9CC1D


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Consensually? Sure.
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Mar 14, 2010 @ 8:53 PM Rape fantasy?    
Luv2Laugh2


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I know what your thinkin' Veeeeeee!
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Mar 14, 2010 @ 10:00 PM Rape fantasy?    
V_Dresden


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You reading my mind, Luv???
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Mar 14, 2010 @ 10:34 PM Rape fantasy?    
Luv2Laugh2


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You're clear as glass, my dear!
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Mar 14, 2010 @ 10:50 PM Rape fantasy?    
V_Dresden


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Keep laughing!!! I may not the only one faced with a fantasy!!!
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Mar 14, 2010 @ 11:12 PM Rape fantasy?    
ynot7769


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*just sits n ponders*
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Mar 17, 2010 @ 7:56 AM Rape fantasy?    
azgrl2use4fun


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The Rape Fantasy should stay exactly that a fantasy, when you act out fantasies you run into the reality factor, and in addition, in a fantasy YOU are in control of what happens, when you are acting a fantasy out, you cannot control the other person, so the chances of the event, being similar or close to the actual fantasy are slim to none. Also, in a fantasy, there are all kinds of things going on in your mind that when you try to play them out, do not work too well, like conversations, and timing on certian things. Once you try to play out a fantasy and it is a dissapointment for whatever reason, the fantasy is gone, it is hard to recreate it in your mind. So I have found it is best to leave fantasies as fantasies, and to be creative in the bedroom (or anywhere) for the excitement etc. Oh, and I am not trying to bring any body down, I myself have a rape fantasy, but that doesn't mean I want to get raped and therin lies the difference.
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Mar 17, 2010 @ 10:42 PM Rape fantasy?    
B9CC1D


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An excellent point, azgrl...

How many people have fantasized about something other than rape only to have it be a letdown?

It doesn't have to be a violent thing. It's possible to be let down over a fantasy as simple as having a cheeseburger.
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Mar 18, 2010 @ 12:08 AM Rape fantasy?    
azgrl2use4fun


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exactly...... that is why it is best to leave a fantasy as a fantasy,I have found, once acted out a fantasy is obviously no longer a fantasy but an action.
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Mar 19, 2010 @ 7:00 PM Rape fantasy?    
B9CC1D


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Well, in that regard I would have to ask if it was ever a "fantasy" or if instead it was a "desire".

Technically, we are not just arguing semantics here. But then, it would be fairy easy for someone who "doesn't know what they want" to confuse someone, or for someone who "only hears what they want" to be confused.

That's why communication is vitally important.

You may frequently hear women who say "I have had a rape fantasy."

You will much more rarely hear a woman say "I desire to be raped."
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