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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 12:21 PM |
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winterrenegade
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Here are the 14 biggest online dating mistakes women make:
1. Stop posting four different photos from four different stages in your life. This leaves a man wondering, "Who is this person?" I've looked through thousands of online profiles, and the majority of women will put up pictures from different stages of their life but not put up current pictures. All photos that you post on an online dating profile MUST BE CURRENT!!! He's going to find out what you look like when you meet, and there is no reason to lie about your looks.
2. Don't list your dislikes about Internet dating in bold, capital letters at the beginning of your profile. We've all had negative experiences online. Emphasize your positive points, not your negative ones.
3. List your exact body type. It seems like on the Internet EVERYBODY is "athletic and toned," "petite" or "fit and trim."
He will find out what you look like!
He will find out what you look like! You might as well tell the truth in your profile, so you'll have a qualified lead and not waste somebody's time.
4. List your real age. In the world of Internet dating, it seems like there's an abundance of 29- and 39-year-old women. "29" usually means somewhere in your 30's. And a woman who is "39" is usually in her 40's. Why start a potential relationship on a lie? Men are guilty of the same thing, and I advise them the same way.
5. I'm really glad you had a great time on your vacation, but you don't need to post 10 photos of your trip to Italy WITHOUT you in them. This is a dating site, not a trip advisor. Also, stop posting pictures of you skydiving, winter skiing, waterskiing, or doing anything else where we can't see what you look like in the picture.
6. Keep your profile short and to the point. Make your paragraphs very short. I've seen too many women's profiles that look like romance novels. Take a look at Yahoo! Sports and read an article in the sports section.
All paragraphs are short so men can digest that information in short bursts.
All paragraphs are short so men can digest that information in short bursts.
7. Don't be so self-absorbed. I've seen many women's profiles that say, "I want a man to be this," "I want a man to do that," "I want a man to cherish me," "I want a man to adore me"... You list all your "I wants" without listing what YOU will bring to the relationship. So you end up looking like you're a taker and not a giver. No man wants to be with a taker; he wants to be with someone who's equally willing to give and to receive.
8. Don't list your financial desires like you're posting a want ad. I've seen too many women write, "I'm looking for a man who will spoil me, buy me great things, and take me on great trips." You come across as a gold digger. Instead say, "I like the finer things in life to share with somebody," so you don't come across so harsh.
9. No baby talk! Even if the number one priority in your life is to be a mother, nothing scares a man off more than if you write in your profile about how badly you want kids. He may feel the same way, but he is going to think, "This woman will marry anybody to have kids." Write something a little more toned down like, "Families are important to me, and I can't wait to meet my special man so I can start a family." This shows you're selective and not just looking for someone with whom to make a kid.
10. Stop listing all your rules. Don't write things like "A perfect first date MUST be dinner" or "The man I date HAS to wear suits." Women tend to list rules in their profiles. Be open to a different kind of first date, or the kind of guy who wears jeans to work.
11. Stop sending winks. When is the last time you went to the supermarket, saw a cute guy and winked at him? Winks went out of style when "Happy Days" went off the air. You don't like it when men send you a wink. You think it makes him seem lazy and like he didn't read your profile. We think the same thing! So stop winking and start typing.
12. If you write to a man and he doesn't write you back, don't write a nasty follow-up email and ask him why he didn't write you back. If a man doesn't respond to you, it's the same thing as when you don't write a man back. It means that he is not interested. Don't get angry, just find another person.
13. We know you're looking at us, because we see that you've viewed our profile every day. Say "hello!" We're not going to bite. Lob that email in.
Take a chance and send an email to the guy to whom you're most attracted.
Take a chance and send an email to the guy to whom you're most attracted. You never know what might happen!
14. If a guy who you're interested in writes to you, stop playing games and write him back right away. Don't make him wait four days. He may find someone else in the time you wait to write him back. Keep the momentum going!
I have found when online dating that if you're honest about who you are, and you get back to people immediately, you'll get the date faster and avoid all the back and forth games that go on. Now go change that profile!
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 4:28 PM |
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In_a_Frenzy
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Winter - Men are just as guilty of having embellished profiles.......not just women. Yes, I noticed that you pointed that out but only on a few points.
All photos that you post on an online dating profile MUST BE CURRENT!!!
Nothing worse than finally meeting someone that no way resembles the photo (happened to me - and i told him off and left him at the restaurant)
Don't list your dislikes about Internet dating in bold, capital letters at the beginning of your profile. We've all had negative experiences online. Emphasize your positive points, not your negative ones. Please don't describe some ex that you're clearly not over.
3. List your exact body type. It seems like on the Internet EVERYBODY is "athletic and toned," "petite" or "fit and trim."
He will find out what you look like!
He will find out what you look like! You might as well tell the truth in your profile, so you'll have a qualified lead and not waste somebody's time.
SHE will find out too.........so if you're a few extra pounds - just say so - believe it or not - some women don't mind the little extra!
List your real age Think about this - if you say you're younger - then you're probably gonna look really bad for the age you claim to be. Not that lying about your age is acceptable - but if you say you're older than you are - then you will look like you've aged nicely.
#5........as long as there are other pics.......I have no problem with the action shots
Keep your profile short and to the point yes - we know you men can't handle reading much more than a sentence or two - although you did write a lengthy post - but i guess you know that mostly women will be the ones to read it
Don't be so self-absorbed same goes for men........but for men who describe what they want........it usually describes the opposite of some ex they're not over........see #2
Don't list your financial desires like you're posting a want ad I have to disagree with you there Winter......all your other points you want pure honesty.......so why not on this point? why do you want a woman to sugar-coat that she wants a sugar-daddy?
No baby talk ok - i haven't read women's profiles.......but especially on this site......making babies doesn't seem to be the angle.........but i guess it's on the backburner for most women
Stop listing all your rules again.....men are just as guilty - and again - it's usually cos of some ex they're not over
Stop sending winks Ditto.......and if you're gonna send an email.........please write something more than "i noticed you live 5 miles from me......wanna hook up?" Unless it's cos you walk or ride your bike everywhere - is that you're only criteria??? mileage??? and no pics of your junk..........huge turn off guys.......i delete and sometimes will just block ya.
If you write to a man and he doesn't write you back no nasty notes for non-responses.......exactly - the person is just not interested - it happens - move on
We know you're looking at us Winter - a look doesn't mean interest....sometimes a look is just a look.......nothing more. maybe once a profile is viewed there is no interest. (I don't have a gold membership to know who's looked..........but like the winks.......i wouldn't pay attention anyways)
If a guy who you're interested in writes to you, stop playing games and write him back right away i will say this........and it's not a blanket statement for everyone......in my experience, i find that men will email practically everyone in hopes of a few responses.........women tend to be more selective. writing back quickly is not always an option.......sometimes i check emails late at night and i'm tired.....writing back when i cannot gather coherent thoughts - not gonna happen - so i'll wait (you only get one chance to make a first impression)
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 10:00 PM |
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winterrenegade
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You make a good point frenzy, I saw this and thought I would post it, I am glad you didn't take it wrong and understood that I was talking about both sexes
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 10:08 PM |
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In_a_Frenzy
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no worries Winter. I suspect the length of the posts is scaring some folks away - no one reads anymore.....lol
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| Nov 4, 2007 @ 10:12 PM |
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winterrenegade
Posts: 1,520
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Your'e right, no I does read any more, they just look at pics, act like cave people and say *look dick or pussy, I want*...... 
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| Nov 5, 2007 @ 6:07 AM |
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Sylvan69
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The only time I'll read a very long and detailed profile is after there has been some on-line interaction and there seems to be mutual interest. I'll read it out of courtesy. Otherwise, profiles are best left short and to the point.
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 9:02 AM |
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Pcolalady52
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Well I have gone back and looked at mine and made some changes...
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 7:56 PM |
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In_a_Frenzy
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One more thing that I personally don't like when it comes to pictures..........and it's not allowed on this site...........children in your pics...........with all the psychos out there, why subject your children to any potential nut case? share those pics privately with someone you trust.............just my $.02.
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 10:23 PM |
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sweetsuz
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i have to agree with all points made..........and will add........if i ONLY wanted dick pics, i would look at porn stars
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| Nov 6, 2007 @ 10:34 PM |
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loveableone
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Great post!! SO many people need to read this, but alas, the ones that need to the most, probably wont!!! Thanks for sharing this!! 
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| Nov 7, 2007 @ 12:42 AM |
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SoccerBoyII
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AMEN sister!! This needs to be in poster size for both sexes.
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| Nov 8, 2007 @ 8:16 PM |
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regularguy354
Posts: 398
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What Frenzy said, and it applies to guys too.
Also, we guys should not be standing in front of that Rolls unless we actually own it.
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| Nov 8, 2007 @ 8:18 PM |
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In_a_Frenzy
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| Nov 8, 2007 @ 8:22 PM |
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MamMan
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Cheers to ya, Frenzy.... 
You made some very good points....
These should part of the bylaws....
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| Nov 8, 2007 @ 8:29 PM |
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In_a_Frenzy
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i only speak the truth MM 
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| Nov 8, 2007 @ 8:32 PM |
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MamMan
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And, I can admire that about you.....   
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| Nov 8, 2007 @ 9:52 PM |
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In_a_Frenzy
Posts: 512
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just don't forget to credit Winter.......he started it all
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| Nov 8, 2007 @ 11:00 PM |
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MamMan
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WAY to GO WINTER!!!!!!  
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| Nov 9, 2007 @ 7:57 PM |
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winterrenegade
Posts: 1,520
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Thank you ladies 
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| Nov 9, 2007 @ 9:22 PM |
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In_a_Frenzy
Posts: 512
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I was thinking..........stating the need for a current photo.............how do you all define "current"? what's the cutoff for current? a month? 3 months? 6 months? a year? a week? what are your thoughts to define "current"?
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