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Jul 28, 2006 @ 3:28 AM Lonely and scared    
Dominus


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Well, maybe it's the fact that it's the doms that have the computers, or maybe it's that the subs just feel too timid to speak up.

Or maybe it's just that people don't take the time to explore what they want.

It strikes me that one thing is common here: for all of the people that claim that they are lonely on this site, they seem to be too scared to do anything about it. Too scared to actually try to meet a person face-to-face (let alone a phone call). Too scared to be honest about themselves. Too scared to find out anything that's more than what they need to get by.

Seems awfully fucking counter-productive to me.
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Oct 15, 2006 @ 10:27 PM Lonely and scared    
Love2Laughalot


Posts: 164
Or they fail to show up at the designated meeting place and say afterwards oh an emergency came up, or they tell you how much they want to meet you but never agree to a time or place or they are just on here playing games and thats what i think alot of ppl are doing i guess they dont know there are sites for game playing like pogo for instance.
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 12:39 PM Lonely and scared    
Dominus


Posts: 511
Well, that's a bane of humanity. On the Internet or off.

Sometimes I just wish there was a sign that people would wear around their necks that told you all of the stuff that they are hiding so that it doesn't fuck things up later.

It might take some of the fun out of dating, but it sure would save a lot of effort.
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Oct 16, 2006 @ 5:25 PM Lonely and scared    
Love2Laughalot


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Thats why i believe in honesty 100 percent of the time. First of all if you lie you better remember it cause it may come back to haunt you. Second of all its better to be straight right away even if it means your going to lose thier interest cause once they find out the truth they are gone anyways and most of all i am honest with myself and i cants do that if im not honest with everyone else. LIes hurt ppl even innocent ones, i am usually lied to about someones age. I usually forgive the first lie but never the second. I also believe in the idea of "thanks but no thanks" without taking it personal. Not everyone is attracted to everybody so why take it personal What i grow tired of is the men who say they want to meet and all they are really interested in is phone sex or cybering. Hell they must think they are original with that if that was what i wanted i know enough men that i like and get along well enough with to do that everyday. Its not what i want and they take an attitude when you say thanks no thanks. But i also believe there are alot of women who do the same thing. Sad isnt it. But that is life and i still think that internet dating is a whole new way of getting to meet someone. When you dont do the bar scene and your not one to hang out at sporting events you are limited in this area to find someone you want to spend time with Good Luck with your search
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Oct 18, 2006 @ 8:04 PM Lonely and scared    
birdman67


Posts: 155
You do realize that you're on the "Adult Matchdoctor" website, right? It says, "100% free sex and swingers personals"... If you're looking for a relationship and not just sex, then try another site.

( don't get me wrong, I don't want to sound cold and unfeeling for your situation, but don't complain that you can't find any beef in a fruit market, ya know? )

But I do agree with you on several points. People in general can be quite unfeeling, rude, and obnoxious. Being truthful with one another seems to be a lost art.. Anymore, I hate even leaving my house, because the ugliness begins in traffic, where MANY people seem to think it's their right to act like jerks.

Just don't give up though, there has to be a decent person out there for you.
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Oct 18, 2006 @ 9:51 PM Lonely and scared    
Love2Laughalot


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birdman are you stalking me LOL im just joking hey if something i said offended you my apologies i have an opinion and i stated it just like you did yours your opinion and right to speak it is just as important as my right. As for ppl being truthful i doubt thats a possibility in our way of life in this day and age. I dont want to hurt anyone but mostly i dont want me hurt. Thats why i updated my profile and said i was no longer interested in meeting someone. Just isnt worth the hassle and if someone is meant to come along in my life it will happen whether im online or not but i do get a kick out of the forums OOPS someone else who bops around here when bored LOL
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Oct 20, 2006 @ 5:52 PM Lonely and scared    
lillin


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hmmm...maybe i am dum, but cant an adult site be a place to find an adult RELATIONSHIP, and not just sex?
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Oct 21, 2006 @ 12:52 AM Lonely and scared    
Love2Laughalot


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well i guess that would depend on what you write in your profile. but lets face it most ppl (men and women, generally speaking of course) dont read the profile anyways.
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Oct 21, 2006 @ 11:10 AM Lonely and scared    
lillin


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how true!!!
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Oct 21, 2006 @ 12:17 PM Lonely and scared    
Love2Laughalot


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birdman just doesnt understand for women (and some men) there has to be some other connection some feeling for the other person to make the sex really hot. but than again for some that connection doesnt have to be there. I think its all in personal choice. But i do believe that everyone has a right to be on here and if stated in thier profile what they are looking for that they should be treated with respect and ppl shouldnt message them to try to talk them into something that they are not looking for. They also shouldnt message you or write in forums that if you are not just looking for sex go to regular matchdoctor because first of all you have as much right here as anyone else and second of all there are alot of ppl on here who are not just looking to have sex. Good luck in your search.
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Oct 22, 2006 @ 3:41 PM Lonely and scared    
birdman67


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I make one obvious statement, and suddenly, " I don't understand" ?? You don't me from Adam..

I fully understand and appreciate the strength of a relationship and the value it gives a good sex life.. cripes..

Ah, nevermind.. I don't have the energy..
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Oct 22, 2006 @ 5:10 PM Lonely and scared    
Love2Laughalot


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You do realize that you're on the "Adult Matchdoctor" website, right? It says, "100% free sex and swingers personals"... If you're looking for a relationship and not just sex, then try another site.

( don't get me wrong, I don't want to sound cold and unfeeling for your situation, but don't complain that you can't find any beef in a fruit market, ya know? )


HEy birdman i just meant that you thought we should go to another site if we were looking for more than sex. That you didnt think someone could find a relationship on here. Didnt mean to offend you!!! Your not the only one that feels that way. I have been told more than once i should go to regular matchdoctor like i cant be here because what i am looking for might be a little different than what the site calls for. Its ok if your on a man and you say your looking for LTR and you email someone asking them if they want to fuck. I would say a bit dishonest. We shouldnt be told we belong somewhere else just for being honest.

Hope you get your energy back debating you makes my date LOL
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Oct 22, 2006 @ 5:12 PM Lonely and scared    
Love2Laughalot


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see what i mean now i want a relationship with you lol i meant debating you makes my day not my date.
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Oct 23, 2006 @ 6:23 PM Lonely and scared    
birdman67


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Yea, anything so long as we get off this tired subject... whew...

I think it's been beaten to death..

Anyhoo, yea, I was really whipped the other day. I guess you could call it a damn sleep dysfunction.. My goddamn body has this really annoying habit of waking me up at the same damn time every morning.. 5:30 am..

Now, this is nice, say, on Monday through Friday mornings as I don't even need an alarm clock, but it's a major pain in the ass when you've been out partying till like 2:30 in the morning, don't get in bed till 3am, and then you're wide awake no more than 2 1/2 hours later.. Now with a headache because you didn't get enough sleep.. ( and no it wasn't due to a hangover )..

UGhghghggh. .what a pain.. So I dealt with that all Sunday.. ( the reason why I didn't have any energy, patience, or joy..)

AT least I did get some work done around the house though, so it wasn't a total loss..

But this week I focus on getting more stuff done. I think I'm also going to pass on teaching part time, as I have far too much at home to do..

So what keeps you busy??
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Oct 24, 2006 @ 9:23 PM Lonely and scared    
Love2Laughalot


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right now birdman the only thing keeping me busy is staying out of trouble LOL actually right now im working part time as i took time off from school this quarter i have an associate degree in accounting and paramedics and dont work as either im working on two computer degrees now. I actually spend alot of time volunteering to work with teenagers with drug and alcohol problems. The ones who really want help are such a joy to be around.

Where as your life is chaotic mine isnt for the first time in my life i am in limbo and im not sure how to shake that?

I understand your problem with sleeping i spent 5 yrs sleeping only an hour and a hal a night and to this day i dont sleep more than that at one time. drains the energy sometimes.
hope your day was a good one.
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Oct 27, 2006 @ 10:40 PM Lonely and scared    
birdman67


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Hehehe.. I had to laugh reading your post.. as well, you're path seems so similar to mine..

I went gung ho in school, got a degree in engineering, and wasn't happy with that. Then went back to school for business, and ended up with a Master's and well, so far I'm stalled.. But work is steady as a rock and paying pretty well. So I'm happy with that anyway. The marriage (besides the sex) is cool. We don't fight, as we have nothing to fight about.. Just so damn much to do in the new house..

But yea, I know what you mean about "being in limbo". I had some ideas on how my life with schooling and work was going to go. And well, it was heading pretty nicely in that direction. Then I hit a big huge bump, lost my job.. took another one in desperation, that I knew I was wrong for.. and that one turned out to be a real lame job... parted company after only 6 weeks.. So yea, I know what you mean about feeling like you're in limbo.

But now the new job is real steady and I'm happy with it for now.. Will keep looking to move up though, as I don't like to stagnate..

Good luck with your situation though, as being in limbo can get to you. The feeling of not being in control made me a bit crazy.. Thankfully, opportunity came knocking..
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Oct 28, 2006 @ 5:10 PM Lonely and scared    
allforyou999


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It Adultmatchdoctor ! If you are not looking for sex go to - Matchdoctor.
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Oct 28, 2006 @ 5:11 PM Lonely and scared    
allforyou999


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Oct 28, 2006 @ 5:12 PM Lonely and scared    
allforyou999


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f we all fucked each other without all of the emotional intimacy that comes with it, we’d probably be a more relaxed society also. I know I get pretty tense when I haven’t been with a woman in awhile. Yes, I can masturbate to release that tension, but as anyone will tell you, it’s just not the same. I’m a pretty relaxed guy by nature, but sometimes that tension builds and even I can get a little snappy and tense. If we were all having sex regularly, we’d all be a lot happier. The fact of the matter is that sex is an emotionally intimate act. That’s fine. I think it should be. I think it should be an intense positive exchange physically, emotionally and spiritually. When that exchange is over, however, that intensity doesn’t necessarily continue to exist. Why can’t sex be like a good, pleasurable game? At the end of the game, both sides have played well and reached a satisfactory conclusion. The players shake hands (kiss?) and call it a day. Maybe it is more like theater. Two actors enter the stage of the bedroom and take on their roles. They go through a series of acts which eventually results in the climax of the plot, the resolution, and then the curtain falls. After the play, the actors put on their street clothes and continue their normal lives. Honestly, I think I’ve just stumbled upon the crux of the problem: men are virtually guaranteed a “good game;” one where they feel satisfied. Women, on the other hand, are usually disappointed with the “game.” Often, the man only cares about his own pleasure and doesn’t think about the equal exchange of energy. The woman simply isn’t satisfied. What a mess. The question then becomes, how do I, as a man, assure the woman that I will be generous during the sexual game?
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Oct 28, 2006 @ 5:21 PM Lonely and scared    
Love2Laughalot


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It Adultmatchdoctor ! If you are not looking for sex go to - Matchdoctor

allforu999--this is america and we can be where we want to be. Say what we want to say on an open forum as long as we dont attack each other. Maybe the problem with these sites is that this site is where people want to be and do what the site is for but maybe when ppl play games with them they just get tired of looking for "Real" people cause they are not smart enough to seperate the "real" people from the "real: Players (losers!!)
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