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Nov 4, 2006 @ 8:57 PM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
birdman67


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Alright.. I guess I have to ask this, for my own curiosity.. The age old debate, "does size matter".. As a guy growing up in America, where image is everything, and guys are led to believe that dick size is of the utmost importance, I'd like to know where YOU stand on the issue..

Now, to be brutally honest.. I'm a guy, 5'6" to 5'7" tall.. and well, I'd say I'm small in the pants.. 4 to 5 inches on a really good day.. Now, if I tally up all the girls and women I've been with ( and before you gripe, when *I* was under 18, I had sex with other girls my age ).... anyway, if I add up all of the females that I've been with, I'd say that of the 12 or so, only 2 could not be satisfied by my hardware..

However, the fact that I was smart enough to realize that my size may be an issue in my early years, I learned to hone some mad skills both orally and digitally. The woman I am with now, whom I can bring to orgasm at least 5 times a night, says that she's more than satisfied with what I can give her ( size wise ). And that's taking into consideration that she's quite well shielded ( clitoris ).

The only two women I couldn't satisfy were way out of my league.. I couldn't get them there with anything I had.. really kicks the hell out of the ego..

So I guess if I had a "batting average", I'd be batting .833 not too shabby.. But how do the rest of you ladies judge your men? And guys, what's your take on this??

Just curious..
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Nov 4, 2006 @ 11:00 PM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
Dominus


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Even the Kama Sutra (The Burton translation) and the Perfumed Garden of Cheikh Nefzaoui bring up this topic, and those documents are centuries old. However, the things they stated actually parellel things revealed by modern sex scientists (like Johnson, Segal, Westenheimer, et al.) on many instances.

So let me paraphrase what I can, from the "Rabbit and Doe" texts of the Sutras to the dry pages of the Masters and Johnson research:

The penis is flesh, and therefore to some degree even when erect it can compress. The vagina is flesh, and therefore it can to some degree contract and stretch. Most people are sexually compatable with others on a purely physical level. Experts guage it at about 92% or higher, which would support the figures you gave, birdman.

When I asked Segal "what about the other 8%", his response was that if they have issues on a physical level, they work it out.

In other words, sexual satisfaction is almost always mental in it's basis. Just the same as any other relationship element. Some people might kid themselves, but look at it this way:

One friend of mine, after a severe car accident, lost the use of his penis. He and his wife, however, claimed to still be fully sexually active, and very content in that department. If the love is there, you make it work.

In summary, it's extraordinarilly rare that people don't physically "fit". That she's small while he's big or vice versa. If there's a good relationship, then they figure out what to do about it and enjoy themselves anyway. If there's a complaint about "satisfaction" then it's really more a psychological problem than anything else.
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Nov 5, 2006 @ 8:14 AM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
birdman67


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Man, you're killng me.. If I wanted text, I could have put the place to sleep with reams of it..

I was looking for your experience.. I wanna know how you roll, heck, especially you. As I'm sure you have some really good experience and input on the subject.

And Masters and Johnson?? old school baby...

( I'm just playing with ya.. but I was going to die if you mentioned Dr. Ruth ). Hehehehe... I still remember Sam Kinnison talking about her in his standup.. great stuff..

So please, put the books down man, and expell from the heart !!
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Nov 5, 2006 @ 10:44 AM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
kfinz


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Birdman, size, in my opinion, really doesn't matter. Confidence in yourself and understanding what your partner needs are what matters. Doesn't matter what you have if you don't know how to use it there won't be much satisfaction for either person.

And it's too bad that guys are led to believe that their dick size is of the utmost importance. I believe that being aware of each other's needs and wants is more important than size any day. Every person is different and everyone is satisfied in their own ways. But, that's just my opinion and experience.
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Nov 5, 2006 @ 2:36 PM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
birdman67


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I hear ya.. I also think that most women worry too much in the same way, about breast size.. Granted, some guys like big.. but I like a small breast.. But I agree with you. That's why I've always focused solidly on my partner, watching, and listening for ques, and then I remember what she likes and keep improving.

While I do enjoy sex, I get an equal if not more enjoyment out of pleasing my partner.

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Nov 6, 2006 @ 12:17 AM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
kfinz


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Birdman, I knew you were a decent guy.
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Nov 6, 2006 @ 12:24 AM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
Dominus


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I've been told I'm a good size. Not small, not big. A nice, generous average. I wouldn't have it any other way. I can't tell you the number of girls I have been with that I've gotten to intoroduce to new things. Anal or oral techniques that just wouldn't work if I was bigger. To be able to see them wide-eyed with surprise afterward when they have enjoyed something new.
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Nov 6, 2006 @ 8:13 PM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
birdman67


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Well, I wouldn't mind sporting a little more, but then, I guess when you're on the lower end of normal, that's to be expected. It is nice to no longer be hung up by such shit though.. Not that it bugged me too much in high school and college. While other guys were posturing and talking a good game, I was out getting laid, enjoying myself, and gaining experience and maturity..
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Nov 11, 2006 @ 3:49 PM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
Love2Laughalot


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i agree with kfinz about size really doesnt matter. well actually if i am going to do oral on him i would perfer it be average or smaller. And someday birdman, i might even tell you why LOL but i think different positions make up for the lack of size if that is a problem with your partner. But im not that picky as long as i like the person im with and we are sexually attracted to each other and there is some kind of bond between us. And i agree a man who has confidence will make a better lover any day than the man who has a 8 or 9" penis.
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Nov 12, 2006 @ 6:50 AM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
birdman67


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ya know.. you made a point that I didn't really realize till now.. different positions do make a difference. With my last two lovers, I have noticed that one position in particular is a real pleaser no matter the size.. It's the sideways position ( for lack of a "proper" name..)
I've gotten plenty of "OOhhh!" when I move to this position and it's funny how none of my lovers have had this position before.

I like it as well, for numerous reasons.. ( feel, view, exposure...)

Anyway, thanks for waking me up to something so obvious.. ( you REALLY do learn something new every day..)
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Nov 12, 2006 @ 7:15 PM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
Dominus


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Like I mentioned before, Sir Richard Francis Burton was the first to translate the Kama Sutra (as well as many other books from the middle east.) While he isn't always completely accurate and he seems on occasion to insert his own views (he was definitely a western misogynist) the translations that he made are among the most complete ever.

The Kama Sutra, as translated by him, gives advice on the various sizes of women and men and suggests several positions that help change the feeling of intercourse positively for size differences.

On the other hand, I do NOT reccomend any of the books "penis enlargement" techniques for they often involve items that could be considered poisonous.

Good luck on your quest.
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Nov 13, 2006 @ 6:02 AM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
birdman67


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quest? nah.. just more of a curiosity.. At 38, I'm content with what I have, and am in no way considering any "alterations".
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Nov 13, 2006 @ 8:45 AM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
almostinnocent494


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To me..size matters !! Absolutely !! THe whole story about" its not the size that matters,but how u use it " Nah...wrong....i like my man to be decent sized..around 6-7 AT LEAST...and i like girth...
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Nov 13, 2006 @ 8:37 PM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
Love2Laughalot


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To me..size matters !! Absolutely !! THe whole story about" its not the size that matters,but how u use it " Nah...wrong....i like my man to be decent sized..around 6-7 AT LEAST...and i like girth...

Well i guess birdman its individual choice. Some of my best lovers were not only smaller there but the most adventous to try new things that might please me. I would hate to think i wouldnt enjoy a really hot time just because he didnt "hang" with the big boys. lol
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Nov 14, 2006 @ 9:23 AM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
birdman67


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Yea, now that you mention it, I've realized something too: Of the handful of guy friends that I've known who have been large, none of them really gave a shit about the women they were with. To be more specific, their only focus was to get off, and the only way they saw to give pleasure to their woman was with their size.

I always thought it was more than a bit selfish that many of them wouldn't give oral pleasure, but always expected to receive it. Granted, being friends with them and their women, I never heard any complaints about their size, but I did sense that some of the women got bored.. or at least, weren't completely satisfied.

Now don't get me wrong, I'm sure that there are plenty of guys out there that are fully appreciative of their woman and are more than willing to satisy them in many ways, but I just find it odd that the fact that the guys I've met who have been born with more than a fair share of endowment, get stuck on the size alone.

To me, sex is so much more fun when you explore, just like you mentioned L2L. The joy is in experiencing your partner in every way; trusting, giving, and loving.
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Nov 14, 2006 @ 2:33 PM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
almostinnocent494


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Alright..i guess i opened a can of worms here..lol...I agree..sex,making love..whatever you might wanna call it has alot more to it, then just the size of a men's penis. And of course a woman can be pleasured in numerous ways besides actual penetration. I for instance,love recieving and giving oral, i dont have to have sex to be satisfied. But the question was about the size and what do women prefer, therefore,i put in my 2 cents and now it seems like im "aweful" for saying size does matter "to me". Im not speaking for all woman of course..how could i.Everybody has different needs. I did not say i cant be satisfied by a small member. And from experience with the larger size...it is so not true that this particular guy just thought about himself. He satisfied me more then enough in more then one way,and not just with his penis.
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Nov 14, 2006 @ 11:57 PM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
Love2Laughalot


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and now it seems like im "aweful" for saying size does matter "to me
I apologize almostinnocent if I was putting you down that wasnt my intentions at all. I agree that all women have different ideas of what they like and what they dont like, THank god. it would be awful if we all liked the same kinds of things not enough to go around. My only point was for me size doesnt matter. but i certainly wasnt putting you down for saying to you it did, This is an open forum and you have as much right to feel and say what you want as I or anyone else does. But im sorry if i offended you that was never my intentions.
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Nov 15, 2006 @ 1:47 AM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
Dominus


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Well, in my experience, women seem to view men in a "package deal" perspective. While men can fixate on one aspect in their lover (e.g., "Man, she has huge tits!") women tend to look at the overall balance of what they're getting.

So many qualities enter into this. Is their partner artistic? Gentle? Strong? Intelligent? Do they have a huge penis or a small one? Do they dress well? Are they kind? There are so many elements it would be impossible to list them all.

Then the woman decides if she can put up with the negative stuff in light of the positive. Maybe her lover does have a 2 inch penis, but he compensates by having lots of money and knowing oral sex secrets that make other guys jealous. Maybe he is a bit dumb, but he's kind and good with kids, and he can make love for hours with that massive bulldozer of a cock. I even had a friend once who confided in me that sex with one lover she was seeing was just awful, but she felt there was so much more positive in the relationship she was willing to overlook that.

Different things are important to different people. I'm sure Paris Hilton is turned on as much by a man's IQ as Emma Thompson is turned on by bravado. So the short version? A guy with a small penis is okay, provided he has something else to offer, but a guy with a big penis isn't going to hold on to a woman if that's all he's bringing into the relationship.

Unless she's a size queen, but that's a whole other can of worms.
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Nov 15, 2006 @ 8:49 AM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
almostinnocent494


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and he can make love for hours with that massive bulldozer of a cock.

NOw thats funny....

L2L...nah u didnt offend me....takes alot for ppl to do that or to get me mad..
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Nov 15, 2006 @ 1:30 PM Ok.. Big question time !!!    
Dominus


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Hey, like you pointed out, to some people size is very important. There are size queens out there that don't even go for men anymore because they can't satisfy them the way a really big dildo does...think I'm kidding? Google "bigsextoystore.com" or "Amazing Ty".
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