I read the question twice . he did ask in the form of bedroom not self . thats what I took from this anyhow.Besides it would only confuse some .
based on how i read it and took it...seems the POSTER didnt suggest a bedroom sub/dom so its about their nature..and your right PT most were totaly confused...or they'd not have left some of the answers they left...
hmmm i think i'll just wake up today n be a slave NOT