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Feb 20, 2008 @ 1:35 PM Interesting prespective    
Guiltless


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I just read a book that sid something simple and yet profound, wanted to hear your opinions on it:

Love is NEVER a Game
Sex is ALWAYS a game.

This was also, a part of a 57 Question survey given to men regarding how satisfied they were with thier partners sexually, and from this survey they deduced that Men are far more apt to Cheat in a relationship, where the sexual aspects have become stale or stagnant, regardless of thier feelings or attachments to thier signifigant other. Very revealing.
Your comments?
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Feb 20, 2008 @ 1:45 PM Interesting prespective    
asleepatthewheel


Posts: 6
Sex is definitely always a game. Does she like this? Does he want me to do that? Is she faking it? Will he be mad if I say no to this? it's true.
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Feb 20, 2008 @ 5:46 PM Interesting prespective    
lolthisistoofunny


Posts: 511
(Some) men (and women) will cheat regardless of how good they have it at home. It's not atypical for people who are guilty of cheating, etc., to blame someone else for their bad behavior, though. The reason people cheat is simple. It's because they lack the integrity and conscience to remain faithful.
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Feb 21, 2008 @ 5:45 PM Interesting prespective    
sumdaysoon


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i don't know whether i believe men are more apt to cheat.........i do believe they are more apt to be caught or admit to it..........we just ain't as smart or sneaky as da women.......
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Feb 21, 2008 @ 6:06 PM Interesting prespective    
lolthisistoofunny


Posts: 511
Well, I don't have figures right offhand to back me up, but it is my personal belief that, because of the general (yet baffling and oddly idiotic) societal attitude that "boys will be boys " (that we're somehow supposed to overlook the fact that he cheats because, after all, he has a PENIS and, as such, means he HAS to have sex, sex and more sex..that sex is all he thinks about, 24/7 and that, moreover, not only does he have to have sex ...and lots of it! ...but he has to have sex with as many females as he possibly can, presumably to ensure procreation of the species, specifically his DNA, although, if told by any one of those "conquests" that he's about to be a "baby daddy," he will run so fast that one of those cartoon balloons will form above his head bearing the words, "Yikes! I'd better get the hell outta here!") ...so I believe that, in general, society "accepts" the fact that men are "supposed to be" allowed to cheat because it is "genetically ingrained" in them to do so. Even many of us us who scream loudly in protest (myself included) have been guilty at least once of "letting them get away with it." Why? Because we, for some reason completely unbeknownst to me, convince ourselves that we actually NEED a scumbag like that in our lives.

Yes, there are women who cheat, of course...but I do believe, by and large, that many men cheat for cheating's sake itself, and that, usually, women cheat because there is "something wrong" in the relationship. Of course there are exceptions either way.
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Feb 21, 2008 @ 6:07 PM Interesting prespective    
Guiltless


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I guess I was really more interested in why men cheat. Some say its genetics. Others have strong opinions on moral convictions, or integrity.
According to the survey a very HIGH precentage of married men have at least thought about cheating.
What does that say for the institution of marriage?
Why do men cheat? Somethings missing either within themselves or in thier relationships.
Who are these men cheating with? would you believe there are a fair amount of MARRIED females who are willing. Again somethings missing.
Some would seem to be more forgiving if the female is caught, but I would think the blame should be shared equally.

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Feb 21, 2008 @ 6:21 PM Interesting prespective    
lolthisistoofunny


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I agree. Cheating is cheating, no matter what gender is guilty of it.

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Mar 11, 2008 @ 3:57 PM Interesting prespective    
lunanegra


Posts: 1,478
Why do men cheat?

Why does a dog lick itself,because it can! To quote Blanche Devereux...not mines.Yeah,I watch Golden Girls..big woop,wanna fight about it?
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Mar 11, 2008 @ 4:16 PM Interesting prespective    
lemondrop


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Women cheat just as much as men but I do think that women feel guiltier, they do it all the same though.
In all fairness in Irish society if a woman cheats she is viewed as a skank whereas if a man does it's normally viewed as a silly mistake.
In my opinion, it is much too black and white to say people cheat because they don't have the integrity to remain faithful, everything is subjective to situation.
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Mar 11, 2008 @ 9:43 PM Interesting prespective    
shellsmack


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The reason people cheat is simple. It's because they lack the integrity and conscience to remain faithful.

You said it right!

not only does he have to have sex ...and lots of it! ...but he has to have sex with as many females as he possibly can

I've never met a man who actually WANTS sex as much as I do, so I have to say men are all talk.

would you believe there are a fair amount of MARRIED females who are willing.

And why is that? Because there is no fear or need for a "connection"...it's just pure wild.

Both genders have their cheaters. But I feel it comes down to what has been instilled in your heart about right and wrong. So do what you will, but remember, one day you too will have to pay!

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Mar 12, 2008 @ 9:42 AM Interesting prespective    
Hammer88


Posts: 378
I've never met a man who actually WANTS sex as much as I do, so I have to say men are all talk.shells thoes are fighting words I DO
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Mar 12, 2008 @ 9:53 AM Interesting prespective    
young_and_ready


Posts: 76
it took both of us to get me pregnant but when I was 7 months pregnat and not so attractive to him he went looking. I hope he has a nice life. I won't be in it though
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Mar 12, 2008 @ 11:54 AM Interesting prespective    
lemondrop


Posts: 3
I agree with shell, karma is a bitch. I have learned that the hard way.
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Mar 12, 2008 @ 12:39 PM Interesting prespective    
shellsmack


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yeah LEMON...i love it when the "10-fold" comes around.
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Mar 12, 2008 @ 7:42 PM Interesting prespective    
nawtikitty


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guess I was really more interested in why men cheat

I have a feeling I'm gonna stir up a whole pile of "are you out of your MIND" comments by this but..here goes

As a single female, I have had a great number of "offers" from married men and in rejecting them, I ask "why". Typically, and don't be getting the panties in a knot ladies, they respond with "My wife isn't interested anymore because: kids, tired, put on baby fat, hurts to have sex, career, doesnt think she's attractive...on and on.

That's my experience and no I don't think I want a married man as a lover. Why a married woman would want a married man as a lover? Secrecy and security. They both have an equal amount to lose so it makes sense.

Who cheats more? Who's gonna answer that question honestly And does it matter who cheats more? To what end? You can't say men cheat more then women do because whatever statistical data base you use for the analysis, it's going to be flawed
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Mar 12, 2008 @ 8:59 PM Interesting prespective    
shellsmack


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That's right NAWTI. If a married man cheats with a married woman, visa versa...WHO THE FUCK IS GONNA NARC FIRST?



(had THAT boat run my ass over before)
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May 11, 2008 @ 8:50 AM Interesting prespective    
hookup


Posts: 25
I never cheated when I was married, i dont think I could live with the fear of her finding out, i also never wanted to hurt her by doing that.
Since my divorce i have had sex with a few married ladies and to be honest I really love the feeling of giving a woman something she is missing at home, the fact it is taboo is hot too. I guess I'm twisted. sigh.
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