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| Jan 25 @ 4:19 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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I've seen a lot of discussion both among men and women--but usually among men--wherein they talk about, basically, that so and so is "hot," and has a great body, etc., etc., and how they wish they could "get me some of that."
My question is, is the only criteria for whether or not you'll sleep with a woman the fact she looks good to you?
I'm not talking given a choice between a pretty one and an ugly one; say you have a room full of beautiful women and you can choose just one to be with. Aren't there any other nonphysical attributes you'd consider besides her breast size, figure, eye color, smile, or other physical features?
Would it cross your mind to consider her personality, level of sanity, whether or not she's married, whether or not she and you would make a good match (not talking marriage here, but just in general), or is all you care about is "gittin' you some," and "to hell with the potential consequences; I'll worry about that later?"
Just wondering.
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| Jan 25 @ 5:44 PM |
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sloriver
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Sex is just a game to some. Quantity is important to that type. Basicly they'll do what's available. I've heard guys say that someone's hot but a real head case.....or she's hot but a slut....or hot but she's too stupid to spell sex. Most guys want to at least like a woman before climbing in bed with her. If you're determined to have sex that night and you're going to take whoever's available, you wouldn't just pick the hottest woman. I suppose it's just a matter of finding someone you're comfortable with and who you like. The truth is, sex is much better with someone you care about. Othewise it's just glorified masterbation, and for me, anyway, it would be unsatisfying.
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| Jan 25 @ 5:57 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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I completely agree, and thanks for your input.
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| Jan 26 @ 6:13 AM |
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SxcBabyEyes
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well most guys go for me cos they think im attractive and want sex but all i want is for a guy to hold me close and not hurt me im sick of being hurt by guys that only want one thing why cant guys think about personality like i do looks only are a bonus nothing more sex is nothing unless its wif someone u love or care about
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| Jan 26 @ 6:19 AM |
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ynot7769
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i think how a person looks to us is based to some degree on how we FEEL bout them.........just my .02  
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| Jan 26 @ 8:21 AM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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Yes, of course, Ynot, and that's why I made mention of the room full of beautiful women. The same holds true for women, visual attraction is a major part of why we choose men. But I don't look at a man (no matter how gorgeous and no matter how "hot" a body he has) and automatically wonder how good of a f___k he'd be.
I think men who do that with women (and I'd daresay many, if not most, of them do, could really care less about the woman as a person and only cares about a) "She looks hot so she's bound to be good in bed," and/or b) "She looks hot so if I'm out in public with her, she's gonna make ME look good."
It's about the trophy, the prize, the "Let me show the world how 'successful' I am" by displaying and boasting about the fact I can get the great job, the beautfiul large home, the expensive sports car, and the (tsssssss (that's steam, by the way) *HAWT!!!* babes!"
What is it about many men who think they have to prove their virility by "conquering" every woman he possibly can? If it's an effort to impress anyone, it must be to impress other men, because it sure as hell doesn't impress women. Not this one, anyway.
Granted, I'm not after a virgin, but I view promiscuous men with as much disdain as society tends to view promiscuous women. Why do so many men not care about women as human beings, and only seem to care about them as living outlets in which to ejaculate?
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| Jan 26 @ 12:09 PM |
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SxcBabyEyes
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i completely agree they should look inside not just want to fuck personally i dont judge i go for the guy cos of his heart and personallity cos at the end of the day thats all that matters but guys should care more bout women we aint sex machines to make them cum we are women and women should be treated better then they have been
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| Jan 26 @ 12:09 PM |
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SxcBabyEyes
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i completely agree they should look inside not just want to fuck personally i dont judge i go for the guy cos of his heart and personallity cos at the end of the day thats all that matters but guys should care more bout women we aint sex machines to make them cum we are women and women should be treated better then they have been
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| Jan 26 @ 2:41 PM |
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mantisman968
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This all depends if you just wanna fuck or if you wanna date the person! 2 completly different situations!
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| Jan 26 @ 5:04 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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To me, it isn't two completely different situations..well, not entirely. I cannot look a man...any man...as simply a human vibrator. That doesn't mean I want to marry everyone I've ever slept with; far from it. But I cannot imagine using anyone "just" for sex without giving a second thought to anything else but how he can sexually please me. I guess I'm just not that narcissistic.
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| Jan 26 @ 6:41 PM |
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ynot7769
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and if i may take it a bit further..........how they look is not only based on how you feel and view them........but whos attracted to someone they DONT like the looks of???? 
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| Jan 26 @ 8:07 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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Well, that depends on what you mean by that. I have been been attracted many times to men who didn't fit the mold of what most people's idea of "handsome" would be. But there was *something* about them, visually speaking, that I liked. Maybe, even though they didn't have particularly good features all the way around, I liked their eyes, or their smile, for instance.
Alternatively, I've seen many "traditionally" stunning, studly, knock-your-socks-off, gorgeous, hunkolicious men whom I may think, "Wow, he's really handsome!" but wouldn't give a second thought to being with sexually.
And in either case, that's been based solely on first, visual, impressions. I judge what appeals to me, visually, by what I see, visually. I don't judge who I want to have sex with solely by how "hot" he looks, however. There's much more to it than that.
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| Jan 26 @ 8:08 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
Posts: 516
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And If I may make a suggestion, don't bang your head on the wall. You'll get a headache.
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| Jan 26 @ 8:18 PM |
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sumdaysoon
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all animals are visual creatures when seeking a mate........thus the varied colors, plummage, size, etc.........if a person does not appear to take care of themselves what makes me think they would take of me..........as good as i would take care of them.......... beauty is more than skin deep but attraction begins in the eyes.........in person anyway........on here it begins with words........ 
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| Jan 26 @ 8:35 PM |
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ynot7769
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And If I may make a suggestion, don't bang your head on the wall. You'll get a headache.
hey ......i do it cause it feels just soooooo good when i quit  
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| Jan 26 @ 8:52 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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On here it begins with words? Gosh, I hope not, considering some of the words I've heard. LOL. I don't consider "nice rack" much of a compliment, you know?
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| Jan 26 @ 8:53 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
Posts: 516
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...although I must say YOU have a very nice rack. ;-)
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| Jan 27 @ 7:08 AM |
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aspiringwriter
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I think you are confusing the most vocal with the majority. Most especially here:
I think men who do that with women (and I'd daresay many, if not most, of them do, could really care less about the woman as a person...)
Though many gives plenty of wiggle room, it's been my experience that the vast majority of men do care about the woman as a person. I don't know how one would approach the matter in a scientific manner, so I suppose this may just be a difference of opinion.
Also, while people (male and female) spend hours upon hours talking about physical appearance and substantially less time talking about less concrete points of attractiveness, I know, for my part, that the men that talk most specifically about what they find attractive are the least likely to end up with somebody that meets that description. In other words superficial beauty is a good topic for superficial conversation. The more esoteric the trait the longer the conversation has to be before we even get to the thesis. Conversation and the communication of ideas don't always have more than a tagental relationship.
I also think Ynot's point bears some repeating. For me, and apparently him, physical attractiveness cannot be entirely seperated from the person-in-question's personality. A persons physical features (or rather how my mind takes them in) get filtered through how I think of them as an individual. A person that I like (whether I'm sexually attracted to them or not) will become more physically attractive to me, with the reverse also being true.
To answer your questions: No, it is one of them but not the only one. I'm having trouble putting myself in the hypothetical situation here, so I can't answer honestly. And no, as an example, no sex is worth risking my life for. In that order.
I just noticed this thread, so I'm gonna double post and toss out a few comments now.
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| Jan 27 @ 7:32 AM |
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aspiringwriter
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What is it about many men who think they have to prove their virility by "conquering" every woman he possibly can? If it's an effort to impress anyone, it must be to impress other men, because it sure as hell doesn't impress women. Not this one, anyway. Doesn't impress me, either. However, the message is put out there by society (esp. entertainment), stupid people pick it up and run with it. On a slight aside, I know a gay guy in my town (a rural-ish that judging from barroom talk isn't particularly gay friendly) who makes sexual advances on every semi-attractive woman he can to hide his orientation. Also, I know many who give off the appearance of being willing to bed anyone they can because they are libidinous and not good at relationships.
This all depends if you just wanna fuck or if you wanna date the person
I agree. I've had a wide variety of relationships. Marriage ain't particularly a goal of mine, but it is another possiblity. I'd choose a fuck buddy differently than I'd choose a wife. Though my feelings towards the person dictate the type of relationship.
all animals are visual creatures when seeking a mate technically not true. Many animals go off smell more than anything else, but I'm being technical here. So register the objection and ignore it.
I guess I'm just not that narcissistic. To use somebody without regards for their feelings is worse than just narcissitic. However, a fuck buddy type relationship is more hedonistic, IMO.
Lol, have you ever been attracted to somebody who you found visually repulsive? What I'm getting at here is while looks aren't the sole factor for you, aren't they a factor?
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| Jan 27 @ 8:36 AM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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To use somebody without regards for their feelings is worse than just narcissitic. However, a fuck buddy type relationship is more hedonistic, IMO.
Ok, then I gues I'm just not that hedonistic, because I wouldn't use someone for a 'fuck buddy." If I like someone enough to sleep with them, then I like them enough to have a REAL relationship with them. Otherwise, I'd just as soon use a vibrator.
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Lol, have you ever been attracted to somebody who you found visually repulsive?
No, I have never been attracted to anyone I found visually repulsive.
What I'm getting at here is while looks aren't the sole factor for you, aren't they a factor?
Of course they are a factor. What's your point?
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