| Jan 15 @ 5:28 PM |
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canuhelpme258
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Now fantasies we all have them... Most of us have fairly healthy fantasies. I mean healthy as in involving consenting adults doing safe sexual acts..
The question begs to be asked... Are some fantasies better off left unfulfilled? I mean should leave something for the playground of our minds, or should we be hedonistic and pursue each of them to their conclusion.
I welcome all ON TOPIC thoughts!
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| Jan 15 @ 6:04 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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I think many fantasies should be left as that: fantasies. They don't call em "fantasies" for nuttin, yanno.
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| Jan 15 @ 6:09 PM |
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DarkKnightWalking
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Depends on whether or not it would get you killed.....
Either by a signifigant other, the act itself...or the general public at large... 
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| Jan 15 @ 6:35 PM |
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ValentineGirl214
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I say go for your fantasies, then you can create new ones......as long as no one gets hurt.
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| Jan 15 @ 7:19 PM |
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aspiringwriter
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REALLY, depends on the fantasy. many should be fufilled or atleast investigated further, least they become exceptions. some should be filmed. some have to be left to the imagination, cause they're just plain physically impossible. would say as a general rule, if nobodies gonna end up hurt, where's the harm?
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| Jan 15 @ 8:00 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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I think that's the problem, though...so oftentimes someone DOES end up getting hurt. 
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| Jan 16 @ 12:13 AM |
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sundance64
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We talked about this earlier...
In some...SOME...cases, a fantasy becomes an obsession, to the point it can be detrimental to a relationship (if there is one).
My feeling is, as long as all involved are willing participants, willing to accept whatever consequences arise, and no one gets hurt...go for it. It also really depends on the fantasy too...I mean, having sex outdoors in the rain is pretty tame...unless it's a thunderstorm or it's cold outside...then it would just suck!
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| Jan 16 @ 1:54 AM |
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ynot7769
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Are some fantasies better off left unfulfilled?
i think some belong unfullfilled............keeps em' fantasies that way right? if ya fullfill em' then they're called relaity 
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| Jan 16 @ 2:31 AM |
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canuhelpme258
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I'm torn on this one, I'll argue the other side Thursday...
Say some guy starts small, with anal, and runs through the spectrum of typical guy fantasies...
doing it in public
ffm threesome
grope group
etc
Each time the fantasy has to be > ....... < that much "more outrageous"
So he gets left with midgets right?
So if he gets a midget, would he then move on to "clowns?" That type of thing...
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Also, Sunny's post about obsession aside; if a fantasy is dwelt on too long (as is possible) it can become too fully formulated in one's head, making the possibility that the reality of fulfilling the fantasy is not as good as the fantasy.
Am too deep again eh?
Let's go back to my midget thing...
Say I get a hold of one that is a lousy lay... that'll make fantasy fulfillment a let down you think?
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| Jan 16 @ 3:31 AM |
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aspiringwriter
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If I were you:
I'd assume that midget was just a bad lay and go looking for newer, better midgets. I'm sure I'd end up eventually finding one that justified my cravings enough for me to keep looking for midgets. Then pretty soon, I'd be hitting up the midget support groups looking for quick fix. Finally, one day, I'd find myself lying in a dark alley not sure how I got there. Looking around for signs of a midget that had run off while I was passed out. Desperate cause I just needed one more!
But then again, I'm not you. So I'll just sit here and contemplate the latent intrinsic value of midget porn.
Am too deep again eh? That's between you and the midget d' amore. Rule of thumb, if she can feel it in the back of her throat... Yes, you are.
Sorry, I'll throw up a more serious post after somebody else does. Don't want to double post.
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| Jan 16 @ 5:56 AM |
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ynot7769
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That's between you and the midget d' amore. Rule of thumb, if she can feel it in the back of her throat... Yes, you are.
fuck serious..........if she feels it in her throat...............wouldn't that then count as DP
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| Jan 16 @ 2:09 PM |
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DarkDesires99
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Some fantasies should be fulfilled. I mean if they are reasonable and both parties (or more if the fantasy involves that) are all in to it. Why not?
However some stuff should be just left in the mind. What I’m not sure till I heard it and go 
Now some stuff I want and can’t have…for instance I want Zero G sex!
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| Jan 16 @ 3:37 PM |
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canuhelpme258
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Okay midgets aside for the moment...
The other half of why I'm torn...
Fantasies are those things we escape to in our mind, for release from the mundane, to masturbate, whatever...
If we don't give in to them.. at least the sane ones...
We can number one, reduce the eventuality that some people (I said some) will become over indulgent, and the fantasies become more outrageous (look at the work of Max Hardcore for example, or snuff films)
As Sunny stated too, some become so obsessed with chasing a fantasy they alienate themselves socially.
Example: guy becomes obsessed with a ffm threesome to the point is s/o is ostracized by her girl friends because of his ridiculous mouth...
Or a person who can not concentrate on their lover because during the deed his mind is stuck in fantasy land....
I'm playing my own devil's advocate huh?
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| Jan 16 @ 5:41 PM |
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sundance64
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Ok...first of all...there are fantasies, and then there are fantasies!
I think men and women not only have different types of fantasies, but use them differently. Men fantasize about lesbians, watching lesbians, getting laid by lesbians...etc....and they generally want these fantasies to come true. But they don't really think about lesbians while they're having sex (yea...I know, they look at porn while masturbating, that's different).
Women on the other hand, tend to have more elaborate fantasies, (see my early blogs...these are fantasies). They don't necessarily have to come true...or they may have already come true, but they're still fantasies.
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| Jan 16 @ 6:38 PM |
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aspiringwriter
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Just thought of this thought I should point it out... Here we have a case of two opposing arguements that lead to the same end result.
To fulfill the fantasy: You can and frequently do end up with the fantasy failing to meet your mental expectations. As a result, the fantasies grow up and become more intense. Like a heroin addiction (speaking from what I've heard, not personal experience), you keep looking for that initial high (In this case, what ever it was that got you dwelling on the fantasy, such as an amazing self-pleasing session, or what have you). When you fail to satisfy that craving, you go further and further into your fantasy, until you've gone way past what is healthy.
Without fulfilling the fantasy: You can dwell on it. In your mind, in essence, does the same thing as your body in the previous example. Or rather, your mind starts to refine the fantasy, and you sink farther and further, until you need the crack that you've stewed for your self. And start to eschew your basic needs, including socialization, in favor of lesbian midget porn where they (the lesbian midgets) fuck a donkey in space.
In both cases, we're taking the worst outcome as the logical result of fulfilling the fantasy or not. In other words, both examples are logical falacies. Argumentum ad absurdum, taking a line of reasoning out to its most extreme possible result and presenting that as the logical outcome.
Editted to add: I hate how lesbian gets thrown around. There are certainly some men who want to get laid by lesbians. Hell, I've known some lesbians, I've fantasized about. Most men are fantasizing about bisexual women. Since a lesbian wouldn't do them much good.
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| Jan 16 @ 8:16 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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If you get to the point where fantasies consume your thoughts, I believe that'd qualify as an obsession.
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| Jan 16 @ 8:58 PM |
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canuhelpme258
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fuck a donkey in space. 
See thats kinda along the lines I was thinking. No not the donkey.. but
Oh I was dealing in the extremes, you know... trying to get synapses firing...
I just happened to notice that as I checked off fulfilled fantasies, the new ones got weirder
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| Jan 18 @ 5:04 PM |
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hotbijenni
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by definition, i think fantasies should be left undone...i fantasize about having sex with my boss, but it probably wouldn't be a good thing, especially since he's married with kids...but he is so damn hot!
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| Jan 18 @ 9:28 PM |
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sumdaysoon
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let it be........more times than not if you fulfill it........it is not nearly as good as it was in your mind.......
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| Jan 18 @ 11:55 PM |
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lunanegra
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To fulfill the fantasy: You can and frequently do end up with the fantasy failing to meet your mental expectations. As a result, the fantasies grow up and become more intense. Like a heroin addiction (speaking from what I've heard, not personal experience), you keep looking for that initial high (In this case, what ever it was that got you dwelling on the fantasy, such as an amazing self-pleasing session, or what have you). When you fail to satisfy that craving, you go further and further into your fantasy, until you've gone way past what is healthy.
Without fulfilling the fantasy: You can dwell on it. In your mind, in essence, does the same thing as your body in the previous example. Or rather, your mind starts to refine the fantasy, and you sink farther and further, until you need the crack that you've stewed for your self. And start to eschew your basic needs, including socialization, in favor of lesbian midget porn where they (the lesbian midgets) fuck a donkey in space.
This. Exactly,this.
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