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| Dec 3, 2007 @ 6:59 AM |
Promiscuity in men, okay, but not in women? |
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lolthisistoofunny
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Since when? I mean when and why did we ever get to the point that we believed this kind of behavior is acceptable? And don't give me the "it's in their nature" speech. I've heard all that drivel before. Both genders have sex drives, some stronger than others and some weaker than others. You may very well "need" (desire) to have a lot of sex, but there's no law that states you have to have it from more than one individual.
That being said...I believe most men (with some exceptions of course) would prefer if a woman they're having sex with not be screwing around with other men. Right?
Then why are women expected to excuse men doing the same thing? Inquiring minds want to know. Talk amongst yourselves.
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| Dec 3, 2007 @ 7:51 AM |
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alybai42
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 lolthisistoofunny
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| Dec 3, 2007 @ 8:02 PM |
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40yearoldvirgin
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You don't want to hear the truth. YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!
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| Dec 3, 2007 @ 10:08 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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LOL...I think people's perception of "the truth" is very skewed and biased.
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| Dec 4, 2007 @ 7:42 PM |
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40yearoldvirgin
Posts: 455
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Well, I just wanna bang teenage girls, so I'm cool.
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| Dec 5, 2007 @ 10:42 AM |
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shellsmack
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That's the way it is and it SUCKS. I know a man that gets so freakin' jealous when he suspects his woman is out running on him, but he fucks around on her all the time. What an asshole!!
He needs beat in the nuts!!  
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| Dec 5, 2007 @ 11:01 AM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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Yes, Shell, it is "just the way it is," but why isn't anyone doing anything to change it? That's why I ask...why are we so accepting of behaviors in men that would never be accepted in women? Why don't men have to be accountable for their actions? Granted, there are men who don't behave this way, but, by and large, society still sets a major double-standard. What's up with that??? I thought this was the 2000s, not the 1900s.
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| Dec 5, 2007 @ 11:20 AM |
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shellsmack
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I know, I'm with you. I DON'T accept this kind of behaviour...maybe that's why I've been single all my life.
Just like being gay or lesbian or bi...that used to be shunned...a no, no...now it's so excepted it's ridiculous. Doesn't anyone have any biblical beliefs anymore.
Geez. 
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| Dec 5, 2007 @ 11:57 AM |
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mica89
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It is a TOTAL double standard but what's new? They way men vs. women are viewed and judged has been a double standard forever ( thus things like the ERA and NOW). I think it is gradually balancing though. However, I recently read that the average age kids are starting to have sex now is..are you seated? ELEVEN! I was 17! What a gyp!  The same article (based on nationwide surveys involving something like 5000 schools) stated that by the time they graduate from HS, most sexually active kids will have slept with thirty people! I am embarrassed to say I am not sure I can YET say thirty. The article said 10 per year starting in 10th grade. Boy, I wish I was young again! If you calculate that average, that is 150 partners by age 30.Honestly? I'm jealous. Which brings me to the subject of this whole debate. The crucial factor in my mind is whether you are talking about a single person. If you are in a relationship, you don't sleep with (or even fool around with) anyone else but your S.O. Period. I have a zero tolerence rule on the subject of cheating. It isn't even the physical act that gets me but the dishonesty and lack of communication. How could you say you love someone if you talk SO little that you feel the need to do that to someone behind their back? I was cheated on twice( by the same woman) and forgave the first time as I felt partially responsible by not making her feel she could tell me anything.( it turned out she just loved to fuck every guy she could) The kicker was that the second time was with my best friend since childhood ( who , embarrassingly, I provided free, unsolicited fistiofacial surgery to in the form of a nasal restructuring for his transgression..ooops!) So that's that. If you are single and practice safe sex? Hey-man , woman, straight, gay, bi-, fuck all and as many as you want( not farm animals though). I don't at all negatively judge someone for that. ( un-safe sex changes that entirely as then the person becomes a willing risk to society and that's unacceptable) I would LOVE to be promiscuous and it is not by choice that I'm not. Think what you will of me but I would take great pride in being called a slut or a whore.
One last thing- hypocrisy wise, remember this. 2007 or not ,we are still slaves to some of our primal instincts and the biggest of those is sex. Why do you think the expression " sex sells" is so perfectly accurate? I think about sex nearly all the time to some degree. It is part of the animal we will always be. Our primary purpose in life is to "make more humans" (whether we actually do or not is irrelevant). All living things are this way. And the genders differ in how this instinct controls them. Females instinctively want to be safe and stationary to raise their young ( don't think I am a chauvenist- I am really referring to all animals other than humans to illustrate the underlying influences on our sexuality) The males role is to impregnate as many females as possible. Just watch the nature channel sometime. A bull doesnt paint his left hoof gold and settle down with a nice heffer for the rest of his life. Only a TINY number of species take life partners. This "procreation obsession " holds true today for all human males as well, no matter how modern and sophisticated we become. Sex controls everything. That is just the basic nature of how life is. 
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| Dec 5, 2007 @ 12:00 PM |
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mica89
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Doesn't anyone have any biblical beliefs anymore.
I'm Taoist, so, no.
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| Dec 5, 2007 @ 12:05 PM |
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mica89
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i am also a Frisbiologist.I believe that when we die, our souls are tossed onto a roof and forgotten until some later time when they happen to roll off and are back in the game.
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| Dec 5, 2007 @ 12:12 PM |
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Hammer88
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mica89 wery well writing and so true.
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| Dec 5, 2007 @ 12:28 PM |
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shellsmack
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ok
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| Dec 5, 2007 @ 4:44 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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For me, if there's any excitement to be had from having multiple partners, it's simply in the newness of the relationship...which always wears off in time.
What makes sex exciting for me IS the fact that it's INTIMATE...that that's something you two are sharing only with each other.
Without that, for me, anyway, sex is a total turnoff...
Now, don't get me wrong...physically, it feels good. But without the emotional component, my thoughts are I might as well just get me a vibrator and save on gas, clothing and makeup, not to mention other dramatic hassle associated with it.
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| Dec 5, 2007 @ 4:56 PM |
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shellsmack
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AMEN SISTER!!
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| Dec 6, 2007 @ 12:52 AM |
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mica89
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I believe, lolthisistoofunny, that you have just perfectly defined the difference between love and lust.On a side note: I am more than willing to be completely honest about what influences my (as well as most of my male friends) sex drive and why . As I have said, total honesty in communication is essential to a harmonious relationship between men and women. HOWEVER, nothing tends to shut me up faster than an impression of moralistic judgement. Christianity and the Bible and AIDS are all very recent additions to the human species. Regardless of your Faith and beliefs, instinct has been with us since the beginning. The urge to procreate is the absolute difference between living creatures and two pieces of magnetized rock. It is truly the mystery (or miracle) of life. Actually , it IS life. Positively and negatively charged electrons are drawn together. They do not, however, replicate because of this. Living things do. It is mind boggling. My point is, I will volunteer my personal insights as a male to propogate understanding in females. I would hope they do the same. But this is a "sex and swingers site" and not a confessional.
ANYWAY- here is a perfect example of the double standard. If white men go to a foreign country for the sole purpose of non-commital sex, it is ok. But when women start to, it is suddenly "innapropriate" The hotel manager in this article is such a sexist, hypocritical fuck head that he doesn't even realize his contradictions. Paraphrased, he says something to the effect of "European men have been coming here forever to sleep with locals. But now European women are doing it and we don't like it....are going to make their stay as uncomfortable as possible...not let them upgrade their rooms to one with a bigger bed.." he goes on to even point out that the male tourists push the legal age limit(looking for younger and younger women(girls) while the female tourists are content doing what they are doing(20 something men) FUCK YOU! You medieval chauvanistic pin head! OK. Calm down. This is the BS that represses and underappreciates women and I fucking haate it. Here is the article link
.what's good for the Gander is not for the Goose...
[Edited on 12/6/2007 1:05 AM]
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| Dec 6, 2007 @ 7:22 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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I got about two lines into your speech before I quit reading. My opinion has NOTHING to do with morals, has NOTHING to do with religion and has NOTHING to do with love. It has to do with having enough freaking respect for myself that I don't want a man I'm sleeping with to be screwing around with anyone else. If that's hard for you to understand, I'm sorry, but next time save your erroneous tangents for yourself. Just because this is an "adult" site, doesn't mean a person has to adopt a "fuck 'em if ya got 'em" attitude.
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| Dec 6, 2007 @ 7:27 PM |
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lolthisistoofunny
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Ok...i went on and read the rest...I'm in agreement with you, basically, but I got the impression that what you were saying was what I've heard time and again, which is, basically, a person who has any morals and/or religious beliefs has no right to form an educated opinion or judgment regarding how he or she conducts his/her sex life. My apologies if I misconstrued.
Bottom line is...regardless of what sexual practices one engages in, the double standard is a crock o' dung. Talk about yer Medieval Times!`
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| Dec 6, 2007 @ 9:00 PM |
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shellsmack
Posts: 7,612
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 you two
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| Dec 6, 2007 @ 10:14 PM |
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ynot7769
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why accept it?
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