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Nov 27, 2006 @ 8:53 AM Advise for a Threesome    
Guiltless


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I jhave limited firsthand knowledge on this but am discussing the situation with a close friend.
He's a young man, with a petite girlfriend who thinks the world of him. He says that he casually mentioned his desire to experience a threesome with another female. His girlfriend was stunned that he would be interested in another female (Good lord this guy has no idea how lucky he is to have such a knock-out as it is)
Any way she discussed this with one of her girlfrinds, and the girlfriend volenteered (SP?)
Chris has never met this Girl, and thinks that while it might be an exciting day, he has concerns as to her sexual background, (Past sex partners, disease, drug useage etc) He ask what I thought.

OK well as I said I have some experience in this but it was limited to only one time. I told him that this is a Male oriented EGO fantasy, and that the hype will never live up to the event. Beyond that, he is placing his relationship with his girl at risk, His sexual health at risk, and Her friendship with her friend at risk. In short my console was forget about it and be happy with the Goddess that your dating.

I know that many of you, Males and Females have been involved in a threesome situation. Given your experience, would you say that my suggestion was correct, or has this type of EGO trip Ever been as good (and worth the risks) as the fantasy?

Your thoughts?
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Nov 27, 2006 @ 9:45 AM Advise for a Threesome    
Looking4ever


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From my viewpoint, if you are involved with someone romantically, this is something that will damage the relationship. My opinion only. I don't know from experience. If the relationship with his girlfriend is only casual, then, maybe it will live up to his expectations. Like so many fantasies, they are great in our mind but usually fail to live up to what we think they will (not all though! ). Only he can decide what it's worth to him to fulfill this. I'd say your advice was pretty good (though I am not sure of the whole goddess thing...this is her value? that she is good looking?)
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Nov 27, 2006 @ 11:07 AM Advise for a Threesome    
decaturnooner


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I have done MFM and FMF threesomes.

The EGO trip is worth it, even if the event doesn't live up to expectations. Sometimes you just have to go with instinct and find out if the guilty fantasy pleasure is worth the reward/risk factor.

I do think that the 3rd has to be someone that you should at least know "something" about. Regardless if it is guy/girl/trans/whatever, you just can't expose yourself to this random of an act without some sort of barometer of whom it is. When there is doubt, it only causes the experience to be guarded. Guarded leads to a lack of fun and a lack of fun leads to certain doom.

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Nov 27, 2006 @ 11:26 AM Advise for a Threesome    
ponme


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If there are issues with the other girl's 'health' I would say don't do it. If his lady friend has expressed some reticence.. don't do it..

However, that having been said.. if both partners are ready, willing and able.. and the third is someone they can trust with their health and emotions.. go for it. It can be a very exciting and even loving thing to share.
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Nov 27, 2006 @ 11:35 AM Advise for a Threesome    
Guiltless


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Thats why I love this Forum. So many people who shoot straight from the hip, and provide great insightful answers.

To the question of the 3rd Girls health. She is "supposed to be" disease free, although she works in the medical profession, one that is amoung the highest risk for HIV infections. She deals with Blood and trauma patients on a daily basis. I'm sure like most professionals she gets tested regularly. According to Chris, shes OK.

To answer the question of her appearance, YES she is ALL THAT! a true Goddess (My Opinion) Built, Toned, tanned and SMART!! she is one of the best conversationalist I've ever met. Scale of 1-10 She's an 11.

As I stated I was involved in a MFM relationship on a one time basis. Very Weird. Pleasurable, but weird. They were two of my friends and we remained close afterward, but something in the dynamic changed for us all afterward.

With that thought in mind, and speaking to those who have done something simular, did you find the relationship changed after the event?
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Nov 27, 2006 @ 6:04 PM Advise for a Threesome    
hotlips12095


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my 3 somes were with 2 brothers- I was seeing the 1 guy and he wanted to make my fantasy come true(3 some) but he was fine with his brother and i did inquire as to his sexual health and insisted on condomns( for my health sake). Our relationship was stronger- or so it seemed afterward.
If you are happy with the person your with COUNT yourself very LUCKY - but if you have a fantasy of a 3 some you have to decide which is more important your fantasy( poss. 1 night stand) or your long term relationship??
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Nov 30, 2006 @ 10:45 AM Advise for a Threesome    
Guiltless


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Update on the situation.

Chris found the two women together when he returned to his apartment for lunch on Wednesday. Something he rarely does. Appearntly they decided to start this up without him.It seems that the other girl was more into the idea of having a day with her girlfriend than shareing with herself with a man.

Sometimes these little problems just work themselves out without any outside influences.


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Nov 30, 2006 @ 12:17 PM Advise for a Threesome    
decaturnooner


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This is why I prefer mfm over fmf!

My feeling is Chris felt "detached" from the situation.
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Nov 30, 2006 @ 12:19 PM Advise for a Threesome    
Looking4ever


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Afraid that they would forget that you were there, leige?
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Nov 30, 2006 @ 10:08 PM Advise for a Threesome    
kattoes


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threesomes are like any other social interaction with odd numbers... somebody will be at oddman out at least for some period of time... So it truely has to be something both parties of a couple want.... not something one is doing simply to please ( they think) the other.
Egos are large and fragile...
I've done them...3ways, but with friends... not someone I was in a ???? fragile romantic type relationship with. Someone I liked, trusted and also was intimate with.
and I personally found the MFM, was the best for me... but did have i good time with the right woman, in a FMF, when she is really into it, and not just in to him...
So if it's not a mutual fantasy.... It's more like a pity fuck, with resentment and distrust as a possible payoff.... Is the relationship disposible, just so you can say you did it?? kat
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Dec 3, 2006 @ 8:43 PM Advise for a Threesome    
31sunshine


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I've never had a threesome but a good friend of mine had and the advice she gave me is to pick a 3rd person that you don't really know too well, because sometimes it can be weird and you wouldn't want to loose a good friend.
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Dec 6, 2006 @ 3:43 AM Advise for a Threesome    
juslookin4sex2


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Ok new question, same subject..... me and the chick i have been talking to just made it official. Now, Ive done FMF oral 3 some, but never sex. It really wasnt that enjoyable for me, when youre getting deepthroated, its kinda hard to keep your mind on pleasuring someone else. But She has the fantasy, told me she even set it up one time, but it fell through. I dont care whether it ever happens or not, but to make her happy Id be willing to. So how do you go about setting up for her? Id love to surprise her with the gift of another woman because she said shes fantisized about it. She doesnt care if Im envolved or not as long as it turns me on. So how would I go about finding her a female?
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Dec 6, 2006 @ 4:28 AM Advise for a Threesome    
smile4connie


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hmmmmmmmm since when isn't oral a part of sex. I know what you mean though. Back to the original question. It seems as though her friend is more interested in women, therefore you wouldn't be a complete part of the 3some. It sounds as though your girfriend might be bi and this is her way of getting to spend time with another woman and still have you. I say forget it unless you don't mind your girlfriend being bi but that's just my opinion
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Dec 6, 2006 @ 4:35 AM Advise for a Threesome    
juslookin4sex2


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LOL it was an oral only thing, everybody got thiers. She tells me its just a fantasy, and id love to see her be able to fulfill it. Shes attracted to women, just never acted on it. I just dont want it to end up a regular thing. I would want it to be spice not the whole meal.
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Dec 6, 2006 @ 4:54 AM Advise for a Threesome    
smile4connie


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you might not even get a snack neveer mind the whole meal but it's your choice
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Dec 6, 2006 @ 6:10 AM Advise for a Threesome    
juslookin4sex2


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Yeah maybe youre right, I should just shut my mouth and not try to fix something that aint broke
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Dec 6, 2006 @ 8:31 AM Advise for a Threesome    
ponme


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since when isn't oral a part of sex.

Since slick willey was in the white house!
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Dec 6, 2006 @ 12:57 PM Advise for a Threesome    
floppy_drive


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Hey Bill didnt do anything wrong, he just got caught. Anyway, Hillary had more girlfriends then Bill did anyhow.

Now I am wondering how Bill will look in an evening gown if she becomes Prez. God help us if she does...buttttttttttttttttt


Havent tried the 3some thing, YET, but hopeing to....
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Dec 6, 2006 @ 2:59 PM Advise for a Threesome    
Guiltless


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Floppy_drive, Don't get too worked up if you miss the opertunity for a threeway. Theres allot more hype and Ego than there is in actual pleasures. Sure the Visual Stimulation is there, but it is really not all it's touted as being.
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Dec 6, 2006 @ 8:33 PM Advise for a Threesome    
juslookin4sex2


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Theres allot more hype and Ego than there is in actual pleasures. Sure the Visual Stimulation is there, but it is really not all it's touted as being.


Yeah thats what Ive heard, but it would be a great thing to watch
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