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Monogamy and wanting to cheat


Sep 20, 2010 @ 6:28 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
loveablejanet


Posts: 247
If he doesn't fuck around on me I won't fuck around on him and it will be a happy life
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Sep 20, 2010 @ 6:53 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
ynot7769


Posts: 20,639
you just pick a man with YOUR apatite and INTEGRITY
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Sep 21, 2010 @ 6:39 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
loves2love23


Posts: 174
Why stay together if your going to cheat. Do what you have to do (divorce) and move on with your life
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Sep 27, 2010 @ 1:18 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
smile4connie


Posts: 181
I wanted to, I had chances to but I didn't
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Sep 29, 2010 @ 3:36 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
amy_on_the_loose


Posts: 121
I couldn't have even if I wanted to. I'm terrible at hiding things. He would have known right away if I had
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Nov 6, 2010 @ 5:27 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
snowboundmom


Posts: 77
At the end of our marriage I wanted to but I didn't until the night the divorce became final
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Nov 6, 2010 @ 7:30 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
earnit22


Posts: 143
I could never cheat..It's just who I am.
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Nov 21, 2010 @ 9:48 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
linda_c


Posts: 74
I cheated we were seperated but still married so I guess you could say I cheated
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Nov 21, 2010 @ 9:57 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
ynot7769


Posts: 20,639
well i like one on one BUT Linda for you.........
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Nov 27, 2010 @ 7:25 AM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
older4younger48


Posts: 184
I never had a reason to cheat. Our lovemaking was 2nd to none
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Nov 30, 2010 @ 5:47 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
lunanegra


Posts: 1,478
I could never cheat..It's just who I am.

Who you are is awesome, then.
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Dec 12, 2010 @ 6:28 AM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
yourfriendholly


Posts: 316
There were times when I wanted to and could have but for my kids sake I didn't. My ex didn't feel the way I did though
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Dec 15, 2010 @ 2:27 AM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
B9CC1D


Posts: 356
The important thing to remember about cheating is that it has nothing to do with sex. It is all about a violation of trust. The moment that happens it's cheating. Doesn't matter if there is sex involved or not.
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Dec 19, 2010 @ 11:22 AM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
joann52


Posts: 109
Maybe i'm one of the lucky ones. I was never had to think about cheating. He was always there for me
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Jan 19, 2011 @ 8:19 AM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
ajoy2remember


Posts: 7
I thought about it and could have but didn't until we seperated
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Jan 22, 2011 @ 10:44 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
leadtoes2


Posts: 2
I'm not an expert in the subject of relationships but i think the problem of cheating or 'infidelity' has to do with the underlying structure of the relationship in question.

The monogamous marital relationship has been the most used template to intimate relationships. The template is not perfect,not even the best, but it works most of the time.It has experienced so much success that the success has become a flaw in itself.In order to establish a lasting intimate relationship that is easily recognized and accepted by society, family and partners in question, you have to base it off a monogamous marital relationship template, if you have a GF or BF and you are thinking of advancing your relationship, The final step in your mind is always a monogamous marital relationship, Most political bodies will not even recognize your relationship or accommodate it if it is not monogamous and marital, some political bodies even have it as a crime to have other types of intimate relationships. Alot of religious organizations have decreed it to be simply wrong to have any other intimate relationships rather than monogamous marital ones.

So what happens to those people who believe in free love, or those who want something akin to a group marriage, or those who simply have more than one intimate relation, Their relations are labeled as infidelity or cheating. If there were other options to intimate relations then there would not be so much of 'cheating'

Has anybody here ever read Robert Heinlein's "The moon is a harsh mistress". It gives a scenario of something else, rather than the usual monopoly of monogamous marital relations on intimate relationships. It is a real eye opener. Anyway, Heinlein summarizes what i want to say much better than i could

Monogamy is merely a social pattern useful to certain structures of society – but it is strictly a pragmatic matter, unconnected with sin … and a myriad other patterns are possible and some of them can be, under appropriate circumstances, both more efficient and more happy-making.

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Feb 2, 2011 @ 12:30 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
happy2bme32


Posts: 119
The biggest mistake of my life. Sex with my husband was often and wonderful. I had an affair, got caught and our marriage was over. I lost my husband and my son. Was cheating worth it? Was the affair good? Yes. Was it worth it? NO. Anyone thinking about it better give it a second thought
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Feb 7, 2011 @ 1:59 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
Guiltless


Posts: 332
I agree that cheating is wrong, period.
Iam not advocating straying from the relationship.
That said, isn't it as dispicable to lure someone into a relationship then use sex as a control?
Deny it all you want, but there is a large percentages of Females who will do every sexual act known to man, until they hear wedding bells, then they leverage their sex to control the relationship.
At this point the man has options.He can try (yeah, you girls will call it begging) to convince his spouse to engage in sex. He can simply live without sex. Take care of his needs himself. Thats fine if he is willing to talke that route, and have his sex life regulated by his partner.
"Oh Gosh..he should just leave her!" Sure a simplistic answer, thats a great idea, so long as he is willing to part with half of the marital asssets, his 401K, house, car, kids, child support, alimony. etc.
On the other hand, he can have an affair. He is back in control of his sex life. He doesn't lose his financial assets, he remains a part of his household, and his kids lives. (It's cheaper to keep her)
Ladies if you dan't want your man stepping out on you, treat him right, or someone else will!
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Mar 6, 2011 @ 10:14 AM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
Playguy40


Posts: 180
I personally always viewed Monogamy as someone counting on me to be there for her and to protect her from hurt. The idea of being the one to inflict the hurt is an unbearable thought to me.
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Mar 8, 2011 @ 5:45 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
luckylena


Posts: 15
Even during the rough times during our marriage I didn't cheat. I could have but didn't
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