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Monogamy and wanting to cheat


Nov 9, 2007 @ 8:55 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
decoy_boy


Posts: 13
I'm looking around this website and i've noticed surfing other personal sites. Is a common trend for people to join these communities and others like it to cheat on their spouse as an alternative or another way than going out and finding another person.
What do you think about it? Is it a sign of the times, society?

Personally I blame our societal monogamous structure for relationships. Which was manufactured, a long, long time ago. Comments, concerns?



My bottom line. Friends should have sex...period.
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Nov 11, 2007 @ 2:36 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
ynot7769


Posts: 20,639
seems to me.cheating is CHEATING.........plain and simple................and for ME i think its simply a charachter defect.....or flaw.....NOT cause they're not gettin enough at home.........but wtf do i know?
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Nov 11, 2007 @ 7:32 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
Wildcard469


Posts: 7
If you get ZERO at home, why should you NOT seek it else where.
I mean ZERO
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Nov 11, 2007 @ 7:39 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
ynot7769


Posts: 20,639
If you get ZERO at home, why should you NOT seek it else where.
I mean ZERO

IF you're asking...........were it ME.......i'd fix it or go........but i can't see where cheating (for me ) would work.......i still gotta look at the guy in the glass in the morning .........
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Nov 15, 2007 @ 2:40 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
lunanegra


Posts: 1,478
Thing is,to have multiple mates was fine...when civilization was starting out and humankind needed to shore up the numbers.But today where theres overpopulation,disease,and unwanted children being stuck in the foster care system/killed or aborted,is it really okay to be unfaithful? I know I'll be argued down that society and technology has come a long way in contraception,etc etc but what it boils down to is that gov't,religion,society in general trying to put a reign on an inate biological urge and its backfiring with no ethical way to solve it.


Anyway,people will do what they will,there should just be more honesty and bravery to face the repercussions when the time comes.I apologize if its inconsistent..my brain is muddled,lol


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Nov 15, 2007 @ 7:02 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
Playguy40


Posts: 180
There is always a choice that maintains honor and integrity.

If you are committed but unhappy even if getting zero at home... you talk with your partner and either determine the possibilities of rectifying the issue while maintaining the commitment or you end the commitment before betrayal.

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Nov 19, 2007 @ 9:13 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
shellsmack


Posts: 7,778
i think its simply a charachter defect.....or flaw

I agree with Y. Some people JUST...CAN'T...BE...LOYAL for nothin'. Oh, but they want their "mate" to be loyal.

What the fuck ever.

i'd fix it or go

EXACTLY. If you're not happy, get the fuck out. Most people don't have the balls because then they'd be aaaaaaloooone.

Oh, this could be a whooooole new battle!!!
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Nov 20, 2007 @ 1:13 AM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
alybai42


Posts: 7,339
I would rather be alone any day than stick around with a loser..Wondering where they are at, who they are with, ect.
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Nov 20, 2007 @ 6:46 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
Hammer88


Posts: 378
shells, I been living the "TEN COMMANDMENTS DAILY "for over fourty years . but now that were both single and free ' LETS FUCK".
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Nov 20, 2007 @ 6:52 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
South_Of_Main


Posts: 121
I personally couldn't do the cheating thing, so it's fairly obvious why I'm here.
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Nov 20, 2007 @ 7:10 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
shellsmack


Posts: 7,778
Haaaaamer
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Nov 21, 2007 @ 9:22 AM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
robmuzzy


Posts: 60
I believe it was Ewan McGregor who sang (in moulin rouge) "you're free to leave me but just don't deceive me"
That sums it up for me, love doens't have to be all about sex...but if it's a huge issue the option is there to leave. I don't understand cheating, there's no need for it!
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Nov 22, 2007 @ 8:41 AM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
In_a_Frenzy


Posts: 512
wow - i'm so glad to see that people still have integrity today..........well said Rob, Aly, Shells, Ynot, Playa, Hammer.
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Luna........I get the point you were trying to make......just didn't go along with the topic - but that's ok
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Nov 22, 2007 @ 9:59 AM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
borachone


Posts: 1,383
If it's not workin' try to fix it first if that don't work end it and start over no sense lyin' to yourself or each other

Better to part company than lie
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Nov 22, 2007 @ 2:49 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
lunanegra


Posts: 1,478
Luna........I get the point you were trying to make......just didn't go along with the topic - but that's ok
yeah,I tend to go off on tangents

Better to part company than lie
Thing is- some do not.Some have been in their comfort zone for years and instead of risk losing that,they lie as they think lying is more honorable than tearing their life asunder and breaking their partner's or spouse's heart.I figure to thy own self be true.Better to be honest and risk everything,than to lie and lose everything,including their respect.
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Nov 22, 2007 @ 8:57 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
borachone


Posts: 1,383
Thank you luna well said
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Nov 30, 2007 @ 3:58 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
lunanegra


Posts: 1,478
Thank you luna well said
YW.
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Nov 30, 2007 @ 4:03 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
winterrenegade


Posts: 1,495
My ex wife cheated like crazy on me, Yet she was always accusing me of doing it,

I don't believe in cheating on the person that you have pledged your love too, I think that's just cruel, and selfish.


But I have noticed in today's society that cheating on your spouse is like a badge of honor, *how they see that I have no idea*

I have also seen people get killed for getting caught with someone elses spouse,
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Dec 2, 2007 @ 8:54 PM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
In_a_Frenzy


Posts: 512
Winter - usually those that accuse or are suspicious.........means that they're the one with the character flaw. sorry that happened to you. as for it being a badge of honor........that's just sad.
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Dec 3, 2007 @ 1:50 AM Monogamy and wanting to cheat    
shellsmack


Posts: 7,778
I know a man who has been married all his life, two different marriages now. And even tho he gets it at home whenever he wants it, he's got this CRAVING to always be fucking around on his wife. What's up with that? It's like he's not happy unless he's got a side-pussy.

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