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Jul 24, 2006 @ 4:30 PM crushes /aka / feelings only go one way    
cookie67


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which do you think is worse being the person in love and not loved back or having someone in love enough to propose to you and having to turn them down because you only like them as a friend ?
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Jul 25, 2006 @ 12:13 AM crushes /aka / feelings only go one way    
manibuono


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they are both hard situations to be in..especially if the one in love happens to be kept dangling like a puppet on strings. (short strings at that.)
IMHO, telling someone that loves you, and wants to marry you, that you only like them as a friend and sticking to it ( drawing the line of frendship in the sand and not ever crossing it, and breaking off any contact if they try to cross the line ) is harder to do.. but fair to all.. I would prefer this, and respect someone more who does this -instead of the one who keeps my hopes up.
I guess my answer is that if it is done right neither one should be a bad experience - as we can't always find true mutual love with every person we date. (and that old diddy.."tis far better to have loved and lost..rather than never loving at all" is so true. I am still the hopeless romantic...
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Jul 25, 2006 @ 1:34 AM crushes /aka / feelings only go one way    
Looking4ever


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Aw, Mani, it's nice to know that all is not lost and the hopeless romantic still exists!
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Jul 26, 2006 @ 10:13 AM crushes /aka / feelings only go one way    
fixit642


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I'm with manibuono here,Better to part as friends with good feeling on both sides.You never know what may change in the future
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Jul 27, 2006 @ 4:34 PM crushes /aka / feelings only go one way    
cookie67


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i told him from day one i was not looking to get married but he still went and got rings and all that . asking again every 3rd month for over a year .
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Jul 27, 2006 @ 4:36 PM crushes /aka / feelings only go one way    
cookie67


Posts: 18
it does seem to be my non luck i like them they want to be with someone eles . i only feel friendship , those are the ones who fall head over heeels into love . yikes .
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Aug 19, 2006 @ 2:52 PM crushes /aka / feelings only go one way    
ballpein


Posts: 21
I don't understand how one one can be in love with someone who doesn't reciprocate. Wanting someone who doesn't want you back in the same manner is just lust. Love is some deep and intense shit that develops from mutual lust.
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Aug 23, 2006 @ 7:05 PM crushes /aka / feelings only go one way    
FriskyRick7


Posts: 1
Rejection always hurts, but its better to be honest than lead someone on. If you are honest and reject someone, tell them it is you, not them. After all, if you reject someone, it is you that don't want to deal with that person for some reason, and its not them. The person that gets rejected would be a great catch to someone else. Besides, isn't it better to love someone that loves you back. I prefer someone to be honest with me, even if it hurts, so I can quit wasting my time and find someone who reciprocates my affections.
FriskyRick
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Oct 10, 2006 @ 11:27 PM crushes /aka / feelings only go one way    
castagier


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Yeah, when you get down on one knee and five minutes later are holding your head and wondering what just happened, it sucks. Had it happen twice. One to a girl I had know for five years(dated for a year), and the other time to a girl I had known for 10. The worst thing is now that I am a bit older and I have been thinking back to some of the girls I dated that I can see now where really in love with me, and I treated them like crap. It can really tear you up inside if you dont face it and try to make it right.


Thats just my 2 cents.
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Oct 25, 2006 @ 1:57 AM crushes /aka / feelings only go one way    
ynot7769


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which do you think is worse being the person in love and not loved back or having someone in love enough to propose to you and having to turn them down because you only like them as a friend ?



both suck....n..HIGHJACKING and ressurecting
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Nov 4, 2006 @ 7:34 PM crushes /aka / feelings only go one way    
bentan


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Good resurrection ynot

which do you think is worse being the person in love and not loved back or having someone in love enough to propose to you and having to turn them down because you only like them as a friend ?

Honestly I've only experienced the former situation so I can't say what's worse. But I'll say something about the concept of a proposal (and hope to God I don't offend anyone). My take is: why propose unless you are practically sure that the other party will say "yes"? To me it signals a lack of knowledge of self, of the other party, and of open and honest communication. Let me explain with an analogy: suppose you are working on a 3-year project to deliver building/software X to a customer. A well run project would involve close and constant monitoring of the project progress and frequent communication with the customer to refine requirements and deliverables. At the end of 3 years, the customer has to sign an acceptance document to say they accept delivery of the product. Now tell me this, should this moment of signing be a moment of trepidation and uncertainty for the supplier or should it just be a foregone conclusion, a legal formality? Now apply the analogy to courtship and marriage proposal. I say one should already know the answer before one even pops the question.
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Apr 14, 2008 @ 3:11 AM crushes /aka / feelings only go one way    
canuhelpme258


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Thats a really good point... I'd like to think people are not so blinded by love that they do not see the affection only goes one way.. but I guess it happens huh?
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Apr 14, 2008 @ 10:05 AM crushes /aka / feelings only go one way    
Natgoat


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It's worse - Not being Loved-Back...!! - -
That makes it a True -One-Way-Street- . . and all you're left with is the feeilng of
disappointment . . a Fantasy Unfulfilled..!!
...C'est la Vie..!! . .
Another *Perfect Match* . . going to someone less-worthy..!!
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