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Moral Dilemma

Dec 1, 2006 @ 12:11 AM Moral Dilemma    

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I met this girl about 2 months ago. We have almost everything in common. We want to persue the same lifestyle, we both have the same recreational interests, and we live close by. She makes about 3 times more money than me, she has a pretty smile, and she treats me very well and I have a strong belief that I can trust her.......BUT!!! she is too fat for for my visual stimulation during sex. Her pussy feels great when it is dark and i like looking at her face, but her naked body in the daylight, just doesn't do it for me. I know I could be happy with her when we get old, but I still have a strong desire for shallow sex with hot bodied women. I really like this girl, but I know I will cheat when the oportunity arises. Should i cheat with caution or just break it off? What do you all think?
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Dec 1, 2006 @ 12:55 AM Moral Dilemma    

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Hey, long time, no see.

My opinion would be, if you really are that into her and things are that good, have an honest talk with her about it. Obviously, if you want things to continue, you have to be able to communicate with her. Might as well start now.
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Dec 2, 2006 @ 12:35 PM Moral Dilemma    

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Well, I can appreciate your honesty, but I have to agree it's shallow (and no, not just because I'm a BBW - there are plenty of men who not only don't mind but like my chub). But, I would never advocate entering a relationship with the intention of cheating. In the end, if you get caught, all you're going to do is end up hurting someone you say you genuinely like. And well, that's just cruel and selfish. I'm not saying you are - or that you would be on puropse - but that's how it will seem in the end. Good luck, guy.
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Dec 2, 2006 @ 12:44 PM Moral Dilemma    

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Sounds to me like you don't really love her. Regardless I wouldn't have a conversation where you tell her you'd love her/stay with here/whatever if she lost weight. Few things hurt worse than that.
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Dec 2, 2006 @ 1:32 PM Moral Dilemma    

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Yeah, I agree, BBWGirl..."You'd be so pretty if you just lost some weight." "I could really love you if you could get down a few sizes." "Wow! You'd be so hot if you weren't overweight!"

Are those compliments? No. Here is something I was just showing a friend that someone said to me yesterday...

you are so gorgeous ...

you really have but absolutely nothing but nothing to worry about

you were worried i might find you heavy or something ... i don't know what

my god you're absolutely gorgeous xoxoxo

babe ... you are an incredibly sexy voluptuous rubaneque woman

you are so delectable ...

you truly are so sweet babe xoxoxo in every sense xoxo

mmmmmmmmmmmmmm thanks again xoxoxo you made me feel so good (can't wait to be with you in person xo)

Now, those are compliments. Mmm, and you should see him! Fuckin' hot!!! Well, at least to me he is. I plan to devour him...and soon!

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Dec 2, 2006 @ 2:40 PM Moral Dilemma    

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Okay, I've thought more on this subject and I want to say, Ballpein, I do not mean to get on you! Again, I appreciate your honesty and the fact that you're actually thinking about this. My "advice" to you is to really think about "the long run." I have a few questions you might want to ponder...How often do you meet women with whom you click so well? Would your feelings for her be different if she lost weight - and if so, how? What if she didn't make more than you? Are you looking for arm-candy or a true connection? What if you never meet someone like her again?

There is nothing wrong with having preferences - I have them, too. And I have "tested" them by dating men who have attirbutes/characteristics I tend to not like (e.g. short men - and I'm talking 5'4" to my 5'9"). I simply am not comfortable. I don't mean to make anyone feel bad, ever! But we are all entitled to our likes and dislikes, even if they are a weight or body type preference. I happen to like men who are physically fit and good looking - I've dated models, body-builders, and semi-pro athletes - none of whom seemed to care about my size. Unfortunately, their egos were unattractive and I moved on. Now, I care less about physical image as long as they flip my trigger - which can be done in a variety of ways. And I may not so much like this or that about a man, but if it's that much of a dislike, I simply don't date him. I guess you just need to decide if it's that much of a dislike - I just hope you don't hurt her.

Okay, I'm done! Sorry for rambling....
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Dec 2, 2006 @ 9:51 PM Moral Dilemma    

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Good luck with your decision. Just remember could date another woman who is skinny, marry her and she just may get fat. Now, what if that happened? Do you run then? I would say to break it off if you really don't love her. Do not cheat on her. That would hurt her even more. Everyone has their preferences and she apparently doesn't fill all of yours and that is okay if you know what you want.
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Dec 3, 2006 @ 7:28 PM Moral Dilemma    

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you titled this thread "Moral Dilemma"
who's? yours? I happen to be monogamous by nature. If you are also, and go on to say you know you will cheat on her, mabey you should begin working on your own "perfection" rather than seeking it in others.
As a kind of give and get, what about YOU would she like (not to change) to see some improvement in? Maybe the two of you could agree to diet and exercise as a thing to do as a couple, you could run her ass off then have hours of sex. Did you know sex burns more calories than jogging?
First though, look in the mirror, are you trustworthy enough to be given anothers heart?
sounds corny, but, hay, you ARE alone, or you were semi hooked up, when you wrote the post.
We make our own luck, we make our own happiness,
We also make our own Hell.
What do you want to make for yourself?
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Dec 3, 2006 @ 7:39 PM Moral Dilemma    

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I agree with bbwgirl4u.....I've been on the receiving end of the "you really need to lose weight conversation" from the man I loved and who I thought loved me. So I immediately joined Weight Watchers and dropped 20lbs. I was so proud of my accomplishment, but my husband then said, "20lbs. ? That's nothing!" Thus endeth my marriage. It took me a LONG time to get over the hurt of him saying that to me. I put it on the line for me. I worked hard to please him, and it still wasn't good enough. And that's when I realized he had a "strong desire for shallow sex with hot bodied women". I cut him loose so he could live his dream, and so I could keep my sanity.
I don't think you should tell her you want her to lose weight. That is only going to hurt her feelings. If you really feel this way, you need to call things off before they go any further. No sense in letting things go on if you intend to cheat on her. That just isn't right or fair to either one of you.
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Dec 3, 2006 @ 8:03 PM Moral Dilemma    

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I think i'm just going to stay out of this thread. I'll keep my opinion to myself, just this one time.
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Dec 3, 2006 @ 8:10 PM Moral Dilemma    

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bawk! bawk!
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Dec 3, 2006 @ 8:13 PM Moral Dilemma    

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You really want me to post my opinion on this subject?
post reply view belle1010's threads
Dec 3, 2006 @ 8:24 PM Moral Dilemma    

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You really want me to post my opinion on this subject?

sure ynot
post reply view ynot7769's threads
Dec 3, 2006 @ 8:36 PM Moral Dilemma    

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I'd not persue her man. like ya said, you'll probably cheat on her anyway. save her the heart ache by yet another man.
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Dec 3, 2006 @ 8:50 PM Moral Dilemma    

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Y you crack me up! Ok, first my experience as a bigger woman has been some men can't look past my weight to see the person inside. I had a really good guy friend tell me (after we had been friends for many years) that when he first met me he didn't like me. I asked him why, and his answer was that he looked at my weight, not me. Then he got to know me, and found that his first impression was totally wrong. I respected him telling me this, however found it a little insulting too. I guess my point is, what a person looks like on the outside shouldn't mean more than what they are on the inside.

I've been propositioned by men that i wouldn't have thought would, and i've been dismissed by men that i didn't feel should have.

You may find that rockin body that you want to fuck, but is she going to have all of the great qualities the woman you've been seeing has? Outer beauty fades, inner beauty doesn't.
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Dec 3, 2006 @ 9:08 PM Moral Dilemma    

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And why would you have kept that to yourself? I think it was very well said.
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Dec 3, 2006 @ 9:23 PM Moral Dilemma    

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Thank you, this is one subject that i take personally. You can't judge a book by its cover. I didn't post a picture on here for quite a while, because i wanted to be liked for me, not what i look like. Don't get me wrong, i know i'm not ugly by any means, but i do get self-conscious.
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Dec 9, 2006 @ 1:33 PM Moral Dilemma    

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Very well said Belle. I am a bbw too, and while I have been told by many men that they find me attractive, well.......they also just want to be my friend. Not a lover. I can't seem to find any men in my area that like bbw. I always tell them it's their loss. The men that prefer us usually say a bbw will do more for them and treat them better than thier smaller counterparts. I don't know if this is true or not, but it's what I've been told.

I think the original poster should leave this woman alone. He has problems with the money she makes, that he's not attracted to her body, and has already said he would cheat on her. So why would he stay with her? To only cause her pain? Doesn't make sense to me. But then I'm only a bbw with how would I know anything about this subject?

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Dec 17, 2006 @ 4:57 AM Moral Dilemma    

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Personally I like women with small breasts, but for you I would suggest you do what you feel is right. If your happy stay, if not go but do not fuck arround and hurt a good woman...
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Dec 17, 2006 @ 3:58 PM Moral Dilemma    

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OK, I really wasn't going to post in this. These things always get so heated, but here goes nothing.

I come from a family of very curvy BBW's. The men in my family, however, have no weight problems at all. Both of my brothers swore they'd never marry a "fat" girl. Neither one did. Of course things can change. Like my brother's skinny wives. They're both BBW's now. . .without the curves.

Like belle said. . .outer beauty fades, inner beauty (when not destroyed by shallow men) is forever. Don't hurt this woman, it'll come back and bite you on the ass.
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