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Nov 26, 2006 @ 11:34 AM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
LOKI1960


Posts: 142
I've not met many women who will admit to this,usually they'll say something like,"Why would I do that?I have no desire for another or else I would be with them." Many women feel this action to be tantamount to cheating and so very few men will openly admit to doing this too, for fear of mental (and maybe even)physical retribution from the SO's.

This need not be the case.Men are compartmentalizing creatures.The wife or gf we go home to may be our ideal life mate, but rest assured,there's an ex,a one night stand,exotic dancer or even hooker back there in the recesses of his male brain that files the imagery of past encounters.

Sexual excitement and love need not be so intertwined in the male brain that one can't exist without the other.The old gf from college, the one night stand from the bar back in the 80's may have had a pair of great tata's or really nice legs or something that burned into the old orgainic hard drive.

So, is it wrong to fantasize about another?How many of you do this?
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Nov 26, 2006 @ 12:43 PM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
31sunshine


Posts: 76
I can admit I've done it in the past. I don't remember exactly what prompted the memories of an ex but I remember doing it.

I can't say I think it's wrong, because when I did it it wasn't on purpose, it just happened. Now, would I ever share with that partner what I was thinking about? No, but then I don't believe in being cruel and telling someone that I was thinking about another man while being intimate with him would be cruel (IMO).
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Dec 7, 2006 @ 11:34 PM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
JJN4Fun


Posts: 2,999
I do it all the time! Everytime I masturabate, I think of someone other than Mr. Buzzie!
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Dec 8, 2006 @ 4:16 AM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
ynot7769


Posts: 20,639
Mr. Buzzie!


babe yer killin me here
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Dec 8, 2006 @ 5:19 AM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
smile4connie


Posts: 181
when i'm having sex the man i'm with is the one I have on my mind. Masturbating is another thing. I think everyone fantasizes when they masturbate. Damn that's half the fun of doing it isn't it? Thinking about a person you know you probably can't have but is soooooooooo sexy!!!!!!!!!!
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Dec 8, 2006 @ 12:07 PM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
Sunshinegal35


Posts: 646
I know there are times when I have fantasized about other scenarios when I'm having sex with my lover......not one man in particular....but different situations, etc. When I've been asked what I'm thinking about I tell...and it spiced things up!
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Dec 8, 2006 @ 7:13 PM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
JJN4Fun


Posts: 2,999
I can't think of one time I was with someone and fantasizing about another; I'm not sure I'm capable of that! Seriously - when I'm with someone, I'm WITH him...
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Dec 9, 2006 @ 1:04 AM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
smile4connie


Posts: 181
I might be capable of doing that if he was a dud but so far i've been lucky Even when things were bad with my ex our sex was still good (when we had it). That's why I mentioned masturbation
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Dec 9, 2006 @ 1:05 AM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
cabl_guy


Posts: 841
I'll readily admit that I do it often. But, if she's good enuf, I forget the fantasy. It may be the prelude to get things going. But, after I'm warmed up, I forget all about the fuel and pay attention to the fire at hand.
I'm sure that past guys and memories get her hot as well. After 20 years of being together, I can't quite be the man I was either. So, conjure up whatever memory or fantasy that gets you wet. Call me Bob or Jim. The great couples can share that without jealousy.
I dunno. I always pointed out the hot gals to my wife. And, I try every day to convince her she's bi. But, if thinkin about another guy or gal gets her hot...........more power to her. She can even call me by their name.
Yes, I'm Suzy.............or, Bob..........or both on a good day. Fantasize about anybody and take it out on me.
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Dec 9, 2006 @ 1:16 AM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
smile4connie


Posts: 181
Why do you keep trying to convince her she's bi? She might decide to try it with another woman if she hasn't already and you might never have her in bed again
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Dec 10, 2006 @ 8:26 PM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
ynot7769


Posts: 20,639
Why do you keep trying to convince her she's bi? She might decide to try it with another woman if she hasn't already and you might never have her in bed again

took the words right outa my mouth....
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Nov 14, 2010 @ 9:48 AM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
str82urheart


Posts: 126
I remember doing it 1 time. he was so boring and bad I was thinking about a guy who was good. it didn't do any good though
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Nov 14, 2010 @ 6:33 PM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
actheif


Posts: 2
I think alot of people do it...
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Nov 15, 2010 @ 7:08 PM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
Playguy40


Posts: 180
I've had two 10 year long relationships... what do you think?

I certainly expect that they did too.
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Nov 16, 2010 @ 2:44 PM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
atruenortherngirl


Posts: 79
So far i've been lucky enough not to have to
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Nov 27, 2010 @ 7:41 AM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
older4younger48


Posts: 184
I haven't had any reason to yet
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Dec 1, 2010 @ 5:21 AM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
ur_maine_girl


Posts: 83
I wasn't planning to but one time when I was having sex with my old bf I started thinking about his best friend who was super HOT! Thank god I didn't say his name when we were doing it
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Dec 2, 2010 @ 1:21 AM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
smiley638


Posts: 4
I've done it many times. He was an ex who was tall, smokin hot, blue eyes, had a big cock, and was awesome in bed. Why wouldn't you think of someone like that if you could? Didn't hurt that I was madly in love with him for 10 years either. lol
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Dec 12, 2010 @ 6:31 AM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
yourfriendholly


Posts: 316
I'll admit I did and I know he did. My names Holly not Nancy lol
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Dec 19, 2010 @ 11:26 AM Fantasizing about another while having sex with the SO    
joann52


Posts: 109
My husband had and gave me everything I needed and wanted during sex. I didn't have to fantasize about other men
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