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Nov 26, 2006 @ 11:32 AM The double standards of some bisexual women    
LOKI1960


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In talking to some bisexual women,their mores seem to get bogged down in some rather bizarre (at least to me anyway) double standards.Some feel that if they have a boyfriend or husband and play with a female on the side they aren't cheating.They feel it to be cheating only if they're with a man.Then others will say that their affairs with women are just for sex pleasure and that their affairs with men are for love.What's funny is that these same women will also complain about a man who pursues women just for pure sexual pleasure.That is, to them, it's OK for a bi woman to pursue another woman purely for sex, but not OK for a guy to do the same thing.Kind of like it's OK for an African American to use the "N" word on another African American, but somehow taboo if a white person does it.

Disclaimer:I realize this in no way describes all bisexual women and this is NOT meant to be a generalization of any kind.Just an observation.

Double standards of any kind have always perplexed me.
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Nov 26, 2006 @ 1:07 PM The double standards of some bisexual women    
31sunshine


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IMO, cheating is when a person goes outside their relationship to get something they should/could get from their s/o. Cheating is not only sexual, you can have an emotional affair as well.

For me personally, I don't have a different set of rules as to if it's cheating based on the sex. Cheating is cheating.

I've read several threads on other sites where people try to qualify that looking for another woman to "experiment with" is not cheating. I can only go by what my code of ethics are in determining if those actions are acceptable or not.
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Dec 3, 2006 @ 10:38 PM The double standards of some bisexual women    
shellsmack


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I'm with ya girl...cheating is cheating...PERIOD!!
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Dec 4, 2006 @ 1:05 AM The double standards of some bisexual women    
kblueskies


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Amen.
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Dec 7, 2006 @ 6:49 PM The double standards of some bisexual women    
LOKI1960


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Just saw a documentary on VH-1 I believe.It was about a resort in Jamiaca that offered married women a chance to explore their bi side.They arrived at the place with their husbands or SO's, who were NOT allowed to participate or even be present during the times the wives played(where's the fun in that?The husbands supposed to go off an have a circle jerk together?).Now ethically speaking,what difference does gender make?How is that different from having any other open relationship (Nothing wrong with open relationships,imo,but gender double standards have often confused me)?How would that be any different,ethically or morally speaking,from a couple where say,the wife had the hots for another man and told her husband that she wanted some nsa sex with this man?

Apparently thse folks are comfortable with this and that's OK for them, but I myself would have a hard time with the fact that I'm allowing my wife to have sex with another person and I'm getting nothing out of the deal.Not even allowed to watch!(can they at least provide the husbands with a video?)Call me shallow,fine,but extramarital sex is extramarital sex,what difference does gender make?
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Dec 8, 2006 @ 1:07 AM The double standards of some bisexual women    
Looking4ever


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Call me shallow,fine,but extramarital sex is extramarital sex,what difference does gender make?

It doesn't make a lick of difference whether the person is of the same sex or the opposite sex. Of course, there are couples that are fine with it. And that is fine for them.
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Dec 8, 2006 @ 5:01 PM The double standards of some bisexual women    
ponme


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the only thing wrong between adults is something that one of them doesn't want. If the couple decides they wish to have extramarital or extra..shit this is too confusing..

It's wrong if your spouse doesn't know and might be hurt by it. It's not wrong if your spouse knows and approves.
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Dec 8, 2006 @ 9:36 PM The double standards of some bisexual women    
LOKI1960


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It's wrong if your spouse doesn't know and might be hurt by it. It's not wrong if your spouse knows and approves.

Agreed.Different strokes for different folks,I suppose.I've just always been confused by what appears to be a double standard.I guess you could think of it,though,as swingers with a prefference.I would just feel a little left out in a resort if my SO was off playing with a hot babe and I'm left at the bar or the hotel room with nothing but Rosy Palm.Now if I was free,too,to have a fling if I wanted,OK.

I prefer the agreement my wife and I have,If we something on the side we BOTH want to play with,we'll consider it.

Then there was one that seriously puzzled me.I knew this girl who was bi and felt it was perfectly OK for her as a bi fem to pursue women for casual sex,but she felt it would be wrong of me,a straight male to pursue a woman for casual sex.Apparently she felt that it was OK to have sex with a member of the same sex,if the objective was sex only(casual,no committment sex).but felt that it immoral if straight people of opposite sex to puruse casual or nsa sex.

But then that was one girl no matter what I discussed with her,I would always get confused.
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Dec 9, 2006 @ 12:44 AM The double standards of some bisexual women    
cabl_guy


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Good view-point. A freak is a freak in any manner of view. The only standard is the people you are around when you choose to cross lines and explore the "freaks" point of view.
Bi women are really hip. Bi guys are a disease. By social view anyways. Both are just looking for gratification. If they show it on FOX or some other show, it's all socially acceptable. Otherwise, you missed your popularity frame and you'll hafta wait til the next gennra thinks you're cool.
Bisexual women are my favorite. Simple as, havin a gal that you can point out other women to and having them agree how sensual the gal looks is GREAT!
But, if she started pickin guys to do me in the ass, it'd be a differant story. lol
Bi or str8, makes no differance. You only live once. You like what you like. There's no changing it or fixin it. Life's all about you.
There are no double-standards. Or, not for open-minded people. Do what makes you happy.
Ya know. I shouldn't get so buzzed on a Friday.lol
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Dec 24, 2006 @ 4:28 PM The double standards of some bisexual women    
LOKI1960


Posts: 142
If they show it on FOX or some other show, it's all socially acceptable. Otherwise, you missed your popularity frame and you'll hafta wait til the next gennra thinks you're cool.

Back in the early 70's when David Bowie,Mick Jagger and Elton John were supposedly making male bisexuality "cool" and acceptible, a friend of mine decided to jump on the bi bandwagon.It seriously backfired on him and it's something he would rather not be reminded about today.
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Feb 3, 2007 @ 1:50 AM The double standards of some bisexual women    
sexyblackgirl


Posts: 15
im bisexual, though i admit its not 50/50 straight down the line, i do prefer men more. but my morals are still the same, i could either go out with a man or a woman, not do both at the same time. unless it was a threesome of course lol
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Feb 6, 2007 @ 5:28 PM The double standards of some bisexual women    
Swingking


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" Society wants female Bi-sexually to be a cool or trendy thing "
but those people have to be accepted and can easily jump back in the closet with a MALE if the out-side world gets to hard for them to understand.
This is a true statement .
Here's the real problem ,
" Society views male Bi-sexually as a curse or a immoral bane on everybody else "
but those people have to be accepted and can-not jump back into the closet with a WOMAN because they are ' unpure ' or ' evil ' and can-not be understood by anybody.
This is also a true statement.
I know so much because I know how both genders feels on this subject.
You want to do more and be happy but you CANT.
That is why sexually and those who do special things for some-body else will be treated and respected in a higher fashion, no matter who or how they do it.
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