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Dec 21, 2007 @ 9:12 AM Sex on the 1st Date    

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Groupies? What do groupies have to do with it?
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Dec 21, 2007 @ 11:02 AM Sex on the 1st Date    

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toofunny said - "...if she succumbs to his advances (because, guess what, guys? We're every bit and then some as passionate as you ever were), he loses respect for her because she "slept with him on the first date."

Well, what kind of crock of dung is that?

And people wonder why relationships, the whole dating game thing, is so difficult. Mayhaps if everyone was bound by the same set of rules...hmmmm..."

Then, toofunny asked, " What do groupies have to do with it?"

Answer: Groupies accomplished the binding of the rules that you implied with your admission to equal passion.
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Dec 21, 2007 @ 1:30 PM Sex on the 1st Date    

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As I said..."When you go to your bedroom and 2 or 3 strange girls are in your bed, what is a normal red blooded guy to do???"
Say "get out of my bed you nasty little groupies..If I do you all you won't respect mei the morning! "
Trust me, everyone of them respected me more
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Dec 22, 2007 @ 6:10 AM Sex on the 1st Date    

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"Answer: Groupies accomplished the binding of the rules that you implied with your admission to equal passion."

Huh? Again, what do groupies have to do with it? I implied nothing of the sort. You may have inferred that, but why is anyone's guess. I'm guessing, anyway, because what you said makes absolutely no sense to me.
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Dec 22, 2007 @ 6:22 AM Sex on the 1st Date    

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Oh, you were speaking of your own personal little "fan club." Yeah, I'm quite sure they all respected you more and quite possibly even revered you.

In fact, I'll bet every one of them, as soon as it was over, rushed home right away to tell "Dear Diary" of the awesome, never before/never again mind-blowing experience they had that night and, in all likelihood, probably blow the dust off their diaries from time to time to reread and relive that most sexually thrilling moment of their entire lives.

(Again, what do groupies have to do with this discussion about sex on the first date in general?)

To answer your question, RDL, what's a red-blooded guy to do if he comes home and finds 3 (4,5,6, whatever) women in his bed? Well, of course if he finds ANY number of women in his bed, he HAS to have sex with them, right? Morals don't make any bit of difference, attraction doesn't, the fact that any number of them could give you a communicable disease doesn't come into play, discretion automatically goes out the window because, after all, if a guy gets horny it's beyond his control to do anything about it BUT have sex. Because he's a male, he HAS to act on his sexual urges; he's not capable of saying no, or not willing to because, after all, what better way to prove you're a man than by the fact you can have sex with not only ONE woman, but with three?
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Dec 22, 2007 @ 9:45 AM Sex on the 1st Date    

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You still don't get it
Don't you like music?? Haven't you EVER wanted to do a popular member of a band???
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Dec 22, 2007 @ 10:09 AM Sex on the 1st Date    

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No, I guess I don't "get it."

Do I like music?

Yes, I love music.

Have I ever wanted to "do" a popular member of a band?

Not any more or less than I ever wanted to "do" any man of any profession.

My daughter's father was a bass player in a band he was in in the '70s. Does that make me a "groupie?" LOL.
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Dec 22, 2007 @ 5:59 PM Sex on the 1st Date    

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I was a bass player and leader of a popular band in LA in the mid 50's..So, what's your point??
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Dec 22, 2007 @ 6:18 PM Sex on the 1st Date    

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You're telling me that you were a bass player ....yada yada yada...and then asking me what *my* point is?

I'm not sure there is one, except you asked me if I'd ever wanted to "do" a popular musician and I answered that, no, not any more or less than I'd ever wanted to "do" any other man of any other profession.

In other words, there's nothing inherently sexy about musicians, to me.

Now, you wanna talk firemen, policemen, pilots, military men or guys who run employment agencies (hi, hon! ) we're talking sexy!
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Dec 22, 2007 @ 8:24 PM Sex on the 1st Date    

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lolthis is too funny,

I'm not sure I'd agree with your point on this.

I've never slept with a woman on the first or second date, but in the off chance that it should ever happen, it would have had to have happened because we just clicked. Rather than losing respect for her, I'd be thinking she was quite a bit different from anyone else I had ever dated.

But that's more a function of how my mind works, I guess. Anytime I would have sex with someone, it would be because I'd be wanting/thinking it was building a bond.
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Dec 22, 2007 @ 9:28 PM Sex on the 1st Date    

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It isn't "my" point on it; it's, by and large, society's point. It's well known that, generally speaking, men are touted as being the sexual conqueror's, the heroes, for sleeping around or "scoring," as it were, and that women are whores if they do.

Having said that, it goes without saying (thank goodness) that not everyone feels this way.
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Dec 23, 2007 @ 2:40 AM Sex on the 1st Date    

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Well, golly gee, sure glad I didn't read that advice column before I met my ex 26 years ago.
Had mindblowing sex on my first date with him, he moved in right away, and we had a passionate, happy marriage for 22 years and we both had high sex drives.
And I hate housework, too. (Gee, didn't that advice columnist ever hear about hiring HOUSEKEEPERS?). Amazing, how inexpensive they are when we have a two career couple who are both happily driven.
So what happened to our marriage? Long story, but it wasn't sex or incompatibility that tore us apart, it was another extreme problem.
All I can do is speak from EXPERIENCE.
Yes, I don't think it's great idea to go to bed with every guy one meets, but I know my ex didn't think any less of me because I thought he was special enough to drift into bed with him on the first date. Sometimes lust or love at first sight just happens, between a woman's libber and an ambitious powerful man, lol...
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Dec 23, 2007 @ 4:11 AM Sex on the 1st Date    

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To clarify, I'm merely relating a known fact, which is, in general, that's what society thinks. It's an antiquated, backward way to think. It doesn't necessarily echo MY opinion on the subject, as I've on occasion certainly not waited beyond the first date.

HOWEVER, I would think that the majority of first-date sexual encounters rarely end up with 22 years of wedded bliss. We are not talking exceptions here; we're talking the rule.

I've read/heard many discussions where, when asked point blank, what men think about women who sleep with them on the first date, they'll reply they lose respect for her if she does. Which is both hilarious AND ridiculous, because they certainly don't lose respect for THEMSELVES if they sleep with a woman on the first date. They say, "If she sleeps with ME on a first date, then she must sleep with EVERYONE on the first date."

Well...helloooo???? A man can sleep with a woman on the first date, another woman the next night on their first date, and so forth and so on, but hardly anyone bats an eyelash. A woman does it and typically, she's labeled as "easy."

Now, having said all that, even though society is still quite sexist in that regard (as in many others) do I advocate that, to get even, all women start sleeping with men on their first date, and as many men as they can? No, I absolutely do not. Rather, as I said before, instead of trying to teach women to "be" men, start teaching men to be human beings. In general, I do not think it's a good idea for either the man OR the woman to sleep with someone on the first date. And there's certainly no law that says a man can't say no to sex on the first date. There's no law that says a man cannot use common sense, or that he can't have a sense of dignity about himself or that he can't say no based on moral or religious reasons. There's no shame in that.

Now, while I do hate double standards, I still don't think it's a good idea to sleep with someone on the first date, usually.The reason I feel this way is because I think doing so typically ruins potentially good relationships. It takes the intrigue out of romance, it takes the mystery out of it, and, once done, it takes the excitement of the anticipation out of it.

I grew up in a very sexually liberated era (or so I thought), where we threw caution to the wind and pretty much did what we wanted to do, without much thought to the potential consequences but even back then there was still some flirtation, seduction, etc.

Nowadays, it seems if you don't have sex on the first date, have sex with as many men as possible, have sex with women, too if you're another women, have sex with props, have sex in a Batman costume, in public, in groups, tied up, tied down, abused, ridiculed, while hanging from a tree, etc., etc., you're not "normal." If you don't post pictures of yourself naked, if you don't talk like a streetwalker, if you're not willing to discuss with total strangers the most intimate details of your life using as many juvenile ways to describe your physical anatomy as you can think of, you are considered "not normal." If you are a young girl and you want to remain chaste for your husband, you're not "normal." If you're an older woman who believes in being sexually faithful to one man at a time, you're considered a "prude." Well, IMO, those people who would put such labels on others are perhaps suffering from a guilty conscience.

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Dec 23, 2007 @ 9:30 AM Sex on the 1st Date    

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Sex is a normal function for men and women..Why analyze it to death???
If the urge hits you both at the same time..Just do it...
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Dec 23, 2007 @ 10:52 AM Sex on the 1st Date    

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Because analyzing something -- anything -- "to death" is what I do. It keeps my mind sharp. I don't like complacency. I don't live by "If it feels good, do it" (Though I do struggle with my propensity to act on immediate desires at times; don't get me wrong. I have certainly done that and regretted it every single time).

However, now, in my "old age" I try to use common sense, discretion and the abundance of intelligence God gave me to make sound decisions for my life that, for once in my life, are in MY best interests and not simply because I feel like I'm put here on this earth to--in some form or fashion--whatever it may be, be subservient to men.
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Dec 28, 2007 @ 7:56 PM Sex on the 1st Date    

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Sex on the 1st Date

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Dec 28, 2007 @ 8:50 PM Sex on the 1st Date    

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If you waste the time to consider every angle, you may have missed out on some fantastic fuckin'
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Dec 28, 2007 @ 10:32 PM Sex on the 1st Date    

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If that comment was addressed to me, trust me, no I haven't.
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Dec 28, 2007 @ 11:25 PM Sex on the 1st Date    

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Waiting for a date
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Jan 7, 2008 @ 6:51 PM Sex on the 1st Date    

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me too.
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