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Dec 3, 2009 @ 3:27 PM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
Leonidas100


Posts: 44
I got on Facebook about 2 months ago and within a week, the first girlfriend I ever had from back in middle school friended me. We started chatting on IM, and I found out she's been married 8-9 yrs with 2 kids. But during those first few convos, she started making very sexually suggestive comments towards me. Although it was very flattering, I was pretty uncomfortable because I didn't want to cross any moral boundaries. I kept my responses very vague or laughed off her inneundoes over the next few weeks. One night while i was drinking, she got me to open up sexually on my end over IM. We essentially had cyber sex and found out each other's most intimate sexual fantasies. She's very open, has numerous sex toys, and is extremely kinky. She was insistent that we get together for coffee/drinks to catch up on old times since I hadn't seen her since I was 15. I blew her off a few times, but I finally caved and agreed to meet up with her for some drinks, but I made it clear that I wouldn't cross that line. Well we both got drunk that night, and it was obvious neither one of us could drive her home. I told her she could crash at my place, but I would sleep on my couch while she slept in my bed. She then convinced me I shouldn't sleep on my ridiculously small/uncomfortable couch, to come into the bed, and that she would be a good girl. In my drunken state, I naively agreed to this and before I knew it, she was on top off me naked, going down on me. One thing led to another, and we ended up having a great night together.

The next day, i was consumed with guilt because I knew i crossed a line I didn't want to go over. I didn't want to be the "other man" and potentially ruin a marriage. I told her that this couldn't happen again, and she agreed to it. But within a few days she started sexting me and even sent me naked pics of her playing with herself which were extremely hot since she looks much better than she did 15 yrs ago. I also found out she was devasted when I moved out of the area in middle school, that she's harbored a crush on me ever since and has always been finding ways to contact me.

Morally, I know it's wrong and my gut tells me to stay away. On the other hand, it's not easy finding someone that ur sexually compatible with who is also very willing to fulfill any sexual desire/fantasy u want. When u date someone, it takes months to get to that point and even then, you never know if they will clam up or be grossed out when u bring up ur sexual fantasies.

I just got on this site a week ago and reading all these sex forums has me thinking second thoughts. Should I put my morals aside and just go for it?
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Dec 5, 2009 @ 11:09 AM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
MisterSnuggles


Posts: 4
Been there ... Done that

Your gut and conscience have already given you the answer.

Cut her off, remember how you feel now. Believe me you WON'T feel any better if it progresses. You are running the potential of ruining 5 peoples lives - her family's and yours.

My kids are prime examples of how fucked kids can get by this situation. My ex screwed around and it ruined my entire family.

So for your own sake and well as her kids tell her to either leave him and get a divorce or take a hike. NO sexual fling is worth hurting those kid's lives and destroying your own moral grounds.

After she leaves him, IF she does I wish you well.

But keep in mind she is fucking around NOW is she a reliable candidate for YOUR future !!!!
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Dec 5, 2009 @ 2:53 PM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
lives4love39


Posts: 87
STAY AWAY FROM HER! If she wants to ruin her life as well as her families lives that's her business but don't you get in the middle of it. You could end up in the middle of a nasty divorce battle or worse. FORGET HER NOW YOU MIGHT ONLY BE HER TOY THAT WILL GET THROWN AWAY SOONER OR LATER
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Dec 8, 2009 @ 3:01 AM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
Leonidas100


Posts: 44
Thnx for the advice Mrsnuggles/lives4love39...u both make some excellent points. I was honestly half-expecting people to say go for it based on some of the profiles/forums i've read since i got on this site last week.

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Dec 12, 2009 @ 6:34 AM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
mrmagicwand


Posts: 2,025
Dude, RUN, don't walk away from this woman. You're playing with a very hot fire and the closer you get, the more you'll get burned.

Your gut tells you "no" but your dick says "oh yes". Follow your gut, or this situation will not end well.
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Dec 16, 2009 @ 10:34 PM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
sundance64


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From a woman's point of view (and a married woman at that!) I gotta agree with the rest of this bunch. You already have the answer...based on how you feel now. Sexual compatibility is not that hard to find...and in this case it's probably more of the whole forbidden fruit thing. I would advise to not pursue this...if she is willing to cheat on someone she is married to, she probably isn't willing to commit to you either. And even if you're just looking for no strings sex...there are too many other factors.

On the other hand, if she has an open relationship with her husband and is honest with him about her falandering...then go for it. Just be aware that you are the "other man"...and she probably won't leave the husband for you.
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Dec 16, 2009 @ 10:41 PM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
Leonidas100


Posts: 44
ya, she's def not in an open relationship...she's still texting me and instant messaging me all the time. But she knows it ain't happening again. I really need to cut her off completely. It's just hard cuz i don't want to be mean either.

I just need to man up cuz I know we can't or shouldn't be friends even though she keeps insisting we should be.
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Dec 16, 2009 @ 11:56 PM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
sundance64


Posts: 1,581
Nah...let her know you're not interested. Don't worry about being mean...just tell her that you're not into married women.
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Dec 17, 2009 @ 12:29 AM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
EYE_SEE_YOU


Posts: 14
Dude I feel your pain. I can only offer my experience. Similar to yours in many regards,only the husband found out. Now, she's divorced, her and I don't speak, and when I see her kids, I'm painfully aware that I contributed to their parents divorce. Not my proudest moment at all. You can't stop her from cheating, but you can stop her from cheating with you. I wish I would have listened to my gut in the beginning. Your instincts are there for a reason. Trust them and walk away. Good luck man.
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Dec 18, 2009 @ 6:41 PM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
girlcountry


Posts: 21
I have to agree with what's already been said here....as EYE said, it won't be your proudest moment and you are the one who has to look in the mirror every morning.
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Dec 18, 2009 @ 8:33 PM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
ynot7769


Posts: 20,639
but but girlcountry YOUR marrid...and i ...ummmm well errr...never mind


just kidding ya'll .... i just love to tease her tho

ok ok .MY opinion, since your coming here i've yet to be serious , i have to agree with the masses....married women are bad news...for more then just one reason but does it realy need to be MORE then one good one??
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Dec 18, 2009 @ 8:47 PM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
drcocktail87


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Dec 19, 2009 @ 11:48 PM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
tassie1


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Dec 20, 2009 @ 11:20 AM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
ynot7769


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Dec 21, 2009 @ 5:58 AM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
tassie1


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Dec 22, 2009 @ 10:58 PM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
secretsexkitten


Posts: 65
Well I know you've already heard this but I felt like putting my two cents in. I also think you should stay away from her. I've been with a few married men (not counting the one's who's wives were involved) and while it's exciting at the time, it's really not good in the long run. The last one started getting attached to me and talked about ending his marriage, when to me it was just sex. I cut him off completely before it got too bad, but sometimes I wish it would have never happened.

I'm probably a horrible person to advise on this anyway, I have a bad history of getting involved with already taken men.
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Mar 18, 2010 @ 2:56 PM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
gymfreak713


Posts: 5
No way dude. been there done that myself... not a good feeling afterwards
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Jan 27, 2013 @ 12:05 AM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
StraddleMyNose


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NO!
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Dec 8, 2013 @ 9:50 PM Should I get involved with a married chick???    
Slowman200


Posts: 3
Run like hell. Once a whore, always a whore.
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