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Nov 23, 2006 @ 3:41 PM Does this site really work?    
HORNY_VAM


Posts: 1
No , I don't think so , the only ladies that I've known over here are 1000s of miles away , and all the ones which are over here in cali are either fake or weird , none of them would reply even if they did they're like " u're so sweet , thanks " , that's all you'ld get of out them !
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Nov 24, 2006 @ 12:18 AM Does this site really work?    
Mechanic216


Posts: 1
I have been on this site for a long time and on other dating sites the vast majority of women want college degree,young,hung,good looking.
Tell me would you still be married two years from now? NOT ! I myself have had a 19 year and a 4 year relationship the first was a good one but didn't want to marry I wanted a commitment,Yes me, the second she just wanted to get her boyfriend mad by marrying me Why? yes I was used.
I would never do that! When I love a woman it's just one!
So you tell me I'm looking for love sex and marrage is this a new thing?
Oh! I'm still single and haven't had any sex for a year is it because I'm too picky or
what everyone else here telling the truth?
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Nov 28, 2006 @ 10:17 PM Does this site really work?    
labia_lover


Posts: 2
I have to admit that i have been on several sites and pretty much the same situation ratio usually 75% men 2%ladies and at least half of the ladies are a link to their own website. Most are looking for the extraodinary so if your an everage joe, well do the math ! Pics are the only redeeming thing on here...
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Nov 28, 2006 @ 10:18 PM Does this site really work?    
labia_lover


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sorry my post should have said 25% ladies 75 % men
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Nov 29, 2006 @ 11:59 AM Does this site really work?    
heywhynot


Posts: 1
I have been on this site off and on for awhile now, in the old days there were a few nice playful ladies on here, i met a nice gal and we dated for awhile.It didnt work out so i came back, sense i have been back the emails i have sent out are either not opened or not answered, leaves me to believe that the ladies profiles in the bayarea or fake or porn sites.
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 9:57 PM Does this site really work?    
dakota69


Posts: 1
Just Because some one does not answer your e mail does not mean there FAKE. I will go look at the profile and see if I like... If I do not reply to someone it simply means im just not intrested.
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Dec 11, 2006 @ 10:12 PM Does this site really work?    
phoenix_mylo


Posts: 16
I agree that if someone isn't interested, not responding is a perfectly reasonable thing to do. But that's not how I measure what's fake. Consider that most guys here send an e-mail to someone's profile, if a reply is received at all, it contains a link to a webcam site, or a competing adult personals site, along with some generic message like "Hi, I'm Buffy and I want you to see me get off on my {email address removed}!!! *hair toss*"

Or some such nonsense. That's fake. And that's all a lot of guys get from this site. *sigh*
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Dec 26, 2006 @ 7:38 PM Does this site really work?    
SimiRider


Posts: 1
The answer to the question is. NO.
This site is just a front for other sites, so you can "upgrade" your account, just so you can give them more money for nothing, because there is nothing here.

As for you guys that say, " O i've hooked up with so and so, and this many people and we did such and such."
You're full of shit, and a liar on top of it. And you are getting paid by the "upgraders" to write those letters, just to keep people on the leash.
Been there, done that, based on personal experience I have some idea of what it is i'm talking about.
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Jan 7, 2007 @ 4:00 AM Does this site really work?    
lazyspoon


Posts: 3
I think that the e-mails people give w/no response are WORSE than the ones they get with the spam.

OK, so the spam validates simply that you are not to go to that user & e-mail them anymore. Someone who doesn't respond might simply be regarded with "Oh, maybe they were busy and didn't get back to me because they skipped over my e-mail when returning to the site". In my view, that's called consideration. If I e-mailed again and got a "Hey d00d, I didn't e-mail you back because I wasn't interested, now piss off!" I'd be pretty upset. I'd rather know, out of common courtesy, that you weren't interested, rather than leave my imagination to guess or "assume" that you weren't or some other reason.

And as for craigslist: We've stopped on craigslist. we get a lot of flakes... A LOT. we must have e-mailed a good 100-200 people, got 1 who showed up. She was a nice girl, and we never really clicked physically.

So does this site work? I hope all the regulars here can attest to all the good reviews & really inspire some hope in people... so that people will come through themselves & maybe not be so flakey.
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Jan 11, 2007 @ 2:34 PM Does this site really work?    
hothorny858


Posts: 1
cali girls are all talk so far. i agree.
u hear that ladies proove me wronge pls
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Jan 11, 2007 @ 3:39 PM Does this site really work?    
crjxdriver1


Posts: 1
I agree I think this site is payed advertment and thats about it
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Jan 12, 2007 @ 5:11 PM Does this site really work?    
FFMatt


Posts: 9
Perhaps there is two main misunderstandings that go on here that lead to your lack of involvement with others from here.

First, Men and women have differant needs in the bedroom. Pretty much the only thing both parties have in common is they like orgasms. And that's pretty much the end of the discussion for men. For guys, they like sex... it's that simple. Women like sex too, but I find for the most part that they crave the attention they get from it. If they think that a guy is gonna GET it in, GET it off, GET it out, and GET it home... Well... that's just called the "four get it" method. So a guy's first mistake here is assuming that he's shopping for a utility.

Secondly, it's the approach. As stated before, there is a 3:1 ratio for men to women. Your odds are against you. I'd bet on the house. Women's biggest problem tends to be that guys are creeps (see the first issue for an understanding). You increase your likelihood of being considered in this catagory if you Have a penis picture on your profile (you can trade the cock shot later - make yourself look presentable now). And don't proposition a woman with an opening e-mail. A geek would call that a critical fail on your charisma save. That, in other words, means you blew it. Dispite this being an Adult site, the majority of women still want to be swooned a little bit before they remove their pants for you.

In conclusion, Charisma is the ultimate characteristic. If you can avoid setting off any red flags, your a shoe-in. That is, unless there is nobody in your area, and then your screwed... or rather not screwed. heh.

Somebody once said, "If you act like you haven't gotten any in 20 years, then you'll likely not get any for 20 years."
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Jan 20, 2007 @ 2:47 AM Does this site really work?    
HeruFeanor


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A lot of people are saying this site is just a scam. Honestly, that doesn't make a lot of sense to me. Admittedly, I've only been on here for a couple days, not long enough to have anything that can be qualified as success or failure, but this appears to be the most honest, up-front sexually-oriented dating site I've found.

Every single other one I've tried, and I've tried a lot, has a free service that is so gimped that you literally can't do anything worth while. You can do a search, view thumbnail, and see one or two key details, but you can't see the rest of their profile or pictures, initiate any kind of communication, or anything, until you pay them a heft sum of money.

This site, by contrast, allows you access to all but a few special, advanced features on the free site. So you can't see who's viewed you. Big deal. If they viewed you and didn't wink or message you, they probably weren't very interested anyway.

So what's the problem? Well, I think FFMatt hit on half of it. Too many guys are being overzealous, trying to jump into the sex and skip the whole getting-to-know-you stage. Even those women who like a lot of casual sex still generally want to get to know the guys they fuck enough to know if they like them or not, as people, before they hop into bed with them. Avoid the "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" syndrome. Remember, if a woman is talking to you on this site, it's almost certainly because she's sizing you up for potential sexual interactions of some sort, because it's the nature of the site. No need to rush it. You'll likely just scare her off.

The other half of the problem is that there just aren't enough people on this site. I'm hoping that's something that will improve with time, but if AdultMatchdoctor doesn't get off it's ass and do some serious PR, it's not likely to change too quickly. The success of any kind of dating site is always highly dependent on having a large enough pool of people to draw on to be able to make effective matches. There's a grand total of 9 women looking for men within 50 miles of me. This doesn't tell me the site is a scam or a front, but that it's just not big enough.
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Jan 25, 2007 @ 10:29 PM Does this site really work?    
phoenix_mylo


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Well, FFMatt and HeruFeanor have both made some very valid and intelligent points. And I agree... to a point. Consider this - I have two profiles on-line here... this one, which is fairly recent, and another that I've had for years and only occasionally log into and NEVER post to the forums with. In the last few months, I've noticed an interesting phenomenon. I am now occasionally seeing that I'm receiving the occasional wink. It didn't take me long to realize that virtually every wink I have received at this profile has also been received at the other, mostly inactive profile. Since the winks have a time stamp, I've also noticed that the winks are doled out at exactly the same instant. In my mind, this is clearly fraud on the part of the website. They have a wink-bot. Any one else getting these? Don't get excited... it's probably fake. Add that to the fact that every response to my profile that's been received is a link to a porn site, as are every response to every profile that I've written to, it just tells me that there is a very high rate of fake profiles on here, and it's probably built into the site. It's ok for this sort of thing (forums), and I'm sure there are occasional successes, but overall, there's a lot of garbage to wade through to get to the real women who come here. Caveat emptor.
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Jan 25, 2007 @ 10:59 PM Does this site really work?    
HeruFeanor


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That's an interesting observation, Phoenix, and something most of us can't notice, since we don't have two accounts. It makes me wonder if the accounts doing the winking are fake, or if the site is simply throwing out fake winks to give an illusion of greater activity.

So far, of the 6 winks I've received, all of them APPEAR to be valid accounts. It's hard to be sure without talking to them (and only one of them is somebody I'm interested in communicating with), but if they ARE bots, somebody's put a lot more effort into them then into any of the MySpace bots I'm used to dealing with.

The messages I've sent in reply to these winks have all made it clear that I'm responding to a wink. This makes me curious if I'll receive any confused messages back saying they didn't actually wink me.
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Jan 25, 2007 @ 11:20 PM Does this site really work?    
phoenix_mylo


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6 winks? That's about what I've received so far. The latest is from a profile indicating a 42 year old divorcee in San Diego. And yes, it was received at both profiles. They ALL look real, but think about it... how hard would it be to create a fake profile? Not very... I'd be curious if you've received any reply to messages sent, or do they just go "high and dry".

I just delete them. I see no point in responding to a spam bot. I figure that if someone was really interested, they'd make their presence known. But there isn't much demand for 47 year old married guys... and I'm ok with that. *shrug*
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Jan 26, 2007 @ 1:39 AM Does this site really work?    
HeruFeanor


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All the messages I've sent out were sent out today, so it's too early to tell if they'll get back to me.

To be honest, I'm guessing a big part of the problem is just poor administration of the site. They can be so slow about approving pictures and tags, I wouldn't be surprised if they're lax about finding and deleting bot accounts as well. It's possible they encourage them, but that seems like it would be a generally bad policy. They'd do better in the long run by making a primo site that people actually want to use in large numbers, and this seems like a pretty obvious truth. It's easier to believe it has more to do with laziness then malice. One need only spend some time on MySpace to learn, very quickly, how opportunists will take advantage of social networking sites for advertising through fake profiles. Fortunately, MySpace's admins actually actively crack down on bots.
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Jan 26, 2007 @ 8:56 AM Does this site really work?    
phoenix_mylo


Posts: 16
Good luck with those replies. I'm convinced that the ones I've received are not real, but it's entirely possible at least some of the ones you have are. I'll keep an eye on this thread to see how it works out for you.

I don't think the problem is bad administration (although I agree that it's bad). I think it's more a matter of just what the site owners are trying to accomplish. It's obviously a money making venture - and that's fine. They get paid through user subscriptions and advertising. There is a limit on who would want to advertise on an adult sex site, so what we're going to see is ads for other adult sex sites. So what if it's competition, so long as it's revenue. And if some schlup like me gets a wink and decides to upgrade to a paying membership to respond to it, so much the better. They will have accomplished their real goal, which is to earn money from the site.
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Jan 26, 2007 @ 3:45 PM Does this site really work?    
HeruFeanor


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Why would you have to update to a paid account to reply? I just have a free account, and it lets me send mail and winks freely. The only feature I've found that's disabled is seeing who's viewed me.
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Jan 27, 2007 @ 5:28 AM Does this site really work?    
FFMatt


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Add that to the fact that every response to my profile that's been received is a link to a porn site, as are every response to every profile that I've written to, it just tells me that there is a very high rate of fake profiles on here, and it's probably built into the site. It's ok for this sort of thing (forums), and I'm sure there are occasional successes, but overall, there's a lot of garbage to wade through to get to the real women who come here. Caveat emptor.

I haven't been bothered by a winkbot yet, or any porn link profiles... I have, however been in contact with a few people who seem to be genuine, and I have even talked to one on the phone. I think this site works fine if you know how to use it. If somebody sends me a wink, I will look them over, and wink back if I think I might be interested. Then it is up to them to send a msg. If I wink at somebody and they wink back, then I will send a short msg to see how they are doing and get more familiar with them as a person. To see if they send up any red flags and such, you have to converse for a while. I do like this site. While it is entirely about sex, the people that i've talked to are interesting and engaging, not just shady people.

Hope you have better luck in the future. And I've read your profile, You might want to rewrite it. You sound a bit shady. the question that comes to mind when reading it is, "does your wife know what your doing?" And I'm sure most readers will get the same impression. If she does know, perhaps you should include that in your profile so people don't get a bad image of you. And if she doesn't know, perhaps that's something you need to go over with her first... If this is something you absolutely need to do, then it would be better to have your wife's support (and realize in that she might also be interested in some variety). That's just my perspective comming from a 3rd year psychology/human sexuality student.
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