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The Gentle Giant
I'm a big guy at 6'1" and 235 pounds, and I'm also one of the more easy going people you're likely to meet. I'm very earthy, physically and emotionally, as shown by my dark blond hair, my deep blue eyes, and my near immovable temper. I am naturally shy around people I don't know, and tend to come off as a very quiet person, but if I like you and feel some connection, you'll find a very rich and intelligent person hiding beneath. I love music, psychology, and technology, and am always looking to learn more about all of them. My favorite bands are always changing, but I'll listen to just about anything willingly except most country and top 40 hip hop kind of stuff. My favorite subject to learn about is psychology and it is what I would like to base my career on in the future. I also like figuring out how programs work, and like in-depth computer games and working with photo shop.
Sexually, I'm a very open and diverse person, but there are a few things that remain more or less constant. First of all, I am not into blood/urine/scat play or CBT. Most everything else I've been exposed to I'll at least try once (or twice if I'm still not sure). I am into BDSM but haven't been able to experience much of it yet so I still don't quite know what I do and don't like. I am interested in both males and females (and several things in between), and regardless who I'm with I'm likely have most of my fun making my partner cum as hard as possible. That doesn't mean I don't like to get off myself but I love to please. I am usually at least a little submissive, but I have to switch it up every once in a while. I am very limited in my experience so far, but I am eager to learn as much as possible about human pleasure (especially yours).
The person I would like to meet
First off, I am here for Friends with Benefits and consistent play partners more than anything else. If we can't keep up a conversation outside of the bedroom, you'll never get me into it. I am respectful and expect the same in return. I really don't know who it is I am looking for yet, but I can try to lay down some guidelines.
Respect is most important, and to me, being honest is just about the most respectful thing you can do for someone. So no BS. Chances are I won't tell you everything right away, but I won't lie to you, so I expect the same. If I don't want to answer a question you ask truthfully, I will tell you, and I expect the same in return. You don't have to be muscular, tight, and fit to catch my attention, but if you don't care about your appearance, it shows.
As far as men are concerned, I don't like jocks, macho men, etc. and confidence is good, but if you come across as cocky I probably won't go any further with you. I (as much as I hate the cliche) would prefer a sensitive man to a bad boy. Tattoos and piercings and a little rebellion are great, but showing off how cool you are is different, and it doesn't mean nearly as much to me as a good conversation. I still don't know what I find hot in a man, so the only way for me to know if I'm attracted to you is if I see your pics.
As far as women are concerned, I don't much care for your average hot blonde. It's really hard for me to define my sense of beauty in women as well, but eyes and hair can be much more attractive to me than big tits and a bubble butt. I'm one of those rare guys that looks at a girl's face before her breasts, so if they're your biggest asset, not interested.
Really, if you're interested in me, send me a message just saying what it is you like about me, what I might like about you, and anything you want to ask and we'll see if we hit it off.
About my work
My work right now is mostly just for the purpose of paying bills, I am not particularly fulfilled with my current job but I am going to school for a reason. I would like to eventually be involved in some kind of psychological work, but being nineteen I still don't have a perfectly clear picture of what I want my future to look like.
What do you like to do for fun/hobbies?
Music is probably my biggest outlet at the moment, I love to sing and have my ipod playing quite a bit. I also have been discovering some local music lately, which has been fun. I do tend to spend a good bit of time on the computer, sometimes playing a game and sometimes doing different things online. Never much got into myspace/facebook/twitter etc. I also like to work with photos that I or friends have taken and refining them with photoediting software. I go through spurts where I read a lot, but haven't been lately. I watch some movies and tv shows online and dvd fairly frequently. I'm also almost always up for a good conversation.
What is your academic background?
I am currently a student, in my first year of college, and I am studying for an associates now, but plan to go for a bachelor's in psychology after that.
What do you think is your best quality?
I think my best quality is probably my willingness to be empathetic. It's a quality that's rare in men, and while it does cause me some hardships, it allows me to connect to others on some very deep and passionate levels. My favorite thing to do is learn and understand, and when it comes to other people, that becomes empathy. I want to learn what makes you tick, and understand why you feel the way you do. It seems to me that empathy is integral to a healthy relationship whether that means friends, lovers, or fuck buddies, as even in sexual pleasure, understanding what makes your lover moan with ecstasy lets you bring them to new heights.
What one thing would you change about your personality if you could?
I think I would actually be less easy going. It makes it hard for me to get irritated with, and subsequently change, the things that are wrong with my life. I am very accepting of the hand I've been dealt, and I feel like if I just got angry with the way things were a little more it would be easier to make changes. But then again, that easy going nature is probably my biggest asset when dealing with other people, as it gives me a vast well of patience and acceptance to draw upon. I have been of the school of thought that going back and changing something about yourself, or your life wouldn't be worth it, because then who knows who you would become.
What one question would you want answered in an initial email from another member?
What interests you in me, why would I be interested in you, and what is it that you would want out of a relationship with me? I know that's three, but they are all equally important.
Describe your physique.
As I said before, I'm a big guy, my height lets me carry those few extra pounds fairly well. I am fairly proportional. That being said, I'm no fitness guru, nor am I all muscle (though I am strong), but I'm definitely not the round and fat body type. I've got some extra padding, but I would prefer to be called curvy over just about anything else. I like to think I've got a good face, and a nice thick head of hair, so if you don't mind your partner not being a professional athlete, you may find something you really like in me.
What do you do well sexually?
I love to eat pussy, and the first chance I got to do so, I went until my lover couldn't count her orgasms anymore, and my whole body was shaking from passionate exhaustion, about to pass out from not breathing enough and licking and tasting so passionately it went all the way through me. I love to use my tongue, lips, and fingers to make my lovers moan, and one day would love the chance to bring the same passion to a man's cock. I have never gotten the chance, but I have a feeling I would give an awesome blowjob too.
What is the favorite thing you like sexually done to you?
Honestly, I love to be stretched. whether by a man or woman, it doesn't matter (women have smaller hands), but the feeling of my hole being opened further and further is incredible. That being said, I still love good old fashioned intercourse, but much of my pleasure from that is from making my partner moan and gasp. Out of things being done exclusively to me, being stretched is heavenly.
What fantasy(s) are you still waiting to experience?
Well, I haven't been able to experience a lot sexually so there are a lot of fantasies still waiting to be fulfilled. For starters, to be able to get a man rock hard and begging to fuck me with my mouth and hands, then taking him deep inside is a big one. I have fantasized about being on the receiving end of sex for several years, and still have not had the opportunity to have my virginity taken by a man. Really, ideally I would love to be used as a personal sex toy for a couple, using every part of my body that I can at once purely for the pleasure of both a man and a woman. Even if my dick didn't get touched the whole night, to be able to eat a woman out while her man pulls me back onto his cock is one of my greatest fantasies.
I am also into some BDSM, and have had very little chance to practice it. I do know that a fast, rhythmic flogging can really turn me on, and would love to be tied into place to be used (and maybe even a little abused). I still don't have a really good idea of my boundaries such as pain tolerance and how tightly my movements could be restrained yet, but would love to learn more.
What fantasy(s) have you already experienced?
I have been on the receiving end of some great anal play from a woman, which was incredible, and have also been flogged and done some flogging both of which were really fun. Probably my favorite (although not exactly sexual) has been some puppy play I have done. Being put on my knees and collared, then following my madame (or master) around on all fours, playing, being pet and scratched behind the ears, and even just cuddling up against them like a pup are some of the greatest feelings I have experienced.
Do you have any STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)?
No I am DDF, hiv neg, etc. I only play safe with those who are the same, so if that's not you, sorry, nothing against you I just have to keep my safety in mind.
Are you looking for a one night stand, to play for a while, or a long-term Adult relationship?
I guess I'm looking to play for a while. I would greatly prefer friends with benefits or a consistent play partner or two than any NSA one night stands.
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