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Sub Fem Seeking Mistress, Play Partner, Friend
I'm a submissive, relatively shy, married, bisexual, polyamorous* woman. I enjoy movies, music, good food and conversation. I'm a bit of a homebody... I've never liked bars much because of the crowds and noise, but I like to go out to dinner or a movie, or on a walk or drive. Personality-wise, I'm a little crazy... openly sexual with a dark sense of humor. I enjoy BDSM and am submissive in all relationships (it's a personality trait). I have loved women in the past and am looking for a similar experience with the potential for long-term involvement.
(*Our marriage allows for additional partners as a responsible avenue to fulfillment. We're not "swingers" or cheaters.)
The person I would like to meet
The ideal woman is similar to me in tastes and preferences, dominant enough to produce movement in the relationship, and poly (or poly-curious). Honesty is paramount. Users and pushers need not apply.
About my work
I work in customer service, and love helping others. The work is stressful, but I seem to be suited for it. My visible position makes it difficult to network with discretion, but I try.
What do you like to do for fun/hobbies?
I surf the Net a lot, watch movies, enjoy music, write poetry and prose, read, cook, crochet and hang out. I like to go window shopping on occasion, to take walks and talk. I like dreaming about the future and making plans, even if it's only for fun.
My idea of a great date
A good date might start with meeting for coffee or lunch. We sit, talk and laugh, just enjoying each other's company. Maybe we decide to catch a movie or snuggle on my couch for a while... but we both know that we are compatible and can spend time together without pressure. A great date is when we're both able to share something important and express whatever comes up.
What do you find attractive in people?
I am drawn toward a sense of humor, intelligence and down-to-earth attitude. When someone can listen without judging and treat others as equals, I find that very appealing.
What do others do that irritate you?
I hate when educated people become pompous. Nothing makes me crazier than a smart person who can't have fun because s/he's stuck on being smart. I don't like loud, obnoxious people who seem to have a "look at me" sign on their foreheads (although I don't mind loud, obnoxious moments). I also don't like liars, cheaters and manipulators.
What do you think is your best quality?
I'd have to say that it's my understanding. I can forgive a lot and bend a lot for a person I care about. Maybe I'm a sentimental mushball, but I think that giving to others is important, especially if you expect a little wiggle room yourself.
What one thing would you change about your personality if you could?
I'd be a little more outgoing. I can be shy and a little flustery, especially meeting someone I find attractive. But honestly, with the right people, I can be really fun and spontaneous. It's just getting over that hump of shyness.
What one question would you want answered in an initial email from another member?
Are you in a relationship and, if so, is that relationship poly or open? Is the other person willing to contribute with honesty and help make this work? Are you understanding of my poly relationship and willing to work toward a mutually beneficial relationship? (I guess that's three... sorry! lol)
Describe your physique.
I think I'm pretty average... not really fit but curvy and fairly slim. My weight is healthy for my height.
What do you do well sexually?
I listen. I really enjoy pleasing my partner and take instruction well. I like to roleplay and help fulfill fantasies.
What is the favorite thing you like sexually done to you?
In general, I enjoy being dominated, allowed to please others and appreciated. I really enjoy being kissed, touched, talked dirty to, and spanked. I'm very easy to handle...
What fantasy(s) are you still waiting to experience?
I have so many... most revolve around BDSM, being dominated, humiliated, used and abused.
What fantasy(s) have you already experienced?
A few roleplaying fantasies... and my husband and I have shared an experience with a woman. (I'd like to do that again, provided the right woman is out there...)
Do you have any STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)?
No. My husband and I are both checked after playing with a new partner, and are very discriminating in choosing partners.
Are you looking for a one night stand, to play for a while, or a long-term Adult relationship?
Ultimately, I'd like to find a third partner for my marriage. However, realistically, I'm looking for a long-term play partner I can trust and invite into my family without the requirement of exclusivity. Just be my friend, play and have fun, be honest about what you're doing outside of our time, and follow safety rules.
Free Space. Say anything you want!
I get asked a lot how my marriage works, so here goes: I'm married and happy with my husband. But we understand that one person cannot fill every need and want for another person. So we're open to fall in love and have relationships with others without sacrificing our relationship.
Before I begin a sexual relationship with a woman, she has to be willing to meet with him. If he feels that she's unsafe, I respect that and do not continue. Every partner needs to be honest about sexual history and willing to practice safe sex outside of our time. If my partner is married or in a relationship, that partner must also be involved. (This isn't just to protect from STDs, but also to ensure that no one is lying about the relationship. Everything is above-board.)
Of course, my husband likes to watch and participate when I am with a woman, and I enjoy it when he is there. But that is dependent on everyone's feelings. Having sex with my husband is not a requirement for being with me. I am looking for me, not for him.
Most importantly, my primary relationship is solid. I will not be leaving my husband for anyone. There is no need for that; there's room in our love for more. Anyone who pushes for me to leave him, or tries to seduce him with the intent of breaking up our marriage, will no longer be a partner.
I know this seems like a lot of work, but it doesn't have to be. Just meet both of us before things get sexual and talk. If you're married, bring your husband. We'll chat, get a feel for each other, and go from there. If you're genuine, there's no problem.
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