Seeking Women: 30 - 80
Cedar Rapids, Iowa
Last Activity: > 3 months ago
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living is not for the timid....
I live my life at the edge of what I know and understand. Learning occurs where we don't know...and aren't comfortable...not where we think we got it. I love the nature of risk, as it forces growth and stretching. I don't take reckless risks...I simply venture into unknowns to play as hard as I can.
The person I would like to meet
Do any of us really know the person we want to meet? We think we do, we think we've got it all under control. And then life comes along and whips our head around as we seek to catch another glimpse of the one we just can't figure out as to why we keep staring. I want a woman deeply alive...whose sense of play is that laughter is the best medicine, sex the best therapy, and adventure, the best path.
About my work
Work for me is problem solving, whether it is getting broadband to rural areas and small towns in the rural Midwest, rural Latin American, or rural Africa. I use to teach at the collegiate level...one course being the soc of sexuality. Is there anything that is work about getting college students to lay down their moral confinement to understand their moral relationship???
What do you like to do for fun/hobbies?
anything that illuminates my world.
My idea of a great date
A date is relational...there is no great date without a great other person, and that person in dialogue with oneself leads one to the joining that makes 'great' a thing between the two. With one it might be NASCAR. With another it might be watching stars in the nude on warm July evening in the grass strips between corn strips in the Midwest...with another it might be a night in an art museum, at a show of new artists who love color in abundance. "I' does not make a great date...a 'we' does.
If you are divorced/widower, you can talk about how that happened here.
divorced, 22 yrs ago. She liked to walk. I liked to sprint. We couldn't find the pace that wouldn't drag the other...we are still great friends...and I still think she is a most wondrous gift...I just can't live with her.
What is your fantasy vacation?
Hiking the badlands of Nebraska or South Dakota...and discovering a new species of dinosaur...skull first...
What is your academic background?
doctoral a couple times.
Where did you last vacation and did you like it?
along the shores of Lake Erie. I love it everytime...I love sitting near the shore...and reading and writing and watching...and catching up on sleep!
What do you find attractive in people?
their growth...possibility...and voice that speaks their deeper stories.
What do others do that irritate you?
moving in herds, not towards the light, but towards the darkness. We are a species who murders its children and calls it 'collateral damage'.
What do you think is your best quality?
listening...seeing...and making visible what the other struggles with..
What one thing would you change about your personality if you could?
can't think of anything
What one question would you want answered in an initial email from another member?
what is the fire of her life...
Describe your physique.
normally, I'm tall, medium build. I've gained some weight since getting back from Africa and am in the process of leaving it behind.
What do you do well sexually?
listen and respond. Play. Coax...and follow.
What is the favorite thing you like sexually done to you?
depends on a partner, her build, her skills, and her comfort. Sex is relational. Why want from one what the other cannot give easily, freely and with joy?
What fantasy(s) are you still waiting to experience?
having sex when I am 100...over and over.... ;-)
What fantasy(s) have you already experienced?
don't really fantasize about sex in an abstract in that way...
Do you have any STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)?
Are you looking for a one night stand, to play for a while, or a long-term Adult relationship?
I'm looking for what life brings...if its a great one night...then it is. But its more likely not to be...because if I open that door...its always been with someone who stuck around in some form or fashion for some time - friend/lover/partner.
Free Space. Say anything you want!
Hope you all are having a great time on here! Good luck with your adventure on here!
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