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I MET A GREAT MATCH HERE IN A MONTH! STILL GOOD!
I think I am rethinking this whole thing. I don't want anyone here to know anything about me. I am extremely FEMININE and SOMEWHAT SUBMISSIVE but a scaredy-cat too. That whole thing requires so much trust and confidence in someone. I am therefore very trepidacious.
The person I would like to meet
I probably don't want to really meet anyone from this site. This is scary to me.
Well, except every time I think that I remember how the second man I met here the last time was so wonderful. He made me happier than anyone I have ever been with, and that is saying a lot because I have been unusually happy and successful with all of the men in my life except one.
The main reason I use this site is that it allows members to do more writing. That is the reason I can zero in on promising profiles so quickly. I can read through essays which gives me a better feel for the person presenting themselves. Saves time and is much smarter than sites that give so little space that everyone looks the same except for their pictures.
About my work
I am a retired administrative assistant, which means I didn't make much money, and I did much of the work. Do I sound bitter? I am not.
I worked with the most wonderful man in a small two person division. The Dane, my ex-husband, bought me five years of additional retirement benefits by paying only what the city/state had to contribute. That was a wonderful deal that is no longer available. Now, I have full medical coverage and a little secure retirement income.
The Dane was 16 years younger than I, and he wanted me retired so I could travel with him full time.
My state is only one of two states that provides for employee retirement benefits by law in a way the legislature is less likely to be able to withdraw or alter those benefits or payouts. I feel very lucky.
At least I didn't make that little bit of money doing social work, which is what I trained for. I just didn't know any social workers that didn't want to commit suicide. The administrative assistant job was far better. Even the money was better.
What do you like to do for fun/hobbies?
I do Medieval recreation with the Society for Creative Anachronism (SCA). There are brilliant historians, testosterone exuding jock fighters (with bamboo pole arms), the sexiest belly dancers you'll ever see, artisans who handcraft metal armour and leather goods (including lovely thigh high boots), computer geeks, you name it. My ex-husband came from Denmark to the Pennsic War and we fell into each other near his lake encampment. Let's just say the SCA has been VERY good to me.
Also, I like music. I LOVE THE BLUES. If God wanted to do anything else special for me I would choose being able to sing the blues like Janiva Magness or Etta James, although I am quite aware some of you boys might prefer he gave me a rock hard, much hotter body as every male probably doesn't like my "soft to the touchness" as much as the exes!
My idea of a great date
I still say it is in his kiss. If not, forget it, even when you don't want to necessarily. There is nothing worse than being with a wonderful man without that electricity flowing back and forth like the magic that it is!
If you are divorced/widower, you can talk about how that happened here.
None of your business. Well, let's just say if he had not become involved in a totally dangerous business deal that jeopardized MY money also, I never would have divorced him which hurt his feelings. He stayed for 18 months after the divorce and we were still happy together. He was a Viking God and absolutely wonderful. I had no choice. He ended up going home to Denmark and Sweden after the deal I worried about collapsed.
With the few other men in my life it was always circumstances that took us apart. I have only separated once on bad terms and that was with my first husband who had a mental illness that I was not equipped to deal with successfully. His family lived in Utah, and I did not realize mental illness ran in the family until it was too late. He could be shockingly mean, but I have not been with one mean man since.
I dated two men that had to move cross country. At the time one of them had to go I was working, and afraid to go with him because I couldn't afford to give up my civil service position with the secure retirement to make the move.
He used to call me every Friday at work for years. My boss would make sure he was there so he could catch the phones for me. He would say, "It's Danny, I'll get the phones - talk as long as you like." We are still close friends, but he finally found someone there and has the family which he deserves and wanted with me.
What is your fantasy vacation?
I've done it - Europe, Scandinavia, Argentina, Uruguay, Brazil.....wouldn't mind doing it again or the opportunity of all the places and people I haven't experienced yet.
What is your academic background?
Where did you last vacation and did you like it?
Argentina with a friend to buy a vineyard, for them, not me...I would rather live there permanently than almost anywhere else. I love the people, the culture, the food, the weather, and especially the architecture in Buenos Aries. I LOVE TO TRAVEL. IF YOU LOVE TRAVEL you might be for me.
What do you find attractive in people?
It's still in his kiss. It helps if he has a somewhat warped sense of humor.
What do others do that irritate you?
Arrogance and no sense of humor.
What do you think is your best quality?
What one thing would you change about your personality if you could?
Nothing. I might not be perfect, but I am pretty used to me by now.
What one question would you want answered in an initial email from another member?
Sometimes I think the less I know about these people the better off we all are.
Well, not really. I was so lucky the first time here because the man was very good at describing himself in his profile and essay.
Describe your physique.
Curvy. A few extra pounds. I could use some serious exercise over here! (I am laughing right now really hard.) I did work out at a gym for awhile. I really couldn't tell any difference. They need to let you make more than one choice up there in the profile section! I think I am fat. I have discovered that women see themselves as fat when men absolutely do not. Men seem to think I am just more curvy than fat - or maybe they are just telling me that to be very kind (my men are the kind, kind). My Danish ex husband said I had the softest skin of anyone he had ever touched. I find I attract really wonderful, supportive, sexy, and attractive men so I don't obsess over my weight. If you want a boy shaped girl, you are out of luck here.
I do Medieval recreation so I dress sexier than average - lots of cleavage. If you aren't comfortable with that - again - out of luck here.
My most recent relationship partner told me the other day that I am the most confidant woman he has ever met, and that makes me even more physically attractive. I think that is based on my WONDERFUL luck with men. He is something unbelievably special just like the one before him.
I will add more photos as soon as I can figure out how to crop my photos enough to get them accepted here so you can better judge for yourself about the curvy/fat issue.
What do you do well sexually?
Well, I'm not telling. Men seem to like my ultra femininity.
What is the favorite thing you like sexually done to you?
Okay. I have had only long-term real relationships that I consider very successful. Those few men didn't have ANY trouble pleasing me, but I am not saying more than that here.
What fantasy(s) are you still waiting to experience?
Oh, God. This is like being in a cartoon.
What fantasy(s) have you already experienced?
Plenty, take my (limited) word for it.
I am extremely submissive and would like exploring bondage and discipline but only with someone I can trust and someone who is into giving a little - not just receiving. I just had someone else's fantasy in that area and we can all agree that didn't exactly work out the way everyone involved might have preferred. I have had a few laughs over it with the ex. At least there was no need for tears and nobody died. It could have been worse. I tend to be grateful for ALL the miracles in my life, if you know what I mean.
Do you have any STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)?
No. Recently tested during my annual physical. (Good, faithful, long-term relationships with someone you can really trust don't generally lead to STDs.) Never been betrayed by a man really. That's why I love them so much.
Are you looking for a one night stand, to play for a while, or a long-term Adult relationship?
I have only had long-term relationships that I consider good. Not interested in anything else. If it ain't broke, and worked out that great all my life, why fix it. It sucks that you have to try a few sometimes to get the "the one." But there is no way around it that I have found.
Free Space. Say anything you want!
Sometimes I think I must have lost my little mind to even be here. BUT I found someone really terrific here anyway. I tried not to get too tied up with one person so fast but it just happened like it often does for me. He was transferred far away. We continue to stay friends, but I can't seem to sell my house right now. I am stuck here, and it is not fair for him to have to remain seeing me for just short vacations. He has been all alone there for 18 long months. It doesn't make sense to remain together now.
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