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SonataInB
49-year-old Male
Seeking Women: 25 - 55
Mobile, Alabama
United States
Last Activity: > 3 months ago

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Can you play the AppassionataI am quite passionate

About myself
I am a well-educated, well-traveled, reasonably well read man with diverse and ecletic tastes. I flatter myself that I am easy on the eyes and work out daily to stay in "fightin' trim."

I am quite passionate yet reasonably vanilla in my sexual tastes. I am, however, more than willing to experiment with a partner I trust. I will draw the line at pain or personal degredation. I take my most pleasure from the pleasure of my partner.

The person I would like to meet
I am quite passionate and seek the same in my partner ... a woman who understands that shared physical intimacy is a sacrament - one of the the greatest gifts one can share with another. Sex for the sake of pure sex is NOT what I seek.

There is nothing I find more attractive, at least initially than a woman who knows who she is and is able to express herself intelligently and directly. Ideally, I desire a real, live, passionate, funny, occasionally irreverent, always romantic, sweet, cuddly, huggable, kissable, cute, elfin wench ... or some reasonable combination thereof.

I seek primarily a lady in my position - happily married with a need for passion. Ideally, it would be something beyond a short-term commitment ... friends who connect mentally, emotional and spiritually as well as physically ... friends who can togther create an "instant pleasure dome" for stolen moments of pleasure and come away sated and refreshed by the encounter.

About my work
I work in mainly in information technology but have had many jobs throughout my adult years ranging from journalist to cook, from tank commander to martial arts instructor to vice president of administration.

I am a consummate salaried professional and give my all while at work but have no trouble leaving it behind when I walk out into the late afternoon sunshine.

What do you like to do for fun/hobbies?
I enjoy cooking and gardening, with a special love of growing herbs for my culinary creations. While I enjoy the occasional movie, I am not a huge fan of TV and would rather curl up with a good book.

I have recently begun dabbling in dog agility, but my primary love is disc golf (Frisbee golf). I play at the professional level and travel on weekends throughout the Southeast to compete in tournaments ... I may be coming to a city near you!

My idea of a great date
I believe firmly in chemistry and would want any date to start with good food and wine either home-cooked or from the kitchen of a local chef. Let the food and the wine sate of bellies as our conversation and exchanged glances fueled our hunger for more intimate courses.

In the bedroom, I believe mood and ambience are important. Candlelight is soooo sexy. My musical tastes are quite broad and music is also an aphrodisiac. I am a big fan of foreplay and prefer to start fully clothed. I believe an alluringly attired partner gradually revealed is infinitely sexier than someone who drops their clothes on the floor and jumps on the bed ready to rumble.

Oils, massage, blindfolds, perhaps restraints with a trusted partner (silk ties are my preference). I take my primary pleasure from my partner's pleasure and have a special fondness for orally pleasuring my partner.

If you are divorced/widower, you can talk about how that happened here.
Still married, but ...

My wife and I knew early in our courtship that lack of passion would be an ongoing issue in our marriage. We have explored it in counseling and had considered several physical options such as hormone therapy but decided against due to the increased risk of breast cancer associated with that regimen. For my wife's part, she suffered the loss of a brother and her father in her early teens. Her first husband had an ongoing affair and then decided he wanted a divorce. The therapist we saw for pre-marital counseling and another we had an extended series of sessions with after marriage both voiced concerns that these losses could contribute to a loss/lack of passion.

For my part, passion runs deep in me, an intrinsic part of who I am. As the years have progressed, however, I have recognized that passion and the need to share it through intimacy, while an important part of who I am, is not the be all and end all of my existence.

Thus it was with eyes wide open that we committed one to another in marriage, knowing the issue existed and persisting despite it to tie our lives to each other. I have never regretted the decision. We do share tender and intimate interludes once every several months. They are nourishing to the body and spirit.

A wise and liberal woman, my wife let me know early in our relationship that she recognized that I might need an outlet for my passion. As is often the case in many more sexually enlightened cultures of Europe and the Far East, she recognized that spouses may sometimes need occasional dalliances outside the walls of the marriage. She asked only that I be discreet and circumspect and that I not bring drama to our door.

Though the offer stood, it was several years before I decided to pursue this.

What is your academic background?
I have a B/A, am a certified database developer and an accredited journalist. I continue to take evening classes at out local university to sate my curiousity and hunger for knowledge.

Where did you last vacation and did you like it?
Last vacation was in the Smoky Mountains and it was divine.

What do you find attractive in people?
A sense of humor and especially the ability to laugh at oneself. Intelligence and a knack for witty repartee. Sensuality and passion ... an ability to give and take. Maturity.

What do others do that irritate you?
How do I begin to count the ways? Cell phones while driving, too much cheap perfume. Clothes too tight like a a pound of sausage in a half pound casing. While I prefer athletic or petite women, I am not disinclined to a lady with curves if she likes who she is and dresses to flatter her body not try to make it something it isn't. If you are a size 12 all the size 8 clothes in the world ain't going to change that.

What do you think is your best quality?
Sincerity. Like a golden retriever, I think my need to please must be genetically encoded.

What one thing would you change about your personality if you could?
I can be overly competitive. It isn't much of an issue on this site, and, in fact, it can be an advantage when I compete athletically ... but there are times I wish I could tone it down and have more fun while still competiting hard.

What one question would you want answered in an initial email from another member?
Have you read what I took so much time and care writing and are you initially attracted for the right reasons?

Describe your physique.
I work out constantly. I am lean and hard with good definition without bulk. I walk rather than run and do meditation. I will be starting a Pilates class in the Fall of '07 to promote flexibility and balance.

I don't smoke, don't do drugs and drink moderately (I'm a bit of a wine nerd). I try to eat well, though I have a weakness for gummi bears. I am disease free and get frequent checkups to stay that way. I have a vasectomy.

What do you do well sexually?
Take the time to please my partner.

What is the favorite thing you like sexually done to you?
I love my partner on top, especially if she enjoys that position and I can watch her take her pleasure at her own pace. I enjoy sensual massage.

What fantasy(s) are you still waiting to experience?
This is a teaser I wrote. If you want the rest I will send it to you.

"Smooth as Silk"

She lay helpless in the middle of the four-poster bed, her arms and legs bound comfortably with silk neckties each to a post. The velvet blindfold he had placed over her eyes prevented her vision, but had heightened her sense of smell and sound and touch to almost preternatural heights.

She was completely naked and moments earlier her lover had completed a full-body massage with scented oil. Her skin still tingled from his touch … her nipples almost painfully erect, the junction of her thighs dewy with moisture. A tiny rivulet of oil ran down from her core, sliding with maddening precision between the cheeks of her buttocks, before unerringly zeroing the tiny pink rosebud that marked her
rear passage. In the absence of any other active sensation, the progress of the droplet fired the nerve synapses in its wake … she desperately wanted to touch the area, to wipe away the maddening sensation … an itch she couldn’t scratch.

The massage had been wonderful, but strangely it had been performed with a lack of the teasing and subsequent building of passion she had come to know and love. It was more as if the purpose had been other than the seduction. Not that
she wasn’t ready for her lover sexually … her entire body was taut … she felt like a violin, tuned and tightly strung, but as yet untouched by the her lover bow - wielded with such grace and precision.

In the silence, she heard a rustle of fabric … a cotton sheet? No, there was a treble note in the movement of fabric on fabric… almost like satin or …

She felt the air above her compress ever so slightly against her skin just before the gossamer piece of raw silk made contact along the entire length of her naked form. As the silk made contact with the oil, it blotted and soaked in, clinging to her body like a second skin.



What fantasy(s) have you already experienced?
Continued ...

With attentive care, her lover reached to mold the silk more firmly to her body, shaping the fabric to her form, sculpting the silk to accentuate her small breasts and nipples protruding firmly from her puffy areolas. He completed this task by tugging almost sharply on her nipples, rolling them and pinching them to further stimulate the nerve endings … his touch sent bolts of electricity shooting from her
chest directly to her groin … the sudden heightening of her arousal causing the palpable wetness between her parted thighs to redouble …

Her lover’s hands left her breasts abruptly. She wondered what he was thinking … where he would touch her next. Suddenly, she was aware that the rest of the candle-warmed oil was being poured over the silk onto her lower abdomen just above the downy hairs that marked the top of her delta. The moisture quickly spread down, gravity and slope working to impregnate the silk with the dense, heady smelling oil … was that patchouli? Her lover’s strong hand abruptly covered her entire groin, massaging the oil and into the hair and between the outer
lips of her core.

With a sudden convulsive shock she felt first one, then two of her lovers long, strong fingers invade her … pushing the raw, oily silk up, up, up inside her. Dear God, what an incredible feeling … she wanted him to fuck her hard with his fingers … but as soon as the silk was inside, his fingers were gone, leaving in their wake only the slightly scratchy feel of the silk in the vacuum that was now the focus of her entire being. One finger made one last foray, stroking and touching and prodding at her rosebud. Slowly but firmly she felt the silk being pushed back there … she squirmed at the sensation … so unfamiliar, but mmmmmm, so welcome
… yes.

(Interested yet? There's more ...)


Do you have any STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)?
Absolutely not and never have.

Are you looking for a one night stand, to play for a while, or a long-term Adult relationship?
I do not seek sex for the sake of sex. Ideally this will be about one woman (preferably also happily married) for as long as the need for discretion dictates. I want some lady who is willling to be friends, but who is mature enough to keep our special times compartmentalized.

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