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Oxymoron seeks same for paradoxical good times.
Yes, I say I am an oxymoron. I am an intelligent man that is looking for an intelligent woman to start with friendship, move to friends plus benefits, and then on to adding her to my life alongside my wife.
Yes, ladies, you read the previous statement correctly. I am a married man and my wife and I are looking for a third to add to our lives as we are in an open relationship and have been since we first got together.
If this is something not to your liking, please move on without judging us for our open-mindedness.
If you are a lady that is as open minded as we are, please read on.
My wife and I discussed the fact that neither of us, though we love each other very much, could simply tie ourselves down to one person. Since she is bisexual, we decided that it would be other women that we attempted to bring into our lives instead of other men. (She basically told me that she did not want any other man in her life besides me. Well, this made me feel better as I did not want the competition of another male in my relationship as it would end negatively.) Since that point, we have had several women in our lives together, but they just did not work out as they either were there solely for me or solely for her. As this kept happening, we decided to stop looking for a time.
Well, that time is over. We are, again, seeking the right female that would love us both equally and we, in turn, would love her just as equally.
The person I would like to meet
(Mandatory): Starting as friends first. I do not value a relationship based on sex. I prefer a relationship that starts with friendship and then later develops into a loving and caring relationship in which everyone is at perfect ease with the others and can love all equally, including themselves.
(Mandatory): Intelligence. I cannot stand a woman that looks good but cannot think to save her own skin. "Valley Girl" types need not apply. Both my wife and I like to speak to intelligent and at least semi-intellectual people.
(Mandatory): We would like to meet an honest woman that knows what she likes, dislikes and is completely ready to defend what she believes in. She must be open minded to the fact that though my wife and I are poly-amorous we will not allow anyone to break apart our marriage.
(Optional & Preferred, but not Mandatory): Asian women, Goth girls with an up-beat side.
(Optional): The person that we wish to meet also has some kind of knowledge of the BDSM lifestyle and either should be a submissive or a switch within that lifestyle.
(Mandatory): The person that we would like to meet must be STD free, drug free and mostly alcohol free. Smoking cigarettes we don't mind so much as my wife does smoke. (A side note: I am so allergic to THC that I went into a mini coma on the first drag from a joint made from Purple Sticky Punch)
(Mandatory): No children. I know that this seems a little harsh, but I don't really think that a child needs two mommies and a daddy in such a way as this. If you have a child or are pregnant, you cannot enter into our relationship.
(Mandatory): Safe sexual practices. I don't care if you are on the pill, the implant, the patch or whatever. Safe sex is a must. I don't wish to have any children out of wedlock.
Well, that covers alot of the territory, but if you have questions, feel free to ask me.
What do you like to do for fun/hobbies?
Reading, building models, Internet games, board games (chess especially), CCG's, video games, watching movies, listening to various styles of music (I am very eclectic when it comes to what I listen to.), chatting with friends online and offline (when I get the chance) and a few other things that you would have to ask me yourself.
My idea of a great date
A great first date starts with a hug, moves on to a simple dinner at home (I love to cook for people), slides into a movie (sometimes ladies' choice), good conversation with a few laughs... and it all ends with hugs, chaste kisses on cheeks, hands or foreheads with an invitation for more interaction at a future date.
What is your fantasy vacation?
Going to Europe and exploring its historical sites, focusing on Mideival England, Scotland, and Ireland.
What is your academic background?
I am a high school graduate.
Where did you last vacation and did you like it?
It was not a vacation, but I lived in Germany while my dad was stationed there for his overseas tour. I was there when the Berlin Wall came down. I was there for the Monsters of Rock concert tour in which Iron Maiden headlined their Seventh Son album. That concert is the place where I first got laid. Her name was Alessa Jergensen...
What do you find attractive in people?
Intelligence. That is the first thing I look for. Yes, I know. You think that I am saying that so that I don't look like a typical guy. Hey, I never said that I was typical. Look at the headline for my profile...
But yes, intelligence is what makes a woman beautiful. You can look like a supermodel, but if you open your mouth and prove you are unintelligent, you will find me walking away.
What do others do that irritate you?
Oh, wow.. what a question. Do you really want that list? Okay, here is part of it.
Cut me off when I am trying to cross a street,
Pick their noses in public,
Yell at their spouse/significant other in public,
Try to apologize a little too late,
Say irritating things just to get a rise out of me,
Act like their two year old,
Use netspeak and leet speak online when conversing with me...
There are other things, but those I will tell you only if you ask
What do you think is your best quality?
My mind. I am constantly thinking about something. I can never make it be still unless I am in deep meditation... and even then I am thinking. My mind can be used as a repository of knowledge, a weapon and a trivia box. I am a walking dictionary when it comes to spelling, a human TV guide with certain programs and an abstract thinker when it comes to puzzles.
What one thing would you change about your personality if you could?
Honestly? My irritation factor. Depending on how I wake up affects how easily I get irritated, then angry.
What one question would you want answered in an initial email from another member?
The first question that I would want answered in an initial email would be as follows:
Can you tell me how many drummers the band Def Leppard has had?
Describe your physique.
No, thank you. An open minded woman will accept me when she sees me. Same goes for my wife.
What do you do well sexually?
That can be discovered later.
What is the favorite thing you like sexually done to you?
There are too many to list here... and it is something that I do not initially discuss at frist anyway.
What fantasy(s) are you still waiting to experience?
Again, something that I will not discuss here or upon first meeting.
What fantasy(s) have you already experienced?
Ask me later
Do you have any STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)?
Oh, hell no!
Are you looking for a one night stand, to play for a while, or a long-term Adult relationship?
We are looking for a life partner. If it ends up that the person we meet isn't looking for the same thing, my wife and I will simply let them keep looking.
Free Space. Say anything you want!
If your mind is not open to this style of relationship and you have still read this entire essay, you are either curious or looking for something to judge us with.
We will not be judged for we are secure in our love for each other and are willing to share our hearts with another. Unfortunately, most of the rest of you are not ready for such a bond.
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