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Long Beach, California
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I shall shower on you a million burning kisses...
I've been published in Playboy Magazine.
The person I would like to meet
I'm interested in a kindred spirit: someone who is open to new experiences and adventure as well as an ethical open relationship (polyamory); someone that is pragmatically spiritual--trying to be helpful to some and harmful to none.
I'm a professor and writer (freelance for magazine and newspapers; fiction) so creativity and intellectual curiosity are important to me.
YOU: Need to be able to talk, to hold your own in a conversation on a variety of subjects, before and after anything physical (languorous pillow talk is one of my frakking [Yep, that's a Battle Star Galactica ref--nerds welcome! ;)] fave pastimes). Willing to make mistakes and look SILLY (adventure involves doing new things and if you ain't all right with frakking up and looking dumb as you master the learning curve, you're too rigid for REAL epics). Better not be a psychotic gym fascist but likes being physical, using the body for other things besides sex (hiking, long walks, getting on beach cruisers and going shopping--yeah, I've got a basket on mine, wanna make something of it? I'm comfortable in my masculinity ;) ).
About my work
I love being a professor because I feel I'm helping my students to achieve part of their dream, or make a step in that direction (a degree, a career).
I love being a writer (fiction and nonfiction) because it doesn't feel like work (well, except for the writing part): it feels like an opportunity to explore the world and record my explorations to entertain others.
What do you like to do for fun/hobbies?
Reading, watching movies, writing, eating (I'm a bit of a gourmand--foodie is such a pedestrian word), traveling, SCUBA diving, boating, shooting, camping, hiking, biking, going to museums, going to concerts/shows (rock, punk, classical, musicals--my tastes are eclectic), napping, lazing, meandering, walking, window shopping, bullshitting with friends, meeting new people.
My idea of a great date
This is a great FIRST date--
I like dinner for a first date because it's conducive to talking and getting to know each other. But dinner followed by something (live music, for instance) works, too.
Or rummaging through shops on Melrose followed by lunch or dinner (THEN some live music on Sunset--just walk down the Strip and see what's playing ad pick our favorite spontaneously).
What is your fantasy vacation?
I've made my fantasy vacations a reality: I love travel. But when I travel, I'm not into whirlwind vacations where, for instance, you see twelve countries in ten days. I prefer to settle in and steep myself in a place. For instance, when I went to Spain, I stayed in Madrid for ten days and got to know the city a bit, going to the Prado, the Sofia Loreina and a bull fight (thanks, Hemingway).
Also, while I enjoy five star living, when I travel, I'd rather go for experience and adventure than pampering: I'm a LET'S GO travel guide user as opposed to a FODOR'S.
What is your academic background?
I have an M.F.A. (Master of Fine Arts) in Creative Writing and am a professor of English.
Where did you last vacation and did you like it?
The Caribbean side of Costa Rica--fuck yeah! I've even thought about living there.
What do you find attractive in people?
Kindness, intelligence, honesty, open-mindedness, adventurousness.
What do others do that irritate you?
I'm not a big fan of people texting and walking.
What do you think is your best quality?
Rapier wit; rabid intellectual curiosity (cheated--that's two!)
What one thing would you change about your personality if you could?
I have a laser-like focus that sometimes precludes a gestalt view of things (i.e. I can get tunnel vision).
Describe your physique.
I'm an ex-Navy SEAL and like to stay fit because many of my hobbies (hiking, backpacking, diving, biking, camping) involve being physical. I am lean and ripped but petite (wiry?). I'm 5'6" and 140 pounds and still have the same waist size I did at 18: 28 inches. Currently, I like to work out with my body (running, calisthenics--pull ups, chin ups, dips, push ups), although used to spend time in the gym lifting weights.
What do you do well sexually?
Ask what my lover enjoys and pay attention to the answers--I'm attentive and interested in making sure the other person is fulfilled because it excites me to see a woman excited.
What is the favorite thing you like sexually done to you?
There's not a whole lot I don't like in the sexual arena, but I do appreciate a partner that is interested in what works for me when it comes to whatever is going on (intercourse, fellatio . . .). So I guess what excites me is to see my partner excited and to have them engage in reciprocal behavior by asking me what I like with regard to touch and stimulation and so on (see previous question).
What fantasy(s) are you still waiting to experience?
I'd like to have sex in a dressing room. And then any fantasy my lover finds appealing, wants to try--I enjoy making others' dreams a reality.
What fantasy(s) have you already experienced?
Bondage, outdoor sex, anal sex, menage a trois, marathon sex (i.e. hiding out for a couple of days with a lover in a hotel room with room service until the place reeks of lust and spent sex--musky delirium) . . .
Do you have any STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)?
Are you looking for a one night stand, to play for a while, or a long-term Adult relationship?
I'm looking to play for a while or a long-term adult relationship.
Free Space. Say anything you want!
A sampling of favorites--
Books: TRAINSPOTTING, THE BROTHERS K, THE STAND
Movies: APOCALYPSE NOW, DONNIE DARKO, AMORES PERROS
Bands: Queens of the Stone Age, Led Zeppelin, The Cold War Kids, Jane's Addiction, Velvet Underground, Black Sabbath (with Ozzy)
Quotes: “It is better to be lucky. But I would rather be exact. Then when luck comes you are ready.” --Ernest Hemingway, _The Old Man and the Sea_
“No creature can learn that which his heart has no shape to hold.” --Cormac McCarthy, _All the Pretty Horses_
“Personally, I believe that real rock ‘n’ roll may be on the way out, just like adolescence as a relatively innocent transitional period is on the way out. What we will have instead is a small island of new free music surrounded by some good reworkings of past idioms and a vast Sargasso sea of absolute garbage.” --Lester Bangs, _Psychotic Reactions and Carburetor Dung_
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