Seeking Men: 40 - 55
Land O Lakes, Florida
Last Activity: > 3 months ago
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In Search of the One
I'm a really nice guy. I like movies, theme parks, the beach, shopping. I go on a cruise just about every year (really enjoy that). I live on my own and am content with my life, but would like a special guy to share it with. I like to go out to dance once in a while, but like staying home and watching a movie and cuddling on the couch usually. I also enjoy fun times with friends. Ask me what else you want to know.
The person I would like to meet
I'm looking for a balanced, sane guy who keeps drama out of the picture; an honest adn trustworthy partner who can be relied on in good times and in bad; a partner to enjoy life alongside me; a guy that likes to kiss and snuggle, who isn't afraid to say what is on his mind and likes to keep all communication channels wide open between us; someone who has goals and is working toward them.
About my work
One day I will retire and work will be a thing of the past. I will enjoy not having to worry about deadlines and clients. That will be nice. But for now, I have to work. I enjoy what I do a lot, but it sometimes requires more of my time and attention than I'd like. I am a professional and as such am dedicated to getting the job done no matter what I have to do to get it done. Sometimes that means long hours and travel and way too much time with colleges and clients, but I'm paid to get it done. On the other hand, I'm very fortunate that most of the time I can work from home and things are much more relaxed that way. I can take care of personal things as needed as long as I get all my work done.
What do you like to do for fun/hobbies?
I like movies, theme parks, cruising, yard work, THE BEACH, going out to eat, spending time with friends, go to the club occasionally, going for walks, staying home.
My idea of a great date
On a first date, it is important to be able to talk one-on-one and learn about what makes eachother tick. Share our current situations and where we want to go in general with our lives from here on. Find out what fun things we have in common. Discover each others' talents. Share some funny stories and laugh together. After the first few dates when we know eachother better we could do other things like go to a movie or a comedy club where the attention is not completely on each other and we can enjoy something else together. As the relationship grows it would naturally grow into simply sharing experiences together.
If you are divorced/widower, you can talk about how that happened here.
I got married when I was 19 for all the wrong reasons. My parents had divorced and basically had gone their own ways and I felt abandoned. My best friend was moving away to another part of the state and I really didn't have any other good friends. I was struggling with my sexual identity and decided getting married to a woman would fix that and I'd have a new family as a bonus. Before the wedding plans went too far, I told her that I was attractted to guys and that I wasn't sure I could go through with it. She and her best friend convinced me that it would be okay and that it was just a stage that I would grow out of. I didn't really buy it, but I felt desperate, so I went through with the wedding. Married life was not that great. We had little money at first, but what was really uncomfortable was the sex (for me). I was silently trying to force myself to be someone I wasn't. Every few years, I'd get to the point wher I couldn't do it and I'd say the marriage would have to end, but somehow I wasn't strong enough to go through a divorce and ended up vowing to try harder. I went through psychtherapy, drug therapy, religious therapy, had three kids... all trying to be what I was "supposed to be". I was miserable. Finally, after 29 years of that cycle, I grew the balls to admit to myself that I had to get out and be me. I had been waiting for everyone's approval and blessing long enough. I moved out in November of 2012 and have been thriving on my own since. Half of my income goes to my wife and kids (whom I love dearly). There is no animosity (well maybe she has a little... I don't). We all get along fine. I'm finally living life for me and it feels darn good.
What is your fantasy vacation?
I go on a cruise to the Carribean every summer if I can. My fantasy would be for some sort of cosmic timewarp to occur while I'm out there and I'd never have to come back :)
What is your academic background?
I am a custom software developer for a company that partners with medium to large size businesses to maximize their efficiency. That usually means my company will sell an accounting system to our client and provide all of the services required to get them up and running with it. Oftentimes the client requres specific functionality that is not part of the out-of-the-box software they buy and that is where I come in. When that happens, we desing a custom addon solution to accomplish their goals. I (along with a full development staff) design, document, build, test, install, and support the custom pieces. Our consulting staff trains the end users and we work very closely with all concerned.
Where did you last vacation and did you like it?
Carribean cruize and LOVED it.
What do you find attractive in people?
Sincerity, integrity, willingess to be vulnerable, willingness to put others before themselves, a great sense of humor, politeness, good manners, being relaxed and confident, knowing when to speak up or speak out and when to just let something go, being financially responsible, physical beauty.
What do others do that irritate you?
I don't like complainers or people who enjoy mocking others. I don't like any form of bigotry. I don't like loud and obnoxious people who think they are or act as if they are the center of the universe.
What do you think is your best quality?
I am a very positive and uplifting soul. I aspire to bring good into any situation and to anyone I meet - even the complainers I just said I don't like. If I can have any positive impact on anyone's life I want to jump at the chance to do so.
What one thing would you change about your personality if you could?
After a life of thinking I needed to change who I am to be acceptable, I picked up some bad habits of putting myself down (internally) and they wreck my self confidence. I am in the process of turning all of that around. I am a wonderful, beautiful, and very lovable man and I'm learning that more and more every day.
What one question would you want answered in an initial email from another member?
What kind of relationship are you looking for?
Describe your physique.
I am about 30 pounds overweight and it is all on my belly. My arms and legs, back and chest are not at all flabby. Neither is my belly for that matter it is hard, but there is just too much of it. I want to lose a good 30 pounds.
What do you do well sexually?
I am an excellent kisser and am very intense in bed. I don't have a whole lot of experinece (some) with men, so I'm still learning what I like and don't like.
What is the favorite thing you like sexually done to you?
I like a lot of body contact especially genitals. I'm also a very orally oriented person so anything oral is a turn on.
Do you have any STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)?
Are you looking for a one night stand, to play for a while, or a long-term Adult relationship?
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