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0812cowboy
42-year-old Male
Seeking Women: 18 - 45
Minneapolis, Minnesota
United States
Last Activity: > 3 months ago

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East 2 West now seeking Alt Sex

About myself
I am now approaching things a bit differently than in the past. To be clear: I WANT A LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP, AND WOULD LOVE IT LEAD TO SOMEWHERE, BUT WANT TO START WITH SEX, BONDAGE, OR ALTERNATIVE STUFF! I WANT TO SEE HOW WE MESH AND DO MANY THINGS YOU MAY THINK ARE HOT OR YOU MAY THINK ARE SICK, IF THERE IS TWO MANY THINGS YOU THINK ARE SICK WELL THEN WE PROBABLY WOULD END UP WITH A BORING SEX LIFE AND I WILL NOT DO THAT AGAIN. I MEAN I DON’T WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP JUST TO GET LAID AND THEN 3 MONTHS IN THINK GOD THAT’S IT? THIS ENTIRE THING WRITTEN IS TRYING TO ASSURE THAT THERE WILL BE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS PERMANENTLY SATISFYING IN ALL AREAS, ESPECIALLY THE BEDROOM.

I like vanilla sex and have it a lot of the time and find you can spice that up as well, if both people focus on one thing, making the other person get off, whatever that is for them, then it can’t help but work out to be mutually gratifying. I’m lucky, half the turn on of sex is getting my partner off, so that no problem. As much as a majority of the time it’s vanilla. I definitely need my non-vanilla fix as well, alternative sex scenarios, things like lingerie, light bondage, the use of toys on men AND women, maybe anal sex or role play sex, etc.? Being tied up or tying someone up and then using toys in all kind of ways. Having control of a woman or her controlling me while bound or not is so hot! Beware I have few limits, but am not in 24/7 stuff or pain, and have some things I still want to try as I myself am only 1 year or so into this stuff. I am not swinger and don't want a guy watching, or anything else and to be fair I also think although it’s a fantasy of a lot of guys I don't see wanting to risk the aftermath of a woman being in the mix.


The person I would like to meet
A year and a half ago, the idea of a satisfying, monogamous, long term sexual relationship was not something I believed possible, but now I feel the polar opposite. I now not only think it is possible, but is something I demand in my next relationship, it is the final goal. So the question is, do you have the necessary ingredients to allow this to happen and will you start with sex and work toward exclusivity? I bring this up because I found that a relationship can stay hot, hot for years, hot for decades, and who knows maybe for a half century if the right attitudes and desires are present. I am not saying that you have to sleep with me without evening knowing me, hell I'm just saying that this is an adult site and unlike most of the guys on here, I have a respectable goal.

If you are a woman interested in those things, or are you just craving a strong man to teach you what it is to really be taken on the edge with intensity, or want to know what it is like to not know if you’re going to get great pleasure from the sexy, soft, gentle, and seductive hand one moment, or have the passion turned up to the most intense pounding / sucking that you have ever experienced, I’m your guy.
I ALSO WANT TO BE CLEAR; I AM NO PRO, AS I ONLY HAVE DONE THIS WITH ONE EX PARTNER FOR ABOUT A YEAR
Until my last relationship I never understood what a real sexual relationship was and assumed it was the tradeoff that you had to have to stay with one person., and now want to find a compatible partner that is compatible with me in more than just sex. I don’t care if you have done some, or any of the things I’m into, and certainly I have limits like most people, but if you’re a woman who doesn’t at least think about it, or does not have any kind of sexual fantasies, about some of these things, or maybe your own list.



About my work
If you feel bondage or anything alternative is wrong or against god or you values, probably move on as we won’t last. THAT'S NOT IMPLYING THAT THERE IS NOT A WHOLE LOT MORE TO A RELATIONSHIP THEN SEX, BUT IF YOU ON ONE SIDE OF THE EQUATION AND I ON THE OTHER, NEITHER WLL BE HAPPY IN A SHORT AMOUNT OF TIME. Below I speak of some specifics and if none of that talk even gets you moist, you may not be right, if some seems like, "there is no way in hell I could do that", don't worry i will share with you something that happen to me. I one time allowed a woman to dominate me, and I will admit that not only was it ok, it's neck and neck as to which I like more and is why I would say I switch. Don’t get me wrong these are just some ideas, and certainly nothing is written in stone.
If you decide you want to try the alternative roles, I would say to set aside some length of time to try the roles before quitting. Also, start small and raise the stakes little-by-little, until you one day see yourself in a mirror and are shocked at how wild you actually have become. What was considered totally off limits a few months earlier is now common place.

Why don't you call, I am so fucking excited I just got my replacement phone and it just makes everything so much easier. If your shy text a bit and go from there. MY NUMBER IS 651-500-7368 AND MY REAL NAME IS DREW. Unlike most guys, I do like to talk on the phone, share emotions, and strive to have open communication with my significant other.


What do you like to do for fun/hobbies?
Call me and tell me some fantasies or fetishes or just call and stop by. Now this is another of those things that really good for this letter, but also makes me look like a professional hook-up artist. I am staying over on the 56th block of Lyndale avenue south, Minneapolis, and where I am staying is a hotel. It is only until I find my apartment but pay by the week, and just paid today. It not palace, but it's clean, discrete, and neutral and you know there are people all around.
Let me at least try to paint me in a little better color scheme then I have. I am college educated man (University of Pittsburgh, BS in Biology), and come from a good family in PA where my father was president of a company for 35 years and mom was a teacher and I am sure they would love the honorable mention in this type of letter. They would absolutely think I should be committed and you may also, or you may just want to see if we meet and are comfortable if it could go somewhere. If your absolutely not going to meet a guy at his hotel room, there is a Starbuck's and a Caribou right up the road.

Finally, and I mention it last, because I have the least experience in it. Typically a person will find that they are more comfortable, at least initially, with one of the three possible ways of merging this into relationship. You can be a DOM or "Dominant" one, you can be a SUB or "Submissive" one, or you can actually engage in both roles and usually do so with in the same night, which is termed "Switch" or the action is called switching, I guess. The names are pretty self-explanatory, as everyone is familiar with a "Dominatrix” who is just a female DOM role, and the opposite of that role is the "SUB". The DOM typically controls, pleases, teases, (I am not into pain of any kind) The DOM must be a master of controlling pleasure, the delivery of pleasure,

My idea of a great date
I mentioned a little to you about this, but want to give you a clear picture of thing as I did breeze over me trying the sub thing toward the end, I found out one very interesting thing during the very end of my DOM role. I did, as a onetime favor, allow the SUB to DOM me, and I became the SUB. This is not the normal comfortable role for me, but what I found changed me forever. I still enjoy DOMing, but found that I may like SUBing as much as DOMing. The SUBing I did was light, but I knew then that it was something I would want to delve into much deeper.
It is hard to admit this and sound less then masculine, but allowing a woman to tie you up, thereby stripping you of your normal, incumbent physical dominance present in most relationships, then having her have her way with you which could mean a lot of things but in the experience I had, I allowed a woman to use her finger, and, a vibrator she had on me, and some other device to simultaneously stimulate the Penis and the Ass (really the prostate). For a DOM guy, at first and really throughout, not being able to control of the action was difficult and psychologically intense, then add in the synergistic increased pleasure that comes from both erogenous zones being stimulated together, and finally, being able to reach a certain Psychological comfort level regarding the toys being used on me, totally dismantling those erroneous male ideas such as if you get pleasure out of putting something in your ass, you must be gay. Finally relinquishing control and having a woman to take on a DOM (traditional Masculine) role and for the SUB to relinquish all his power, even the power like physical strength, typically never absent was just intriguing.



If you are divorced/widower, you can talk about how that happened here.
Until my last relationship I never understood what a real sexual relationship was and assumed it was the tradeoff that you had to have to stay with one person., and now want to find a compatible partner that is compatible with me in more than just sex. I don’t care if you have done some, or any of the things I’m into, and certainly I have limits like most people, but if you’re a woman who doesn’t at least think about it, or does not have any kind of sexual fantasies, about some of these things, or maybe your own list.

What is your fantasy vacation?
Alone with Partner experiencing new types of lingerie and sex

What is your academic background?
Let me at least try to paint me in a little better color scheme then I have. I am college educated man (University of Pittsburgh, BS in Biology), and come from a good family in PA where my father was president of a company for 35 years and mom was a teacher and I am sure they would love the honorable mention in this type of letter. They would absolutely think I should be committed and you may also, or you may just want to see if we meet and are comfortable if it could go somewhere. If your absolutely not going to meet a guy at his hotel room, there is a Starbuck's and a Caribou right up the road.


Where did you last vacation and did you like it?
Mexico, yes

What do you find attractive in people?
tight body , intense eyes

What do others do that irritate you?
people the judge, are rude, and don't even care to try to be sexy for their mate

What do you think is your best quality?
Loyal

What one thing would you change about your personality if you could?
ADHD

What one question would you want answered in an initial email from another member?
This upfront, even prespeaking, is a risk because there will be a certain percentage of woman who will lump me in with the "cock shots" and the "wanna fuck emails?" Before I knew it was possible, this is something I would have never done, certainly uncharted territory, and I don't even think I would have considered it. I would right now rather not jump into something that is not right, tell that person things you know you need to say and they want to hear, and the result is one broken heart at least, and you’re back at square one. I like vanilla sex and have it a lot of the time and find you can spice that up as well, if both people focus on one thing, making the other person get off, whatever that is for them, then it can’t help but work out to be mutually gratifying. I’m lucky, half the turn on of sex is getting my partner off, so that no problem. As much as a majority of the time it’s vanilla. I definitely need my non-vanilla fix as well, alternative sex scenarios, things like lingerie, light bondage, the use of toys on men AND women, maybe anal sex or role play sex, etc.? Being tied up or tying someone up and then using toys in all kind of ways. Having control of a woman or her controlling me while bound or not is so hot! Beware I have few limits, but am not in 24/7 stuff or pain, and have some things I still want to try as I myself am only 1 year or so into this stuff. I am not swinger and don't want a guy watching, or anything else and to be fair I also think although it’s a fantasy of a lot of guys I don't see wanting to risk the aftermath of a woman being in the mix.


Describe your physique.
6'0" 195 lbs Italian looking with hazel eyes which everyone says is my best quality

What do you do well sexually?
Oral i am solid at, anal is my expertise

What is the favorite thing you like sexually done to you?
having a use a vibrator in my ass while she gives me head, but getting a woman off is the most erotic thing that can be done.

What fantasy(s) are you still waiting to experience?
One day I will let a woman i very much trust strap one on and give it to me. right now probably wont happen , unless.....

What fantasy(s) have you already experienced?
bondage

Do you have any STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)?
no have documented clean bill of health

Are you looking for a one night stand, to play for a while, or a long-term Adult relationship?
any of the three, but would prefer a long term thing

Free Space. Say anything you want!
there is to much said already

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