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posted 4/7/2007 2:54:35 AM |
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I met a couple in line at the grocery store the other day who struck up a conversation. they have been married for 60 years this month.I was amazed. It really does happen. They said they are still as happy and in love as ever. Still had sex until recently due to health reasons. Niw that part I could have done without, but I figured since I had to hear it, I'd share with everyone else.
So many people seem to think that marriage changes people and their relationship.
Do you think this is true? If so, why do you think it happens?

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NightOfOld

Apr 7 @ 3:16AM  

Marriage does change things.

All the sudden your going to bed with a relative.

DoIDetectAHIntOfTuna

Apr 7 @ 6:36AM  
Of course people change after marriage. That's what freaks me out so much about it.

As most of you know, I've given up dating American women because of their laziness and manipulative manner, but I don't wish to date the foreigners I hook up with either. Last thing I want them to become is another American woman.
max49

Apr 7 @ 7:07AM  
Yep marriage definitely changes most people. I have been married twice and in both cases we really liked each other until we got married and it went down hill after that. Dated both of them for a year or more before we got married and everything was fine while we were dating. The first one went to hell in about 2 years after she had an affair with my brother but we were both young and stupid. The second one took us 25 years before we couldn't stand each other and she had an affair with a guy she worked with. Seems I'm a chick magnet as long as they can fuck someone else.
cktocl

Apr 7 @ 10:11AM  
There is a play entitled " I Love You Just The Way You Are,So Please Change." I am not sure that is the right title but it is close. The title is a good statement of the way people behave in a relationship. What were once sacrifices are now irritations, we no longer feel we need to tolerate the smallest of imperfections in our mates. Once we are married we spend a lot of time trying to fit a round peg into a square hole.

A few things have changed over the years in regards to marriage and those changes have not been good for marriage. One thing that has changed is that there is no national sacrifice like they had in WWII. We as a country were asked to give things up, do without to support our troops. This created a dependency on each other that carried that generation through hard times. This better for the whole as opposed as the one made marriages stronger, the belief that contributing to something greater made the person proud and that pride would carry over into their lives.

The feminist movement had a huge effect on marriage, it caused chaos and upheaval and the institution was rocked. Women were no longer quite or passive, they took to the streets and demanded rights and got them. Almost over night the rule of marriage changed and men had to re-educate themselves to go along with the change (something that they were not happy doing.)

The work place also had it's new problems like the glass ceiling that prevented women from getting equal pay. One could assume that this fact would over time develop into a resentment toward the work place mostly run by men and that resentment cared over to all men including their spouse.

There are other factors like the internet, spouses no longer need to slip out of the back door to meet someone they can sit right at home and hunt around. This reality is not lost on the couple. We are exposed to this reality in films all the time, and a large percentage of people knows someone who cheated with someone on line.

Marriage's that last because they sacrificed, laughed, cried, and most importantly respected each other.
Argit01

Apr 7 @ 10:15AM  
I love Nightofolds comment. I wish I could think of witty one too
BigFlirt

Apr 7 @ 12:19PM  
It only changes if the two let it change. We seem to get to levels of comfort, and stop trying.....
EXPERTATORAL

Apr 7 @ 12:38PM  
My parents were married 53 years up until my father passed in 2005 and they had a wonderful marriage and great sex life.Sometimes time makes things better for both and sometimes it makes things worse.I'm just happy that they were happy all those years.
dumblonde

Apr 7 @ 12:56PM  
kids seemed to change things the most for me...

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