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Ok here goes. How long do you chat with someone before you meet them? How long do you like to spend with this person before you have sex? Well if we click i want it then how about everyone else.......I have been fussing with a friend she doesn't like me to meet guys off line but i have talked with some very interesting people ......

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chaser159

Apr 3 @ 1:50AM  
Seems like most people are gun shy when it comes to actually meeting people in person. They like to talk about it. And some of them do have the intestinol fortitude to fallow threw. I like you could go for it if there was that click. Sometimes all love really needs is a gut feeling about someone.
skinonskin

Apr 3 @ 1:54AM  
What I have done in the past when I met a lady online was to email with her for a while, then we went to IMing each other (much better- any misunderstandings can be cleared up quickly) for awhile, then to chat on the phone for awhile (I would give her my phone number first.) I left it up to her to decide when she felt comfortable enough to move to each stage!

After chatting on the phone for a few days, if she wanted to meet than we would decide where to meet in public for dinner or coffee. If the chemistry was right, then whatever happened after that was what ever we agreed on.

No rush, plenty of time!
Daized688

Apr 3 @ 2:02AM  
There really are no "set rules". Personally, I'm very intuitive and can usually tell right off the bat. As far as sex is concerned, if you guys click on the first date...what's wrong with fucking on the first date? You are two consenting adults right?
traveler007

Apr 3 @ 2:31AM  
If two people can't connect reasonably smoothly off line , then they shouldnt be on line
kingdongilingus

Apr 3 @ 2:42AM  
You know, that is a good question indeed. For me, I have talked to females (here and other sites) thru messenger or email only for 10 minutes or even less and met them that day or the next for "meatings".

But, that is just me, and I am a male ('nuff said). I worry about little, but as a female, the question becomes more difficult.

I am quite stern on making sure that someone knows where I am heading, and for you, it would be a definite must. Hell, take someone with you! After all, there are no rules to this stuff, only the ones you make.

Go by your gut instinct, if it feels bad, pass the guy up. Even if you are wrong, remember it only takes once to end up getting messed up (though with all the females I have ever met, only one I met with said she had a guy that was slightly out of whack).

Just take every precaution imaginable. While I consider "meet and greets" a waste of my time, that does not mean on YOUR end they are not a most EXCELLENT idea. The whole public place meetings prior to the other "meatings" will quickly weed out what you don't want as well, especially during the daytime. (Works with women too)

Also remember a little trick of having someone call you during the "meat". Excellent way to make sure the other person understands you are in touch during the whole thing. Never bothered me any at all.

My suggestion is chat, email, then work up to phone, public meetings and then actual "meatings". Just follow the same routine every time, because it can save you some serious pain later on.

The only downside to that approach is that on MY end (and consequently, many of the guys I know) won't wait that long, they will move on, more fish in the pond, etc. Depends on what YOU want and how YOU want to do it.

As time goes on, you will get the hang of it, and be able to know VERY quickly whether someone is for you or not. But remember if you make the dog jump through hoops, sometimes the dog will run away to the neighbors and hump their leg instead knowing they can get it done this week and not next.

Newer folk (and understandably so) are much more cautious to this, and trust me, there is no harm in playing it safe.
kingdongilingus

Apr 3 @ 2:43AM  
You know, that is a good question indeed. For me, I have talked to females (here and other sites) thru messenger or email only for 10 minutes or even less and met them that day or the next for "meatings".

But, that is just me, and I am a male ('nuff said). I worry about little, but as a female, the question becomes more difficult.

I am quite stern on making sure that someone knows where I am heading, and for you, it would be a definite must. Hell, take someone with you! After all, there are no rules to this stuff, only the ones you make.

Go by your gut instinct, if it feels bad, pass the guy up. Even if you are wrong, remember it only takes once to end up getting messed up (though with all the females I have ever met, only one I met with said she had a guy that was slightly out of whack).

Just take every precaution imaginable. While I consider "meet and greets" a waste of my time, that does not mean on YOUR end they are not a most EXCELLENT idea. The whole public place meetings prior to the other "meatings" will quickly weed out what you don't want as well, especially during the daytime. (Works with women too)

Also remember a little trick of having someone call you during the "meat". Excellent way to make sure the other person understands you are in touch during the whole thing. Never bothered me any at all.

My suggestion is chat, email, then work up to phone, public meetings and then actual "meatings". Just follow the same routine every time, because it can save you some serious pain later on.

The only downside to that approach is that on MY end (and consequently, many of the guys I know) won't wait that long, they will move on, more fish in the pond, etc. Depends on what YOU want and how YOU want to do it.

As time goes on, you will get the hang of it, and be able to know VERY quickly whether someone is for you or not. But remember if you make the dog jump through hoops, sometimes the dog will run away to the neighbors and hump their leg instead knowing they can get it done this week and not next.

Newer folk (and understandably so) are much more cautious to this, and trust me, there is no harm in playing it safe.
decaturnooner

Apr 3 @ 2:47AM  
Meeting people offline isn't for the faint of heart. I believe that if you feel that you can trust the one(s) you are talking to then it is no different than meeting someone at the bar or grocery store or shell station.

Just be sure that you are fairly certainly that they are going to show up and not conspire with other AMDers to shit on your head.

Not that I am bitter.

bigphil564

Apr 3 @ 3:38AM  
baby u have to go with the feeling if i were a woman thou it doesnt cost that much to run a background check on someone all you need is there name so check them out and when you meet its alll in the kiss if it gets that far hey if it feels good do it if it feels real good keep doing it
Sunshine79

Apr 3 @ 3:45AM  
I agree with Daized.....I actually met up with someone off here tonite, for the first time and just had the most amazing sex EVER!!!

No phone calls, no IM's, no BULLSHIT!!!

Women's Intuition & Condoms Baby!!!!
alybai42

Apr 3 @ 8:02AM  
You need to have rules of dating men you meet online.
This is what I do. I make sure I tell friends where I am going. Meet in public.
Never tell them where you live until you really know them. I had met someone online years ago. We talked on the computer for a long time. Then on the phone. Then I did finally meet him. We were together for 4 years off and on. I grew tired of him. Only because he was a slob, I can't deal with a slob.
I also met someone else online that lived near me. He invited me to a party and I didn't go. I waited for a about a week before I met him. I did go to his house alone. I was taking a chance but he was great looking. He turned out to be a jerk. User, lier, ect. After 5 months I got rid of him. I should of never met him alone. Or we should of met in a public place. But I had a hunch that he was ok. Not a killer.
There are so many strange people in this world. You don't know who you can trust and who you can't trust.
As for sleeping with them. That is up to you. I guess when I feel comfortable with it then I will. With protection of course.
friendwperks

Apr 3 @ 8:16AM  
I met my girl after the second night of chatting (or was it the first night but the second exchange of messages) either way we went for a walk in the park and she got me off with a blow job does that count as sex?
funnygirl730

Apr 3 @ 9:23AM  
i have ventured to meet a couple men.one has become a friend and the other was a big disappointment.if you feel it go for it but only do what you feel safe with.it depends on the person.i have ment in public and in private. public seems to be a little less stress.as for when you have sex if you click go for it.
tlc0766

Apr 3 @ 10:10AM  
I chatted with a gentleman on here for about 6 weeks and we just met last week and yes we had some fun. I think you just kind of have to go with your instincts.
tetons

Apr 3 @ 10:43AM  
if you want to hook up, do it. you don't need advice to hook up. bad situations happen to everybody, so use your head. if you are bad at decision making, getting advice from naked men ain't gonna make it better.
featherone

Apr 3 @ 12:13PM  
i think your best bet is go to a nearest bar and meet a guy, at least ya know what ya picking up :)
DoIDetectAHIntOfTuna

Apr 3 @ 12:18PM  
If two people are considering meeting, this is usually after many emails and/or phone calls have been exchanged. As a result, trust should have been built up already and sex is usually expected on the first meeting. In fact, the only reason you would meet at a place other than one or the other's house is to make sure you are the person in the pics in your profiles.
CaliburOfSoul

Apr 3 @ 1:00PM  
Hiya, if I click with someone on here then I don't mind meeting with them offline. Sex is up to the other, I would never rush or push the other person into doing something like that.
maggiemae1969

Apr 3 @ 1:08PM  
I have met folks the next day ...... I know most are skeptics.... I however think, trust your own judgement .........
Cple4bigafem

Apr 3 @ 4:50PM  
I think about a month of chattin online b4 meeting is pretty good enough and atleast see them for about a month or two b4 sex for u to not be a slut to me!! J ust MY opinion hun!
kozmik_wave

Apr 3 @ 7:11PM  
It depends on what you're looking for...my personal experience is as follows...

Everyone I've met from this type of site wants a "no strings" thing...I've met women the same day as the first contact and had an awesome time. There isn't much sense in getting to know someone if you don't want strings is there? It's too easy to get attached if you spend alot of time emailing and chatting. Sometimes they just want sex for it's own sake, like me!

I always ask if they want to meet in a coffee shop/bar to see if we want to take it further, OR just get right to business. You might be surprised at this, the standard answer is...let's just get right to business!!! If we find we have a good time talking AFTER sex, we might go out on a "date" later. I've made some good friends with benefits and had some incredible one time stands too. You just never know until you jump in "head first" LOL

Intuition is a very good thing too...I can feel sex coming a mile away sometimes.


"Daized688 There really are no "set rules". Personally, I'm very intuitive and can usually tell right off the bat. As far as sex is concerned, if you guys click on the first date...what's wrong with fucking on the first date? You are two consenting adults right?"

Right on the money!


wtxman

Apr 3 @ 8:20PM  
about three weeks online,then we met and definitely "clicked". She's living with me now.
usa2000mbm

Apr 12 @ 7:49PM  
if u click - then hell yes FUCK!!!!!! i do that every chance i get nothin wrong with it.
blac4725

Apr 30 @ 7:01PM  
The problem is.....no one ever meets anybody in here. It's a cyber joke of the highest order.
shellsmack

May 1 @ 10:23PM  
I have to say something about meeting men off the net. Seems there's always something WRONG with them.



Either they don't have a job, they don't have teeth, they have a life of hell, they live with a member of their immediate family, they act like idiots, they surely don't know anything about treating a woman right, their irrogant, all they want to do is fuck, they're on parole, been in prison, still hung up on their ex, child abusers, molesters, no personality worth shit, their judgemental about your shape and size...and much, much more.

WTF is up with that? The net only draws assholes?

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