OK, I have a confession to make...I think I just realized that I am guilty of the proverbial "all talk and no follow through"...I have been talking to a local male (not from this site but a traditional "dating" site...chatted first, have been having regular phone conversations, it all seems good...
sooo....when he wants to meet in person, why do I feel reluctant? why am I finding excuses not to meet in person...
well, I think the answer is that we all tend to fantasize about people online being more than they are...its fun and easy to imagine everyone is perfect, funny witty, sexy, all that we desire, when in reality, all are normal, average, everyday people...
dont get me wrong, I am not afraid to meet someone in person, in fact, I have met lots of people in person, but the truth of the matter is that 99% of the time, one or the other is disatisfied and it goes no further...perhaps its more fun to fantasize a super hero than to risk finding an average person...
sooooo...lock me up...i am guilty... 
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ValentineGirl214
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Mar 11 @ 6:53PM
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when in reality, all are normal, average, everyday people...
Right there says it all. We dream these wonderful dreams and no one can ever compare to them. Why do we do that?? I have no idea and I wish I would stop!! I'm no friggin' Princess so why does he have to be a Prince?? I've met a few people from online dating sites, not this one yet and I was disappointed, it wasn't their fault it was all mine!!! I hope I have learned my lesson and learned it well!!
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lintroller
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Mar 11 @ 6:55PM
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Off to jail with you! Step inside... ;)
All kidding aside, I don't really think you should feel guilty. You're absolutely right--our imaginations take over in environments like this, and we can't help but romanticize about the people we end up getting along with online. It's never what you expect, even though it doesn't HAVE to be disappointing. Hey, maybe your gut is doing you a favor...
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Talktomenow
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Mar 11 @ 7:05PM
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or maybe it is your gut instinct telling you that something is not right with this particular person.
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ladybootscooter
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Mar 11 @ 7:09PM
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You know it's sort of a combination of both! Yes we build them up in our minds and fantasize about what they might be like, but some people also have a tendency to misrepresent themselves ! I once met a man (years ago and not from here) that called himself "Big Moby", that brings to mind images of a whale does it not? Well in reality it was more like "Looking for Nemo"! Sometimes it's just more fun to play online with our images than to meet and be disapointed!
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Loveyoulongtime2
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Mar 11 @ 7:53PM
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I am going to meet a great woman from here, I'm not scared. I'm not looking for perfection, I know I'm not perfect. I have met many women from other sites, only one misrepresented herself. She was much older, had a fuzzy photo etc., and so was not really what I expected, but not much shocks me. What someone looks like is not the most important thing, but everyone has limits.
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ynot7769
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Mar 11 @ 8:34PM
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perhaps its more fun to fantasize a super hero than to risk finding an average person... sooooo...lock me up...i am guilty...
 ok....here cums your neighborhood super hero...and i'm taking you to jail......WITH ME  
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dumblonde
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Mar 11 @ 9:09PM
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luv ya steve... 
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wtxman
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Mar 11 @ 9:47PM
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Hey DB, you are so right about this, but once in awhile it works out.
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Natgoat
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Mar 11 @ 11:26PM
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'Lock You Up'...??
Alrighty, then...!!!
...to all 4 corners of the Bed...
*Siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh!*
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Natgoat
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Mar 11 @ 11:41PM
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{You're always Front Page with ME, darlin' . . !!!} . . 
Well...I've only met 4 or 5 ladies from dating sites...
Totaling 2 Kisses....
_Most_ have misrepresented themselves...way or the other....
. . Like the woman who claimed to be 5' 8" tall, Caucasian and a 'Few Extra Pounds'...!!!
She was 5'-2", Black and 230 lbs of she was an OUNCE...!!!
BUT.....I still hold out HOPE...!!!
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hulkNpooh
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Mar 11 @ 11:44PM
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getting the handcuffs...oh wait..your not into that kinda stuff are you...
I wouldnt feel guilty...i agree it could be your gut instincts telling you not to go.
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NightOfOld
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Mar 11 @ 11:44PM
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Sweetheart I think at times we all feel that way. Why should you be different ?
Yes I agree it could be a gut instinct that something may be wrong.That also is
a possibility. There's a reason you may not understand right now ,why this particular man is not someone you want to meet. Think about it.
In any case if you get locked up ? Leave your butt with me till you get out.
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devilstar05
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Mar 11 @ 11:47PM
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I agree with Talktomenow...or maybe it is your gut instinct telling you that something is not right with this particular person.
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33john
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Mar 11 @ 11:54PM
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I think I read gut instinct all over this.......give it more time.. if he's straight up.. he'll still be there ....
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dumblonde
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Mar 11 @ 11:57PM
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to rejoin my blog....
i dont think its anything with this particular guy...not a gut instinct....just tired of hoping and disapointment...
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lonlyknight
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Mar 12 @ 12:24AM
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let me get the handcuffs and shackles out lol.
i know what you mean you have the picture of this perfect person in your mind and when you finally do meet its a let down.what you have to realise though is the people on here are your average people. they are just like everyone else and has flaws. what you have to remember is what attracted you t the person whats on the inside that keeps you coming back to talk with the person. and try not to sweat the small stuff. if both of you were honest with each other you should still have that click when you meet.
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Blueyesprkln
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Mar 12 @ 3:34AM
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I have met so many people from sites that I don't even get nervous about it anymore. Most of them misrepresent themselves so badly that you can't reconize them when you do meet. I met someone tonight and was totally surprised. He was the nicest, sweetest person I could ever ask for, also a complete gentleman. I had no expectations of our meeting, because we met as friends. I had a lovely time and would do it again.
So why not try meeting as friends first, then if you both agree to take it farther, fine, you'll both take it farther. If not, then you'll always have a new friend to network with. Maybe you can introduce each other to other friends and make a match that way.
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Lisa46
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Mar 12 @ 8:10AM
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I hear you blonde!! I have met a few from here nice men don't get me wrong but not how they led me to believe!!! But remember hon you can meet them just don't expect alot!!!
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feistyelena
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Apr 17 @ 6:49PM
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it scares me how much time so many people spend online. on virtuallife instead of real life. go get out I dont care what you do. go visit people do volunteering just be with real people elena ms psychology
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allforyou999
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May 1 @ 4:05PM
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Go for it
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