If this is your viewpoint, don't even think about TPE. Total Power Exchange (if it works) is highly rewarding and one of the most intense forms of BDSM. Yes it does require a certain (probably high) level of spirituality. But first and foremost it requires a realistic perspective and a lot of work. TPE is a relationship that requires a lot of openess, honesty, faith, trust, communication and hard work. It requires two (or more) people able to manage a relationship that revolves around change. If you are not open to personal change (sometimes quite dramatically) but instead are looking for certainty, solid footholds and a natural rhythm in your life, you're simply not TPE material. Owners and slaves in a TPE relation often (and frequently) go through dramatic changes and you have to be able to handle that.
A slave in a TPE relationship will almost always be required to grow to perfection (perfection as in what the owner considers to be perfection). That, by definition, means personal growth, development and change. At the same time the owner will have to adjust to the slave, in every aspect. Yes, to the slave the owner and his/her wants, needs and desires are the main priority in life. But at the same time, since the slave becomes increasingly vulnerable in many aspects, the owners' responsibilities grow at the same rate.
Within a TPE relationship the slave is likely to become increasingly dependent on the owner. Emotionally, economically and socially. This means as time progresses the slave will have fewer options to leave the relationship without difficulties and repercussions. That is exactly what owner and slave are after.
However, due to the time-factor (building a true TPE relationship takes many, many years) the owner will invest a very substantial part of his/her life and energy in the slave(s). As a result, the owner also loses options. Besides, owner and slave(s) will eventually become one entity and that is a situation that to both is not easy to disentangle.
Simply, one can not be without the other, as owner and slave in a TPE relationship are inter dependent.
Total Power Exchange and BDSM
There is a widespread misconception, which leads people to believe that Total Power Exchange is the ultimate form of BDSM. That indeed is a misconception.
Total Power Exchange is an integrated concept of what a relationship should be (in the perception of those, forming the relationship). As such it is an integration of spirituality, personality and the power element, which is present in every relationship. BDSM is a part of that but it is anything but a sublimation of BDSM and should not be judged as such.
Yes, this relationship is an owner/property one. Techniques and rituals, also used in BDSM, may very well form part of that. This relationship has BDSM elements in it, but it is not a BDSM relationship. Hence it should not be judged by the terms, that usually form part of a BDSM relationship.
Many technuqes and elements, used in BDSM relationships, form part of other ritualistic environments as well. Worshipping for example forms part of any relationship, that has its roots in a more ritualistic approach, whichever that may be. Power differences often form the basis of relationships in many cultures, tribes and communities, without this turning into an Owner/slave situation. Pain, discomfort and denial form part of most ritualistic cultures, for many different reasons but certainly not as some form of kink or incidental ingredient.
So please do not judge any TPE relationship by BDSM definitions and by all means do not sublimize TPE as an ultimate form of BDSM.
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