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  sugarnspice005

How often do we stop anymore to enjoy what is around us? I was just thinking of that this morning after chatting with a friend from work who has been up the hospital with her cousin since yesterday morning to help her with delivering her second baby. She sent me a picture of her holding the baby. And yes, he is adorable, as most newborns are. And I got to thinking here she is, holding this new life that is just starting. We all started out that way, a "clean slate" so to speak. Haven't learned what pain is yet, to hate, to feel anger, to love, laugh, and that the world out there is not so friendly.

I remember the first time I noticed that we don't all always get along...it was in pre-school, and I remember a little girl that the other kids were mean to. It was because she wore these really thick glasses, and the other kids didn't like her because they made her eyes look huge. I saw them tease her about her glasses, and I remember her crying, and the teacher tried to stop the teasing, but one teacher can only do so much with a class of 15 kids. I felt sorry for her, I went up to her, introduced myself to her, and started talking to her. We became friends. She was actually a very fun person who liked to laugh. The other kids, yeah, some of them got curious, came up, and also became friends, and others just remained indifferent, and there were a couple who kept antagonizing her up until her family moved when we were in the 2nd grade. When she was gone, one of her antagonizers approached me asking me if I was now happy she was gone so that I could again play with the "cool kids". I told that kid flat out, no, I'm not happy my friend moved, and that there is nothing "cool" about being mean to another who did nothing to them.

I look at the blogs on the Net as that school ground. It's the same thing. Name calling and being mean to someone without really knowing that person. Where do we learn to be so hostile/hateful? Our parents? School? Society in general? I know we all have a difference of opinion, but, sometimes I see just all out meanness come out of some. Name calling, putting one down, picking on someone....like the playground at school. Where is it learned? And why do we keep it going?

I had learned a while ago that it's far easier to just walk away from the computer. To tell myself it's only words on a screen, that they only have the power the one reading them is willing to give them. Example: there is this person who has spent the last 4 years of his life trolling, and this person took a cheap shot at me by mocking my late fiance`s suicide. I read that comment, and, I'll admit, my blood boiled, I wanted to so badly tell this person where they could go. But, I chose to move away from the blog that comment was in, not respond to it, and go elsewhere. And, I actually felt much better for it. I let the comment show this person for the "ugly" individual they are without having to call them out for it.

I guess what I'm saying is, we all have our inner demons, we all have our own ideas, perceptions, likes/dislikes, and all.....but it seems the one thing we forget is to respect others for theirs.

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xquseme

Aug 17 @ 2:17AM  
Nope. Sorry. The challenging part of life is learning to CONTROL our demons. One
can easily earn the ire of another by habitually, intentionally and repeatedly insulting
another without regard for their feelings. Should the insulted party do nothing to transmit
their reaction to the insult, the insulting party will continue in his/her ways until a reaction
is elicited.

Let me give you an example. Suppose that you are peacefully sunning yourself on the
beach, nearly asleep, when the child of another beachgoer accidentally, er, waters the
flowers in your immediate vicinity. Do you get angry? Quite probably, yes. Do you display
said emotion? Probably not, since said beachgoer's child likely knew no better.

Imagine, however, waking up on the beach with a warm, wet stream of urine landing
ON YOUR CHEST--a FULL quart, or two--while said beachgoer's foot is planted firmly
on your abdomen, making it difficult to move. NOW do you get angry? HELL YES.
But how do you react? Here's what I would say:

GET YOUR FUCKING FOOT OFF OF OF ME, YOU MOTHERFUCKER, AND PREPARE
TO DIE. I'M GOING TO BURY YOU IN THE GOD DAMNED SAND UP TO YOUR FREAKING
NECK AND GIVE YOU A URINE SHAMPOO WITH A TURD HAT FOR DESSERT!


What's the difference, you ask? The difference is intent. When you allow another
to repeatedly and intentionally abuse you, you're sending the message that you PERMIT
such an action. Your only recourse is to demonstrate, as forcefully as necessary,
that you WILL NOT ACCEPT such abuse.

But that's just me...
TwistAndShout

Aug 17 @ 7:20AM  
I wanted to so badly tell this person where they could go. But, I chose to move away from the blog that comment was in, not respond to it, and go elsewhere. And, I actually felt much better for it. I let the comment show this person for the "ugly" individual they are without having to call them out for it.

Bravo. You're absolutely right. His comment showed him for the classless low-life that he is. Choosing not to react to it shows that you are his superior in every respect.
straightup_9

Aug 17 @ 9:58AM  
Imagine, however, waking up on the beach with a warm, wet stream of urine landing
ON YOUR CHEST--a FULL quart, or two--while said beachgoer's foot is planted firmly
on your abdomen, making it difficult to move. NOW do you get angry? HELL YES.
But how do you react?

A quick blow to the back of the knee of his weight supporting leg puts him down, a sharp blow to his solar plexis disables him, and the "favor" is returned. No words needed.

Good for you, Sugar, you did it right....kisses and a greenie.
Wordsofwit

Aug 17 @ 12:24PM  
In the card game of life you will be dealt good hands, bad hands and all points in between. The differentiator in the outcome is how you choose to play the cards and in avoiding letting the cards play you. The only thing that we can control in life is how we choose to respond to it
mktontrack

Aug 17 @ 2:39PM  
ignore those who are nasty, and they are many and many who are online let their ignorance show through. Death, for any reason, is not a good thing unless it comes after long years and a peaceful place to lay, Otherwise it' carries along more sorrow as it affects more than one person and often the effects last and shape the people who still live. Walking away in a physical or cyber environment sometimes is the best thing to do. That you had to do that is a point that is still affects you deeply and likely it will last as long as you live, At some point it will become less intense, but likely to still bring a tear in the quiet moments between life.

it's not an inner demon, just life shaping each of us as it will

mC
xquseme

Aug 19 @ 11:08PM  
A quick blow to the back of the knee of his weight supporting leg puts him down, a sharp blow to his solar plexis disables him, and the "favor" is returned. No words needed.
Yep. I agree wholeheartedly.

Our problem appears to be that our troll thrives on insults and putdowns, indicating an
unusually high threshold for abusive treatment. Sounds like our favorite Bitch can't get
enough debasement, punishment, and/or humiliation. The physical retaliation which you
describe would probably leave our questionable hero with a warm glow in his puckered
heart!!
RJ53

Aug 21 @ 7:44PM  
In the card game of life you will be dealt good hands, bad hands and all points in between. The differentiator in the outcome is how you choose to play the cards and in avoiding letting the cards play you. The only thing that we can control in life is how we choose to respond to it

And if the deck keeps coming up all jokers sometimes you just need a new deck of cards, As for the joker in the deck on here I guess we need to just keeping him on the bottom of the pile until he gets the message,

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