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posted 6/23/2013 3:56:19 PM |
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  aftershocks

I can cite examples of rude and unthinking examples of messages and mediocre encounters with the best of them. But there is no point or joy in doing that.

At this same time, I find I am better at finding and meeting the ones who are worth meeting,I ask alot of questions before meeting someone. And I spend alot of time listening to what is said "between the lines". I try to find about attitude first.

And as to responding to messages from the clueless and the ones who do not read profiles, I try to politely suggest they read the essays. When I get a boilerplate message,I point that out and suggest that a more personal approach would get better results. There is no need to be rude, even when being rude might seem likethe appropriate thing to do.

It is important to increase the total amount of joy on this planet. I do what I can toward that end.

So tell me, what are some of the best examples of good attitude you have encountered? What do you do to make this earth a more joyous place?

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J1958

Jun 23 @ 5:22PM  
A damn fine post!

I, too, am interested in binging joy to other people. That DOES NOT mean I try to bring joy to everyone I meet. It gives me just as much satisfaction to "punish" people who need it, for that, too, is a form of education. Nor does it mean my attempts to bring joy are recognized for what they are intended to be.

My personal greatest joy is enlightenment. Nothing rings my bell like a new perspective I hadn't considered. This is why I work so hard to expose other people to a point of view they might have missed. Joy is not all giggles and nonsense. I am most joyous when my wisdom quotient expands, and so I work to pleasure others in the same way that I am made happy.

What I DON'T do, is dance around the truth, look for "appropriate" language to soften the, sometimes, indelicate nature of truth, or mince words when it's time to lay it on the line.
onehornytoad69

Jun 23 @ 9:06PM  
"So tell me, what are some of the best examples of good attitude you have encountered? What do you do to make this earth a more joyous place?"

I'm trying.....Though Photography..(to your latter Question)
I really wanna show the world the Beauty of Nature!!!!...Gods Beauty!!!!
My work is Lacking...But I'm working on it!!!
Wordsofwit

Jun 24 @ 8:15AM  
I will admit that I have become much more expedient on these sites. If I get a message from somebody I don't know, I will glance at the profile and essays. Ten seconds is about all I have to devote to determine if it is BS. If it is, I don't even delete it as I enjoy watching the screen name change to black over the course of the next few days If it is a new person I try to be helpful and welcome them.
soft_touch938

Jun 24 @ 2:08PM  
This is a good blog, worthy of a kudo.

Other than that, I'm not qualified to give you an answer other than my friends here in AMD are all worthy of kudos...they give me encouragement and hope. That's their good attitudes shining through.

Outside of AMD, right now my life is pretty ragged for the moment. I am fraught, for now, with an attitude the size of Texas but I don't take it out on others so I'd say for now, what I do to make this world a more joyous place is by keeping my mouth shut! LOL
J1958

Jun 25 @ 6:55AM  
what I do to make this world a more joyous place is by keeping my mouth shut!

Here's an excellent piece of advice for people who write and write and write and write and say ABSOLUTELY nothing. Also for those who post nonsense and then behave as if they're been targeted by a sniper, seeking a nuclear war when exception is taken to their inane point of view. And, especially, for those who simply will not tolerate the posting of opinions that are contrary to their own. And, maybe, the people who write Facebook fare and post it on this public website as if it had some interest value to people who never heard of them.

Most of all...keeping the mouth shut is a splendid idea for people who see an argument brewing over a difference of opinion and simply cannot resist the temptation to lecture the participants about the need to eliminate "arguments" from this public site. You know the folks. They charge in posting rules and regulations along with insults and venom as if the site belonged to them and their 4 friends.

There. Now, let's see who will be first to explain opinions like mine are not welcome here, I am only a troublemaker and would do well to keep my opinions to myself and my own mouth shut.
TwistAndShout

Jun 25 @ 8:06AM  
I react differently to people face to face than I do to people online. In my dealings with people in the real world, I find it easier to see what they might need at the moment and supply it. My son might need some encouragement in one of his endeavors; a coworker might just need a pleasant comment. A Walmart clerk might need a compliment on who artfully she fits everything in my shopping bag. Small things make people happy, and often it's an easy thing to make someone's day.

Online, I don't practice that as much as perhaps I should. I think it's harder to see the person behind the avatar. When there's so little context to see the whole person, what they've just typed becomes the whole person.
J1958

Jun 25 @ 3:23PM  
A Walmart clerk might need a compliment on who artfully she fits everything in my shopping bag.

Wow! Fascinating counterpoint. I frequently help the Walmart clerks, too. I never hesitate to stop, lift my voice and explain that the words, "Have a nice day," do NOT mean the same thing as "Thank you for shopping at Walmart."

My feeling is...while you are improving their day, I am improving their lives inasmuch as I am improving their performance on the job, their boss's satisfaction with their work, the disposition of shoppers they encounter, thousands of Walmart stockholders, and the clerk's chances of getting somewhere in life, because whatever happens next, he/she will never again fail to say, "Thank you" to a shopper when he/she takes their money.

So I have been an asshole for a couple minutes. The clerk is embarrassed and his/her day is ruined. But look at the profit to the clerk, the boss, the store, the stockholders and the customers in the long-term.

Don't mean to kid anybody. I do it because I'm sick and tired of this "Have a nice day" crap, but I would stop if it wasn't so beautifully justified.
TwistAndShout

Jun 25 @ 6:10PM  
Well, Mister Happy, I'll tell you why it matters to me how a clerk loads my bags. I use two reusable bags when I get groceries. I use them because they're strong enough to hold everything I buy, unless the clerk is careless about loading them. However, one clerk in particular loads them as if she were playing Tetris. She's more skilled than average at her job so I compliment her.

So I have been an asshole for a couple minutes. The clerk is embarrassed and his/her day is ruined. But look at the profit to the clerk, the boss, the store, the stockholders and the customers in the long-term.

Based on your comments on here, I suspect you've been an asshole for a lot longer than two minutes.

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