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Would you give it up?

posted 4/19/2012 11:24:52 AM |
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  sugarnspice005

I had the radio on at work yesterday, and the station it was tuned to was running it's advertising of it's morning crew's shows, and in one the clips, I heard them asking a question:

"Would you give up a great job to be in a relationship?"

I thought that was an interesting question. I'll be honest, I say "no". And here is why: First of all, I couldn't handle staying home all of the time, I would get bored. And, if it's a great job, that would mean, to me at least, that I like the job and like going to work. Second, what if the relationship bombs? Then I don't have a job nor a relationship...and that would totally suck. (and not in a good way either! )

I can't help but wonder how many people have given up a great job in order to have a relationship only to have that relationship end. How many would actually give up their job if their spouse/significant other were to ask/demand them to do so? Myself, if my s/o were to ask/demand I give up my job, I doubt if I would. Yes, I see it as security and as a source of independence for myself. If I were to be in a relationship, I would keep my job, I would most likely keep my accounts separate from my s/o, and respect that he would keep his accounts separate also. Maybe it's just me, but I see it that if one person asks their partner to give up a job, it's a sign of insecurity and a control issue.

So.......would any of you out there give up that great job for a relationship?

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rnj1013

Apr 19 @ 12:09PM  
I actually retired last year upon my girlfriend's request. to be fair tho, the job I was at was going to shit and I wasn't happy there anymore. I do get bored sometimes being home but I try to find stuff around the house to do (there's tons of it) and once we get her uncle all moved down here from NY, I'll have a ton of projects to work on. So I definitely don't regret my decision.
Wordsofwit

Apr 19 @ 1:16PM  
Greeenie for a great post I think we touched on this a few other times a few (many) years ago. I think it would depend on how easy the job is to replace and what you have invested. If I was with a stable firm for many, many years that offered a pension, I would be quite reluctant to let it go on a crap shoot like a relationship. I would probably ask my S/O to give up their gig.

I can't help but wonder how many people have given up a great job in order to have a relationship only to have that relationship end.


I can think of at least a dozen current or former AMD members that lived to regret such a decision.
somnium

Apr 19 @ 2:03PM  
There are several ways it can work and one of them was when I transferred to the other side of the state and my g/f at the time worked for the state and transferred with me! Thinking about it, it's too bad the state didn't say: 'transfer NOT allowed' to her back then!!!


MaryAnn_

Apr 19 @ 2:25PM  
Been there .. done that ... and at the time it seemed like a good choice .. to help

my X's mother who was ill and it turned out to be a control issue ofcourse.
StraddleMyNose

Apr 19 @ 3:31PM  
I don't know. it would depend on a lot of things
onehornytoad69

Apr 19 @ 8:24PM  
I would be willing too....
If..... we had known each other for long time!!
Plus..Dated for a LONG time!!!!
and...Made a Contract..even if we were Married!!!
The contract would be for MY "Support" because..I Left everything for this "Relationship"
PPL tend to "Seize" the Moment......and when That Moment is gone....its Over!!
Yeah..Lust and other factors are in there..lol!!!
So...if it Happens..at MY age... I will not get.. another shot at the Job market!!

If she fucks up.....I will find out...!! Life Happens that way!!!

I will tell her... See ya!!! Don't forget... My chec's start Friday!!!
hog77297

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Apr 19 @ 9:51PM  
I just want a good woman who can support one man and one motorcycle Does that sound like I want too much?
RJ53

Apr 20 @ 1:40AM  
I would say that depends on your age and your career field. If you are in a field where it is easy to get a job and you are young then go for it. When people reach my age they had better hold on to what they already have because it is much harder to start over again.
pinklipstick2

Apr 20 @ 2:48PM  
I was going to say no at first , But the field I am into and will will stay in after I finish it will be maybe . It would depend on many areas of our lives , How well we get along and since I have trust issue ( mine issues only have no idea why ] . although my husand told me It was easier for me to mistrust someone than trust them I think he was right . Plus how will we divide our money pool it or leave it as we have it . Thats some of them not all lol .

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