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posted 1/5/2012 1:03:32 PM |
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Hi everyone and Happy New Year to you. I hope things are going great for you so far this year.

I ran across this article on ABC News and thought I would post it to get opinions.
NO, I did not post the link, just copied the article.

Quite a few of the comments to this thought the officer was stalking her. Some thought it was sweet. Some, that he was abusing his position. Some, he was just shy...

What do you think?
Ladies, what would you do if this happened to you?
Guys, would you use this approach if given the chance?

..Cop Issues Speeding Ticket, Asks Driver for a Date and She Sues Him
..By Lauren Sher
.Posts .By Lauren Sher | ABC News Blogs – 4 hours ago
A Chicago police officer allegedly turned a $132 speeding ticket into a pick-up opportunity when he later tracked down the female driver and asked her out, saying the least he could do for the money he cost her was to treat her to dinner, according to a lawsuit the woman filed in federal court.

Evagelina Paredes filed a lawsuit in U.S. District Court in Chicago, accusing police officer Chris Collins of violating her privacy, according to the Associated Press. She alleges that after she was ticketed on Oct. 22, Collins searched for her address in the motor-vehicle database and left a handwritten note on the windshield of her car, which was parked outside her apartment in the Chicago suburb of Stickney, asking her out on a date.

In the note, a copy of which appeared was included in the court documents and was obtained by the Associated Press, the 27-year-old police officer tried to woo the female driver with humor and a seemingly heartfelt plea.

"It's Chris … that ugly bald Stickney cop who gave you that ticket. … I know this may seem crazy and you're probably right, but truth is I have not stopped thinking about you since. I don't expect a girl as attractive as you to … even go for a guy like me, but I'm taking a shot anyways."

"I did cost you $132 - least I can do is buy you dinner," the note reportedly read.

The scenario is not that far off from the "meet-cutes" of Hollywood romantic comedies. In the 2011 hit "Bridesmaids," Kirsten Wiig's character starts a relationship with the traffic cop who let her out of a ticket for a broken taillight.

Arguably, it's a lot less "cute" when it happens in real-life.

Paredes claims that the note caused her to "suffer great fear and anxiety." In the lawsuit, which seeks unspecified payments in damages, saccording to the Associated Press, she alleges that Collins used his position as a police officer to "manipulate" her into going out with him. Collins declined to comment to the Associated Press.

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Jan 5 @ 1:17PM  
I would find that a little creepy. Maybe he had good intentions but just had the signs of being a potential stalker. I think whatever his intentions were, it was just a bad idea and an invasion of privacy

Jan 5 @ 3:35PM  
I think he was stupid to do it..................but i think it was sweet............I think if he was a stalker type..........or just plain weird he would have knocked on her apt door..........he left it on her car where she wouldn't feel endangered or trapped, he left a note........instead of talking to her personally giving her a chance to just blow him off if she wasn't interested in him.........I guess i would have thought it was strange or wrong if he had walked up to her door and knocked on it and asked her out..........and he didnt look her address up in the database to ask her out..........when he wrote out the ticket it would have been on her drivers license and he would have called her name and license in. Personally i think this is a sue happy world, she is pissed cause she got caught speeding and this is revenge. JMO

Jan 5 @ 4:07PM  
I had a stalker one time who started sending notes to me when we were playing in clubs. Then started sending me flowers and drinks, then started following me home from work even thought I had made it clear I had a boyfriend. He started telling people I was his girlfriend. Finally a cop nailed him outside my apartment building and took him down to Bellevue Hospital. So not all stalkers start out by showing up at your door. I probably would not have filed a law suit but I sure would have reported him to his supervisor.

Jan 5 @ 4:15PM  
he later tracked down the female driver and asked her out,

Key word: he later tracked down-

I would think that using police records for his personal use, is a no-no in his and no doubt any other precinct- seems to me! Buy doing that, he not only is invading her privacy and breaking his precinct's trust to boot!

Bad cop......... Bad cop!!

On the other hand... if a cute/sexy looking female cop pulls me over to issue a ticket and later does the same thing this guy did, well Hell............. by all means, bring it on!

Hey... it's hard to meet women these days!!


Jan 5 @ 4:48PM  
I think any officer that would do this needs his head examined (no, the head on their shoulders... ). As for suing any officer for doing this however, I think it's a bit overkill. The officer should be punished though if evidence determines that's what he was trying to achieve with pulling a woman over without cause.

Jan 5 @ 7:40PM  
Actually, it all depends on the gal, if you have been stalked in the past ... which many of us gals have been, this would cause a lot of anxiety to me as well.

Because it is tough enough with guys hitting gals up in bars and pof and such where there is absolutely no interest and now he knows where she lives.

Sorry, I had been on the run hiding from a guy for more than a year and half in the past, and I go to great lengths that guys don't know where I live. Hell, when my late husband passed away, the cops didn't know where I was living. They had to find me through my employer.

Here in Canada, a violation of privacy such as that, would cost the employer a minimum $50,000 fine.

As well, as a policeman, he is held to a higher standard that the general public, he knew he broke the law. She broke the law speeding, she has to face the consequences.

He broke the law, he has to face the consequences too ...

believe me, if a gal is interested in a guy, she will make sure that he knows when he is writing the ticket ...

I think the thing that is missing is that he knew she wasn't interested, he calls himself ugly, he knew he was breaking the law .... he got a few screws loose and on a bit of power trip.

It makes you wonder though, how do you know that was the first time he did it?

and was he successful with other gals to the point that he got sex for cancelling the ticket?

Might be interesting to watch to see if any further ladies step forward that this wasn't a first time for him doing that!

Gee, I am such a cynic .... that's what happens to a gal that goes out dating...


Jan 5 @ 9:56PM  
I would find that to be very creepy. I wouldn't be filing a lawsuit against him though.

And the thing is, not too long ago in my area, there is a cop on trial right now for killing the mother of his unborn baby. Yeah, she was pregnant with his baby when he strangled her.

We expect the police to uphold the law, and to follow it also. This guy, he knew better than to be doing that.

Jan 6 @ 12:31AM  
Well....How Many Women..Put on their Sweet get "Out Of A Ticket?"

I wasn't there......but I can see this Doll Baby...sitting in her car....Batting her the Officer..."That" Look.......all the while..shes trying to get OUT...of a Ticket!!!( Fucking Pretty.. women..know that they can get men to ...Jump..and Jump High at that!!!!)
He did Not let her OFF...she received the damn Ticket she Deserved!!!
If he woulda let her Off.....Then... I would Point the finger at him ....!!

I say....what he did isn't completely some will see it....
But I bet....he isn't a Perv!!!!

He just......"Fell In 1st sight"!
Just saying...

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