somnium
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Dec 17 @ 12:39PM
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After a nice dinner date and general conversation- a nice long cuddling session starting with cloths on and our favorite drinks, along with conversation about our selves, both of us working a piece of clothing off here and there on the other one, touching, little massages here and there, kisses and some tongue action, leading to whatever feels good to each other, which is part of the conversation about our selves to begin with- how else are you going to find out what feels good to your partner? 
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Strega
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Dec 17 @ 12:44PM
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For me it has always been part of a LTR. Even back in the 60s and 70s I wasn't going to hop into bed with just anyone. Now the male members of our band would screw pretty much anything with a vagina after a couple of drinks, and then wondered why their wives divorced them. They took sex, drugs and rock and roll a little too far.
What does it take for me to have sex with someone? They have to be intelligent, and I have to care for them. We have to be on the same wavelength outside the bedroom as well.
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summernite
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Dec 17 @ 12:53PM
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I'm sitting here thinking .. it's hard to remember ..it's been wayyy too long. so apparently whatever it takes hasn't happened in a while .. I do think chemistry has a lot to do with it .. I remember the sparkle in his eyes when he smiled .. the kisses on my neck .. not too many words have to be said .. he was very attentive ... brought flowers and lots of hugs.
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sugarnspice005
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Dec 17 @ 7:11PM
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I agree with Strega on it being part of a LTR, and yes, chemistry and attraction. I can't just up and have sex with someone if I don't even know their name.
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Ewe_Wish
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Dec 17 @ 7:16PM
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Well it doesn't necessarily take love.......I have sex with men that i just liked.........but there has to be more.........there has to be a chemistry...........we have to be friends........I don't do strangers just because it takes time for me to find that certain thing I find attractive about them (and not just looks) I had well actually have a good friend who was just a fuck buddy........we had a great time..........spent time doing other things.........but when it came right down to it...........there was just not enough there to be in a commitment with him.
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rdsingle
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Dec 17 @ 7:52PM
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Interested. If a woman cant keep my intrest then there is no sense to having sex. Chemistry is fine. But if your bored with each other before you will probably be bored during sex. As for a stranger, i like to find out more about a woman before having sex.
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