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posted 9/20/2011 12:59:24 PM |
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It's what we make of it. Sure, there are some things out of our control, weather, other dummies, etc, but, what is in our control, is how we choose to live our lives. Just got to thinking about this after reading a blog on MD where the writer is one angry individual.

Why is it that sometimes we hold onto things that were so horrible? Like we want to stay "hurt" or "angry". Is it a defense mechanism so as to avoid being hurt or disappointed? Or, just, easier to be mad than to let it go and stay optimistic? I've shared on here about Steve, my friend who was gunned down, and Mick, my fiance' who died by suicide. Both tragic events, and both times, in my grieving over their loss, I remember hating. Yes, hating. That's such an ugly word. And, eventually, I got to a point where I realized hate is a waste of time in this adventure called life. Face it, there are going to be people out there who are miserable, who don't know how to let it go, and, we can't change them. They have to want to change for them selves.

I see people who have their beliefs/views, and are very open about them. Then I see those who disagree be just as open. And then there are those who have this whole "I'm right, the rest of you are wrong and I'm going to prove it" mentality. Want to see some of that in action? Read the blogs on MD. Over on MD, the Mod actually deleted and locks down threads in the forums dealing with religion and politics. I didn't get to see it, but I guess it got really bad over there, to the point of people actually threatening each other. So now, if there is any mention of religion or politics in the forums, the Mod will either lock the thread or just all out delete it. And believe me, they monitor that site closer than they monitor this one. Myself, I don't begrudge anyone their beliefs or views, whether it's religion, politics, or just life in general. We are all unique individuals who have come to believe or view things through what we've learned/experienced in life.

I just know that in this journey we call life, I've chosen to travel it enjoying it. Yes, I've had those bad bumps along the way, and I've decided I can either let myself wallow in self pity, or, I can wipe off the bruises and move on to the next adventure wiser from the lesson just learned. Love? What is it? I know with my family, I love them with all of my heart, even if my sisters and I may quarrel once in a great while. We're women, we're allowed to do that. I've got my bestest friend in the whole world who is like another sister to me, I love her dearly too..and yes, she and I have quarreled. I'm telling you, it's a female thing. As for the true love, I had that once, Mick. Will I find it again? I don't know. I'm not going to say no and then limit myself to "settling". I deserve better, we all do.

Well, I think I'll draw this to a close....and this will be my last blog for the day. Don't want to be a blog hog ya know.

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Sep 20 @ 2:42PM  
I'm just havin' a bit of fun baiting the uptighty righties on MD

Sep 20 @ 7:08PM  
We are all unique individuals

Yes we are but we all have one common denominator, we're all human that have (fortunately/unfortunately) the ability to reason, which, usually get's us in trouble in the first place!


Sep 20 @ 11:00PM  
I've traveled the road of hard knocks and it took me years to realize that many times it was my own fault. When I quit blaming others it lessened my anger and with much humility, I forgave myself my stupidity and life began to feel pretty darn good.

I remember my old blogs filled with anger, bitterness and an attitude the size of Texas. I had a lot to work through but I did it and if I can, anyone's a choice. Some choose to live a life of misery by choice and blame everyone else for it. You can't tell 'em anything...they are happy wallowing in self pity and woe is me. Oh well....

A cookie comin' your way just 'cause I can...

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