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posted 7/4/2011 1:41:03 AM |
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I have a very good friend who lost her mom and her dad unexpectedly the end of last year. One month apart.

Neither left a will. No one knew this or ever asked them.
And although all of the children are well over age, there are many complications and fights. It's rediculous. (my opinion)

I've always heard the death of a loved one will either bring out the best or the worst in those left behind to deal with things... or anyone who expects to profit from the passing.
I believe this.... for the most part. Probably about 90%.
And this family is no exception.

I read that last month, (June) was National Make a Will Month.
I never knew such a thing existed...
But I have sat here for the last hour working on mine. I don't have a lot to leave, but there are some things that I definitely want to go to specific people.
And with no will, the state gets to have it's form of sex. Well it gets to screw loved ones over way too often.
So I'm telling them what to do, not what they want.

Do you have a will, and if so, do people know where to find it in the event that you pass? Or an attorney to handle things?

Do you have a list of account numbers for banking accounts, credit cards, loans and such so someone can take care of all of that with little hassles?
What about where to find insurance policies,titles and deeds to any vehicles, property, etc.?

I know all of this is something that so many of us think we will do at a later time... and we hope we won't be needing any of it anytime soon. But regardless of our age, or health, we just never know.

Speaking of health and never knowing, what about a living will? Do you have someone to make your health decisions when you are unable to?

I swear I didn't intend for this to be a morbid or depressing subject ... Just somethng to think about.

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1bunny629

Jul 4 @ 1:55AM  
I need to get on this. I have a few girlfriends to leave somethings to. I guess what my Mom leaves me I will leave to my brother and his girls. I have no outstanding bills, but I guess I need to give someone the info so they can close out my monies and distribute. best wishes. It needs to be done. Hugs, M
Strega

Jul 4 @ 2:04AM  
I have had a will ever since my kids were small. As a single mom I had to make sure they were taken care of and as they were to go to an old friend not a relative I put that in writing. I have changed it through the years according to circumstances of the times. I also had a living will making my medical wishes extremely clear as I have had health issues from time to time. People need both I don't care what their age because like you said, you never know.
pinklipstick2

Jul 4 @ 4:04AM  
Yes wills are imporant Tommy and I both made out wills when our first son was born changes were made as the rest of the kids came alongand we got older.When he died so suddenly and everyone was in stages of shock ;it was a less stressfull having everything legal and in one place. Tommy mother passed away a few months ago an as many brothers and sisters Tommy had it was for the best(9 total) and there was hardly any hard feelings,Even with a will it can be a nightmare as one of my sister in laws is finding out
tassie1

Jul 4 @ 5:29AM  
bank accounts ?
credit cards ?

oh yeah... they're all hidden away with the marriage certificate. i'm not allowed any where near them in case i find a loophole in the fine print
somnium

Jul 4 @ 9:12AM  
I swear I didn't intend for this to be a morbid or depressing subject ...

It's neither... it's just a necessary evil that has to be done to protect what you have!

My daughter will have all the info she will need on a thumb nail drive (plus duplicate) with the proper info to close any bank/trading accounts I may have and go into my residence and grab anything of value there, including my PC before the state ever sees what I had! She'll have a notarized and signed 'power of attorney' form, to use if and when needed- one in paper and a saved scanned image,

There is no way that the state and whatever attorney(s) are involved, are going to get their selfish, greedy little mitts on my possessions! That means about a 15 minute grieving period and then have at it to get what belongs to her! That's my ultimate goal... to keep the butt heads who had nothing to do with me accumulating my assets, from stealing them!


sugarnspice005

Jul 4 @ 10:23AM  
Do you have a will, and if so, do people know where to find it in the event that you pass? Or an attorney to handle things?

Not yet, even though I know I should. And they are not the hard to type up, unless one has a lot of assets, then it would be a good idea to have an attorney draw it up.

Do you have a list of account numbers for banking accounts, credit cards, loans and such so someone can take care of all of that with little hassles?

My parents and my sisters know where to find that information. I've told them where it is.

What about where to find insurance policies,titles and deeds to any vehicles, property, etc.?
Yep, got that covered too.

Speaking of health and never knowing, what about a living will? Do you have someone to make your health decisions when you are unable to?

Yeah, still got to make one of those out myself. Yes, my family know exactly what my wishes are, but, I also realize that when emotions get involved, sometimes wished are not followed. I remember the Terry Shaivo case, and I would never want to put my family through that. It was painful to watch her family's pain. Best way to ensure your wishes are followed is to have a Living Will because in some cases, even though a family may know what you want, they may not be willing to "let go" when the time comes.

RevDocLove

Jul 4 @ 10:57PM  
I gotta' get around to doing that..one of these days

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