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posted 5/12/2011 10:54:17 AM |
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As most of you know a few years back I went through a divorce. I pretty much totally swore off men after that. The only man I had ever loved was willing to let me go. I didn't date much for two or three years; I moved in with a friend of mine and went about my daily life, working, taking care of my kids, and so forth.

I decided this year around tax time that it was time for me to move out and get my own place. I moved closer to my kid's father because we share joint custody and it makes things easier on the kids if we can live closer.

I moved in and got my little apartment all set up and hooked up my internet connection. I've been frequenting another dating site with what I must say are excellent results. I've been on several dates with five or so people since February when I moved in. Nothing special even though I got lucky a time or two with a girl who lives close to me (Most of you know that I'm bi, I'm assuming)

Then I met Her. She lives in the next town over. She was having car troubles, and well, so am I at the moment, but mine was still running well enough to go pick her up. I went to pick her up after work and we came back to my house. Her parents live in this town so it was convenient for her to come home with me as I could drop her off there when we'd finished visiting.

My sister went to school with this girl. I can't say I ever knew her but my she and my sister were good friends. Any girl that my sister can be friends with is OK in my book, so I wasn't afraid she was an ax murderer. (At least not convicted, LOL) She was beautiful in every sense of the word. She had long sandy blonde hair, blue green eyes, and beautiful skin. Her facial features were tiny but well placed. She was tall, five nine, and built. She had an ample chest, a tiny waist, and large hips. She was perfect for me; just the way I liked them.

We talked a while and then we snuggled in on the couch and pulled up the movie "Easy A" on Netflix. Halfway through the movie she leaned her head over on my shoulder and dozed off a bit. She was very tired from dealing with her car issues all day. I slipped my arm around her and she stirred a bit and titled her head upward and kissed me on the cheek. The next thing I know we had our arms around each other and were making out hot and heavy. I can honestly say I was close to climax so I pulled away. She asked me what was wrong and I said nothing, of course nothing was wrong.... it was all perfectly right.

But I knew if we slept together it would be the end of this newfound interest.. I don't know if it makes sense but I knew if I took her in the bedroom and we slept together that in the morning when I took her home I would have the feeling she wouldn't be the kind of girl I wanted.

This will probably make more sense to the guys than the girls, but I want to chase that. I want to feel like I've won a prize a the end of four or five dates. I want to respect her for making me work for it.

I fixed her some dinner and we finished the movie and I drove her to her parents house. She's back home in the next town over and I can't stop thinking about her. We've texted back and forth and I want to see her again. I'm tempted to stop by her house on my way home every day but I don't want to be that girl either; I'm not a stalker and I'll let her take it slow as well.

Any advice is taken... what do I do? I can't get her out of my head...


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May 12 @ 1:53PM  
Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Enjoy the journey without concern for the destination.

A lot of the angst maybe circumstantial such as being out of the loop and lonely. You may need to get the rust off. Calling on the phone and kind of letting her set the pace may be the best approach. Get to know one another before adding complexity to it. If not forced or pushed, relationships will usually find their own levels.

It would also be a good idea to keep widening your social circles to have more companions and activity partners as it sounds like there is a complete social rebuilding going on.

Good luck to you!

May 12 @ 2:40PM  
Thanks Wow, You always give the BEST advice!!!


May 12 @ 2:53PM  
IMHO, if you can touch the brass ring, and think...."Nahhhhhh, I'll grab it next time...." As it will show more class, by waiting.....
It's your own fault. Old cowboy saying, "Strike while the iron is hot".
But, this is from a horndog 'ole man.

May 12 @ 5:30PM  
Thanks Wow, You always give the BEST advice!!!

Thank you very kindly, Christie.

MHO, if you can touch the brass ring, and think...."Nahhhhhh, I'll grab it next time...." As it will show more class, by waiting.....
It's your own fault. Old cowboy saying, "Strike while the iron is hot".

That is very true in a sexually oriented relationship, especially in a competitive dating enviornment. I cannot disagree with that.

But I think it all goes a little deeper than that with you and I may be talking out my ass as I read between the lines. I feel you need to identify potentials in a social rebuilding process. One thing is to make sure that potential relationships are 51 percent grounded on friendship. As in building a house, the foundation is the key to long term success and meaning.

In all of this your new friend is your bud and mentor. Let it grow. If you two do get randy, don't get sticky and fast forward it to being more than a great encounter. Try to separate the heart from the loins. Think with your head, not your clit and heart.

May 13 @ 3:37AM  
I agree with WOW. Let time take its course. Sounds like a good start

May 13 @ 2:49PM  
(Most of you know that I'm bi, I'm assuming)
Well if they didn't, they do now... sorry couldn't resist.

Let her set the pace if that's what you want, but don't forget to add your own thoughts in there also. Don't just leave it all up to her and have her thinking that you aren't all that interested.
And good luck...

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