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Taking the Risk

Permission to Be Real



People who keep it real present themselves as they truly are, the good parts and the parts most of us would rather hide.





Most of us are familiar with the idea of keeping it real and have an intuitive sense about what that means. People who keep it real don't hide behind a mask to keep themselves safe from their fear of how they might be perceived. They don't present a false self in order to appear more perfect, more powerful, or more independent. People who keep it real present themselves as they truly are, the good parts and the parts most of us would rather hide, sharing their full selves with the people who are lucky enough to know them.



Being real in this way is not an easy thing to do as we live in a culture that often shows us images of physical and material perfection. As a result, we all want to look younger, thinner, wealthier, and more successful. We are rewarded externally when we succeed at this masquerade, but people who are real remind us that, internally, we suffer. Whenever we feel that who we are is not enough and that we need to be bigger, better, or more exciting, we send a message to ourselves that we are not enough. Meanwhile, people who are not trying to be something more than they are walk into a room and bring a feeling of ease, humor, and warmth with them. They acknowledge their wrinkles and laugh at their personal eccentricities without putting themselves down.



People like this inspire us to let go of our own defenses and relax for a moment in the truth of who we really are. In their presence, we feel safe enough to take off our masks and experience the freedom of not hiding behind a barrier. Those of us who were lucky enough to have a parent who was able to keep it real may find it easier to be that way ourselves. The rest of us may have to work a little harder to let go of our pretenses and share the beauty and humor of our real selves. Our reward for taking such a risk is that as we do, we will attract and inspire others, giving them the permission to be real too.

A friend of mine posted this on FB and I thought it was worth sharing here....

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sugarnspice005

Apr 14 @ 1:43PM  
A lot of truth in that.

I like to "keep it real" with my profile. And yes, there are some things I keep "private", I don't "post all". If it's something I feel comfortable in sharing, I will share.
Wordsofwit

Apr 14 @ 1:53PM  
I agree and thanks for posting this.

However, I have found that people admire others "keeping it real" as long as it is something that they want to hear. If it is that they don't want to hear, many will get really pissed off.
Luvrgrl

Apr 14 @ 2:22PM  
Sugar-I'm right there with ya! I pick n choose who I share really personal stuff with. Not a lot I haven't shared here tho!
RJ53

Apr 14 @ 2:26PM  
However, I have found that people admire others "keeping it real" as long as it is something that they want to hear. If it is that they don't want to hear, many will get really pissed off

I have run into that to the point where I will write something then go back and read it and hit the delete button. Or I catch myself thinking something and just choose to keep it to mysef in a conversation with most people. Sometimes the hassles that come afterwards are just not worth putting the thought out there.
DangerousCurves999

Apr 14 @ 3:13PM  
My friends tell me that I rell them what they need to hear and not necessarily what they want to hear and they appreciate that from me.

Keeping it real means people accept you for who you are and don't take offence to you being you.

Keeping it real is less stressful as you are not constantly maintaining a facade.

Keeping it real is about stability, dependability, someone you can count on,

Kudos to you for this blog!
hog77297

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Apr 15 @ 2:14PM  
I AM WHAT I AM! enough said!

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