I read a post that another member of AMD posted on the forums/message boards...and I posted a reply to this person's question. I'd mention this person's name to give her credit for this blog. However, I'm not quite sure if it'd be breaking any of the blog "rules". However, I'm sure if anyone reads this blog, they'll know to whom I am speaking about. 
Anyhow...on to my blogging. 
This person posted this heading to a new thread...
WINK my ass off.... Then she went on to ask... ...but that doesn't tell me a fuckin' thing. All it seems to say is you have nothing TO say!
Any agreements on the fact?
So I decided I'd reply and give my opinion, for whatever it was worth. Well the next thing I know...I posted a rather long winded reply. So I thought..."Hey, you dumb ass, make it a damn blog. So everyone who reads the thread, doesn't have to scroll past my long winded reply!" This way if they choose to read my long winded reply, they can do so here instead.
Anyhow...here's how my reply went...
Ah the wink thing again, nothing personal ******...but seems this has been something of a hot topic about AMD as of late.
When I 1st got here, I sent out a couple of winks. And it had nothing to do with the fact that I had nothing to say, but rather had to do with the fact that...I wasn't really sure what to say.
Now I know you've seen me about these message boards, and we've even posted at/to one another a few times...so you may or may not believe this because of this fact.
But I happen to be a bit on the shy side, yes, the shy side. On the boards it's a lot different when I put something of myself, my persona if you will...out there and in front of God and everyone to see.
However, when it's on a more personal level, as in mailing someone on a dating site. Or if it's seeing a woman on the street...I am quite shy. Now once I get to know someone, I'm the total opposite, and any number of my friends could tell you that. Be they the friends I've made and have in the real world, or, be they the people I've met on here. At least I hope the few I've come to know on here, are friends...at least I consider them as such.
So for that reason (shyness) I sent winks when I first came to AMD. But I found out in a quick hurry... a simple wink doesn't cut it on here. As ALL of my winks went un-noticed...well not unnoticed, but they weren't returned, nor did any of them email me.
Furthermore, I think of a wink as something of a small flirt...but whatever you call it...I simply see the wink as an indication to the one I sent it to as a...
"Hey, I think and find you attractive, and I'm interested in getting to know you...would you maybe be interested in me"? But for some reason that doesn't seem to work here, which I find a bit funny and odd.
As I've found a simple wink to work quite well in a bar, or what have you. I have winked at women in the bars a couple of times, in a store a few times, at parties a few times, hell, I even remember winking at a woman in a K Mart parking lot once, a laundromat once, as well as at work.
And believe it or not, a simple wink would have a few of these women come over to me and they'd start talking to me. All because I was too shy to walk up to them and to start talking to them myself, but my winking at them let them know I was interested. Matter of fact, a couple of my relationships started with a...simple wink.
The wink I gave that woman in the K Mart parking lot, Turned out to be one of my best relationships. As did one of them that I gave to this other woman in a bar!!
Yes, the wink to me is just a way for a shy person to say..."Hello there, I'm interested".
Now my question is...why is it an acceptable form of flirtation, and an acceptable way for a shy person to say..."Hi there, I'm interested in getting to know you". Out in the real world, but it's not acceptable in the cyber world, or here on AMD??
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Argit01
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Jan 14 @ 4:16AM
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I saw that blog too and posted a comment which didn't get approved saying much the same thing. You've got to laugh though, am giving you a kudo for this caveman.
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canuhelpme258
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Jan 14 @ 4:59AM
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I went for a time winking at all new members, it started some problems, so I stopped.
I think if winks had a common meaning it would be different, but, then again, I'm not the one paid to think, lets ask Da Bear!
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canuhelpme258
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Jan 14 @ 7:20AM
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Dude I just noticed it's crave, I been calling you crazycaveman... I'm sorry.
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NightOfOld
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Jan 14 @ 10:20AM
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I myself try never to wink without sending some kind of message with it.
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ponme
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Jan 14 @ 10:22AM
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*sniff* well.. you didn't wink at me.. or if you did.. you got winked back at.. I try to return all winks from guys over 25 who don't say they want a tinker toy in their essay.. why? Because I have found that most of the winkers are indeed just too shy to start a convo.
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PrincessKissy
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Jan 14 @ 12:06PM
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Crazy, you can wink, smile, drool, or molesticate me anytime you want... even though we're already friends (and yes, I do consider you a friend!!)
*hugs and kisses*
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ynot7769
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Jan 14 @ 12:12PM
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But I happen to be a bit on the shy side, yes, the shy side. On the boards it's a lot different when I put something of myself, my persona if you will...out there and in front of God and everyone to see .
wow!!! ME2!!!! well..sorta....maybe i hide it better...my job requires it........... 
winks are a 'test close' to SEE if there might be a mutual interest without feelin (when there's not ) ya got your dick closed in the car door! 
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JJN4Fun
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Jan 17 @ 2:51PM
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Now my question is...why is it an acceptable form of flirtation, and an acceptable way for a shy person to say..."Hi there, I'm interested in getting to know you". Out in the real world, but it's not acceptable in the cyber world, or here on AMD??
You know, I don't see a wink IRL to have any more or less meaning than it does here. I want to respond to something that's been said, not a gesture. That's all I can really say for now :)
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