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posted 11/21/2010 10:29:57 AM |
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Earlier this morning I had the TV on and there was a video on that showed a woman asking her bf/ fiance' about his trip to Vegas and he replied something about not remembering.... she had his cell phone in hand and told him that his cell pics remembered, as she went through them.

In the media lately there is much talk of the pending divorce between Eva Longoria Parker and soon to be ex-husband Tony Parker.
She found hundreds of texts, on his cell phone, between him and another woman he has evidently been cheating with.

First of all, In MY Opinon, although maybe not so humble... ...If you want to be with someone other than your spouse/significant other/ partner/etc, do it in the open. Don't sneak around, lie, cheat and rip someones heart out just because you're horny or selfish or just plain stupid.
YES, I know there are exceptions to this....I'm not talking about open relationships or severe illnesses or such....I mean a relationship where the other person thinks they are your only one.
The relationship where you are pretending to to happy and faithful to that person.

But, that's not my point for this blog....

Do you feel that you have a right to go through a partners cell phone/ emails/ etc.? And do they have the right to go through yours?

Or is this invading their/ your privacy?

Have or would you go through someones cell or emails without their approval or knowledge?
If you found something you thought was supicious would you confront them with it or just let it go since you didn't have pemission to look in the first place?

If you didn't find anything, would you be honest and tell them you did it anyway?

What would you do if someone went thorugh yours.... or asked you if they could?
Would you ask to go through theirs?


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PinkToeNails

Nov 21 @ 10:37AM  
LOL It's times like these that make me happy I'm single!!

I wouldn't have a problem with someone going thru my cell phone... I have nothing to hide! Even if I had a S/O, I wouldn't be doing anything that needs to be hidden.
Wordsofwit

Nov 21 @ 10:50AM  
Yes it is an invasion of privacy. My answers to most of the questions are no. On the last one it would depend on the circumstances.

I am not condoning cheating, but in many cases, if one was so inclined to get something strange, wouldn't getting a separate cell phone just for that purpose be some worthwhile insurance as a hedge against attorney fees?
rdsingle

Nov 21 @ 10:56AM  
To me its an invasion of privacy. There has to be a certain amount of trust in a relationship. Personnel items are personnel. I dont seek out and go through other peoples personnel property. They shouldnt mine. I dont even go through my kids stuff. If there is a problem I wait till they are there and we go through it together. As for the relationship part. I have no advice. Screwed up the last one and dont know how to start a new one.
Wordsofwit

Nov 21 @ 10:58AM  
There was blog related to this posted by somebody, maybe straddle, when all of the Tiger Woods escapade hit the news that had some great points in the comments. Hopefully this generates some, good post.
Ewe_Wish

Nov 21 @ 11:36AM  
Wow..............I'm not sure.......before I would have said yes...........but My honey and I do it all the time..........if he needs a number or info I have saved in my phone he picks it up and gets it and I do the same with him........guess it doesn't bother me or him because we have nothing to hide from each other and am comfortable with each other (that's not to say people who want to keep the info to themselves have anything to hide)

I would say its probably different for different people...........I dont like my person gone thru..........but some people dont care if you go thru their purse...............I guess its a matter of choice that should be respected.
somnium

Nov 21 @ 12:29PM  
Well... I'm kinda on the fence with that question! I agree with PTN and Ewe_Wish! Both seem to feel if there's nothing to hide, there's nothing to worry about! I suppose asking first is the proper and respectful thing to do or, in an emergency! Having said that, to do it for something to do, is snooping without probable cause, in my book!


lunanegra

Nov 21 @ 12:35PM  
I dont condone cheating- I downright hate it, but you have to really wonder why most of these high profile women end up having men who stray. ELP struck me as someone sorta high maintenance, shallow..

Also doesnt help her husband is an athlete. Its like the minute athletes go out in public, poon just falls at their feet. It was a recipe for disaster, imo.

Anyway...

Do you feel that you have a right to go through a partners cell phone/ emails/ etc.? And do they have the right to go through yours?

I would have to have just cause. Sometimes hunches can be wrong and I wouldnt raid someone's private property on a whim.
ladybootscooter

Nov 21 @ 1:08PM  
Depends on the situation. If I was in a long term serious living together and or married relationship and suspected I was being cheated on. Yeah I might check. Not sure if I ever told you but that is how I saved myself from marrying a man back in 03. Found out he was cheating on me big time and running up my credit cards to boot! I found all this information out on Christmas morning but since I'd already put the Turkey in the oven I waited until the next morning to drop that little bomb on him. We loaded his shit up and I left him standing in his ex wife's driveway in the snow surrounded by his shit. So yeah I would if I felt there was a reason. Anyone can look through my phone or PC, not doing anything behind their backs so I don't have to worry about it. Kudo to you for a good thought provoking blog.
onehornytoad69

Nov 21 @ 4:15PM  
I don't cheat, and when Ever I get another S.O....
She can read my Emails, Text, Check my Phone....Sniff my Balls......
AS LONG as she is keeping me Satisfied !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Would I want to check hers....Ummmm Nope!!!!
But......from My experience ....it will all come to Light!!!
If you fuck up...it will show itself!
StraddleMyNose

Nov 21 @ 4:42PM  
There was blog related to this posted by somebody, maybe straddle, when all of the Tiger Woods escapade hit the news that had some great points in the comments.
Nope, I don't think it was me, Bruce.

Anyway, this is an invasion of privacy.

Have or would you go through someones cell or emails without their approval or knowledge?
NO!
If you found something you thought was supicious would you confront them with it or just let it go since you didn't have pemission to look in the first place?
Yes!

If you didn't find anything, would you be honest and tell them you did it anyway?
No! But, I don't think I would be looking in the first place.

What would you do if someone went thorugh yours.... or asked you if they could?
Trust is very important to me, and I think I would be offended if they did ask me. That's not to say I wouldn't comply
Would you ask to go through theirs?
Probably not!

Please delete my previous comment since there were some typos in it.
KitKat25

Nov 21 @ 4:56PM  
Do you feel that you have a right to go through a partners cell phone/ emails/ etc.? And do they have the right to go through yours? No.

Or is this invading their/ your privacy? I think it's an invasion of their privacy.

Have or would you go through someones cell or emails without their approval or knowledge? No...I wouldn't do it.

If you found something you thought was supicious would you confront them with it or just let it go since you didn't have pemission to look in the first place? If I came across some information accidently (like an open email on a computer we both use)...I would simply ask them about it.

If you didn't find anything, would you be honest and tell them you did it anyway? I wouldn't have invaded their privacy in the first place.

Kudos on a interesting blog topic CL.

What would you do if someone went thorugh yours.... or asked you if they could?
Would you ask to go through theirs? Depends on the person...the reason they're asking...and the mood I'm in that day. I'm a private person for the most part...and I don't think a relationship automatically grants you full access to every part of a person's life. JMHO.
1bunny629

Nov 21 @ 5:06PM  
I am single, but I don't assume I have the right to do anything that would infringe on someones privacy.
sugarnspice005

Nov 21 @ 5:42PM  
Do you feel that you have a right to go through a partners cell phone/ emails/ etc.? And do they have the right to go through yours?

No, I don't feel I have a right to go through my s/o email or cell phone.

I feel it's both an invasion of privacy, and, shows there is no trust in the relationship.

No, I would not go through my s/o's cell phone or email without their knowing it.

If someone went through my email and cell phone without asking me...I'd ask them why they thought they had the right to do so. I wouldn't be very happy that's for sure. Now, if they asked, I'd let them look. To me, it's a matter of respect and trust.

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