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DOMINATE or SUBMISSIVE?

posted 1/10/2007 10:32:58 PM |
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  StraddleMyNose

After reading a recent blog on here with one of the comments on it made by Dom whether I would make a great Dom with some training, I have to honestly say the thought has crossed my mind serveral times recently. I used to be dominate years ago, and later on my taste had changed to wanting to be dominated and somewhat wanted to feel like a piece of meat or straddled like a stuffed animal, and for her to have her way with me over and over all night long until I'm drenched by her sweat honey and cum on every bit of space on my body. I still like the thought of that and I don't think that will ever change. However, I do think it's good to be both dominate and submissive with your lover. The thought of me having my way with her, bending her over, using my handcuffs on her, strapping her down on the bed and coming up between her legs, well, you get the idea. I doubt that I could ever be tied up, and I know I will never be blindfolded, but I think the thought of doing that to someone else has some merits for me. So my question is, Should I be more dominate to where I can have my way with her like tying her up and cumming all over her face, or should I be more submissive to where I let her hump every bit of me until she can't cum anymore, or both, but which one more with one or another?

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str8ngr84u2

Jan 10 @ 10:45PM  
Perhaps being a dominant you could order her to use you--until she cannot cum anymore. Then you would have to best of both worlds without letting go of the control.
PrincessKissy

Jan 10 @ 10:48PM  
Str8 had a good point...

I'm submissive, by nature, so I would have a difficult time being dominate.
MEMEME69247

Jan 10 @ 10:48PM  
I have to have both worlds,,,,,there are days where I feel I must have control.....then there are days....I want him to use and abuse me the way he wants.....abuse me in my world is to have sex with every part of my body....by not hurting me.....a little pain some time takes you a long way......Lena
Stubbsy

Jan 10 @ 11:20PM  
I don't remember what I was trying to do at the time, but my girlfriend kept bugging me and bugging me, delaying the accomplishment of whatever it was that was so important to me at the time. When I finally finished, I grabbed her, pushed her sweats down, and pulled her across my knee. Then I spanked her while I told her what a naughty girl she was. I'm not very good at dealing out pain, and I'm sure the spanking wasn't a very difficult thing to endure, but it did turn her cute little ass a lovely shade of cherry.

Somehow, she got incredibly wet during this, so I slipped my left hand under her body to give her a good rubbing while I continued doing what I was doing. You've gotta love having a beautiful woman squirming on your lap while you spank her and play with her slippery parts.

Both styles are good at different times. Variety is the spice of life.
aberlour

Jan 10 @ 11:36PM  
Why not just do both after all there is such a thing as a switch…
wtxman

Jan 10 @ 11:40PM  
Straddle my freind, I didn't know that you had a special name" dominate" for my regular sex life. All the stuff you described is what i figure is fairly normal and routine for me anway, let me know how it works for you

Ps. the cellar is again open for business with an added feature inspired by DS, however because of a limited operating budget, you will need to provide your own shovel to take advantage of the new service.
StraddleMyNose

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Jan 11 @ 12:56AM  
Str8ngr84u2, I thought about that one, seems like it would work too. To order a woman to have her way with me and to not stop till she can't cum anymore.

PrincessKissy, I would love to dominate you.


Mememe, the best of both worlds work for me.

StraddleMyNose

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Jan 11 @ 12:58AM  
Okay, Wtxman, I'll try to bring my own shovel. lol


Btw, who's feeling submissive tonight?
cabl_guy

Jan 11 @ 1:00AM  
Unfortunately, my wife has always been he submissive one . I've tried to get her to take control, but, it's not happening.
Therefore, I got the permission to seek aggressive partners. And, I like it a LOT !
I haven't had much experience with dom & sub . But, enuf to know that it all depends on the lady and how they feel that particular day. And, both were equally pleasurable.
I tend to lean towards her being the dom . Nothin turns me on more than a gal demanding me to do certain favors. Yet, I agree with you about not being tied up or blind-folded.
So, I guess that'd make you the Dom . If you're not ready to submit totally, then you're not a Sub . . But, that's all relevant to who you're with.
Just like "real" life..........it takes an open-minded person to get both perspectives. And, you are that, straddle.
I'll slap you around a bit if it'll help ya. But, I'm not havin sex with you.
SKEvalma

Jan 11 @ 1:02AM  
Luv .... I always tell men this ... I am neither Submissive nor Dominate ... I am a Challenge unto any man ... I also like my men to be the same ... why choose one or the other ... just be up for the challenge

Always With Luv,
Ms. Eva
lazyspoon

Jan 11 @ 3:00AM  
Straddle it's a fine line. Setting up rules beforehand is a submissive action, where you submit yourself to guidelines in order to keep each other safe. Dominating gives you the choice to listen to this or not, but think of it this way:

If you dominate even the principles and tell -them- what to do, and ignore them, hurting your lover, then it may cause them to leave, putting you as a dominant, with no submissive... ungratified.

Perhaps you could try an "honesty trade" approach. Allowing your partner to regulate your dominance throughout the act, or even allowing her to set the terms by herself before-hand. keeping in mind that you're under -her- will of life may help those submissive feelings of yours. (e.g. you can hit me, but not my tits--even if she likes it)

I however, like to have things my way... for hours... and hours... and hours...
switch83

Jan 11 @ 4:13AM  
Did some one call for a Switch? I totally say go both ways if you can.

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