And You Know it will not work out...
How do you let them Know?
Are you Honest? Straight up!!????
Do you try too...let them down easy? (who knows how someone Feels..right?)
Do you use..."It's not you..Its Me" Thingy?
How do you stop dating someone....that you Know is a dead end??(for You!)
( I'm Not saying that they are Bad..or Something is wrong with them..but they are not for YOU!)
Thoughts?
PS: I'm date-less...so don't try to read into this!!  
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StraddleMyNose
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Aug 21 @ 10:30PM
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Are you Honest? Straight up!!???? Do you try too...let them down easy? I would say these
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NightOfOld
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Aug 21 @ 10:32PM
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Your dating less ? How is he. ?
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NightOfOld
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Aug 21 @ 10:34PM
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I try to let them down easy.
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KitKat25
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Aug 21 @ 10:37PM
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Well OHT...I have a talk with the guy face-to-face. It's the polite and right thing to do IMO. 
I request that we go somewhere casual and reasonably priced...I pay for my own meal and drinks...and then I gently tell them that I'm not feeling the magic that is suppose to be present in a romantic relationship. Then I tell them that I hope we can still stay in touch (if they want to) and hang out occasionally. I try not to drop the word friend a lot because it tends to bum the guy out. At least this has been my experience.
OMG...do you know there are some people who actually break up with each other by text message...or Facebook status change these days?!?!  I can't even wrap my head around this kind of rudeness.  
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sugarnspice005
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Aug 21 @ 10:49PM
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OMG...do you know there are some people who actually break up with each other by text message...or Facebook status change these days?!?!
I've heard that some have also left offline messages or have done so through email.
Myself, I prefer to be honest, and try to let them down easy.
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lunanegra
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Aug 22 @ 12:13AM
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Implying that I'm the one who does the dumping.  
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RJ53
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Aug 22 @ 12:25AM
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After a break-up or two that did not go well I always did it in a public place, short polite and to the point and made sure someone I knew was also going to be there just in case things got ugly.
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straightup_9
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Aug 22 @ 1:56AM
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 Honesty is always the best policy...be open with them....
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tassie1
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Aug 22 @ 6:18AM
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well, there was this bird once who tried to tell me I'm not feeling the magic that is suppose to be present in a romantic relationship
then she went onto some shpeel about it being a distance thing, me being in Australia, her ,luvstruck in Canada ... 
so i just said you want magic  you got magic !!
and i disappeared.  
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Wordsofwit
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Aug 22 @ 6:55AM
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There are a lot of variables involved like how long you have been seeing one another, how well you you know them and the reason that you are calling it off. Honesty with diplomacy works best.
More and more though, it often is a matter of keeping it simple and is done by email or voice mail. The person simply explains their thoughts and there is no risk of confrontation.
Sometimes nothing is said, emails are not replied to, phone calls not returned, etc.
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theSkwirl
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Aug 22 @ 12:36PM
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Usually, and I'm not being conceited, I have to do something cruel to get them to leave me alone. I think that I have dated a lot of stubborn, foolish men.
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RJ53
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Aug 22 @ 3:00PM
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Sometimes nothing is said, emails are not replied to, phone calls not returned, etc.
Ah yes the coward's way out of a relationship. I knew guys back in the day that I worked with who would chase women showering them with attention until they could sleep with them and then pull that crap the next day. Then wondered after a time why they had a hard time getting dates within the social circle they were in.
I told them get a reputation for being a dog and you are going to end up in the dog house.
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Wordsofwit
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Aug 22 @ 3:20PM
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Well, RJ, back when I was in the dating scene, I really saw a rise in the "roaring silence" in the late nineties.
As a corollary, I saw this in the workforce when I worked for the state in for several years earlier in this decade. Two weeks notice, became rare. Often people moving on just did not come in or gave an hour notice.
It is just very different now. If a change is warranted, done deal, nothing to discuss. Why becomes a subject of speculation as an unanswered question as it is only important to the one left behind, the departee already knows.
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RJ53
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Aug 22 @ 4:49PM
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it is only important to the one left behind, the departee already knows
That is still the coward's way out and shows a lack of class and manners on the part of the person doing that. Hopefully everyone who does that to someone has someone do that to them one day and see how they like it.
But I see it this way. Whatever we put out in the universe is going to come back and bite us in the ass sooner or later. Karma can be a bitch. I try to remember that in the way I handle situations.
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1bunny629
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Aug 22 @ 8:01PM
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How do you go from one blog that says your not interested in someone you're dating to a blog that says you just went on a trip with a date?
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1bunny629
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Aug 22 @ 8:11PM
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The way I feel and how I handle things is based on respect and spiritual wholeness. If you rely on Karma, that can be your excuse or your getaway, it is just a lazy mans excuse for dodging the bullet. The word alone says you are only waiting for what you couldn't accomplish by being true. Karma bites, but the truth is when you rely on it, you will get biten.
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Wordsofwit
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Aug 22 @ 9:51PM
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How do you go from one blog that says your not interested in someone you're dating to a blog that says you just went on a trip with a date?
I can answer that from my experience. I have had some good times that would have been much better if I had been with somebody else. So, a few small changes were made.
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maxximuss1967
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Aug 24 @ 11:46AM
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I let them know, that....... I like them but..... do not feel the spark, that I think ya gota have to move forward, thats what dating is..........I dont do it over dinner, usually coffee, or the phone. Its better then just walking away without an explination. I think You know this early on, so only a few dates for me,
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