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  KitKat25

I was talking with a friend the other day and was told about a couple who was divorcing because the wife reconnected with an old flame through Facebook.

This got me thinking about the ease in which you can reconnect with old friends and loves through the various social networking sites we have at our fingertips these days. I mean you can send someone a quick “Hi” without investing much time or effort...or even risking any emotional heartache if the person decides to ignore or disregard your message.

The same person who told me of the couple’s impending divorce stated that wives’ cheating on husbands' have increased dramatically. They even went as far as stating that wives' were cheating MORE than husbands'. I don’t agree with their assessment because I think cheating occurs with both sexes...but it does get a person wondering about how much more infidelity has risen since social networking sites have become commonplace in our everyday lives.

So Pervia…I have three questions…

1. Have you reconnected with an old flame via one of the social networking sites?

2. Would you consider giving romance a second try with an old flame if everything went well?

3. If you were already in a committed relationship…would you have a “net fling” on the side just to spice things up?

Me? I've never reconnected with an old flame via a social networking site but if I did…I would only give them a second chance if the chemistry felt right…and we were BOTH free to embark on the journey together. My relationships tend to be very spicy so I would not need or want a little “net fling” on the side to spice up my love life.

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PinkToeNails

Aug 13 @ 8:16PM  
1. Yes... and in the process of reconnected with another one.....
2. Absolutely, provided that we didn't end on bad terms.
3. Absolutely not!
Wordsofwit

Aug 13 @ 8:27PM  
1. Have you reconnected with an old flame via one of the social networking sites?
No

2. Would you consider giving romance a second try with an old flame if everything went well?
Yes

3. If you were already in a committed relationship…would you have a “net fling” on the side just to spice things up?1. Have you reconnected with an old flame via one of the social networking sites?
No
sugarnspice005

Aug 13 @ 8:38PM  

1. Have you reconnected with an old flame via one of the social networking sites?


No.


2. Would you consider giving romance a second try with an old flame if everything went well?


Maybe.


3. If you were already in a committed relationship…would you have a “net fling” on the side just to spice things up?


Nope.
hog77297

Aug 13 @ 8:42PM  
Wow this is weird! A lady just got in touch with me from when I was 18 and she was 14. I never really had much to do with her then because of her age, but I'm think of taking a road trip to see her next Mo..
StraddleMyNose

Aug 13 @ 8:48PM  
1. Have you reconnected with an old flame via one of the social networking sites?No

2. Would you consider giving romance a second try with an old flame if everything went well?Yes

3. If you were already in a committed relationship…would you have a “net fling” on the side just to spice things up?NO!



Good blog. Kudos!
RJ53

Aug 13 @ 9:01PM  
1. Have you reconnected with an old flame via one of the social networking sites?
No I saw a couple of them on there but just kept on going.

2. Would you consider giving romance a second try with an old flame if everything went well?
No because there were reasons they were OLD flames in the first place.

3. If you were already in a committed relationship…would you have a “net fling” on the side just to spice things up
No, if I am in a relationship I am ini it spicy or not.
somnium

Aug 13 @ 9:09PM  
1. Have you reconnected with an old flame via one of the social networking sites? Nope!

2. Would you consider giving romance a second try with an old flame if everything went well? Of the one I'm thinking about now? In a heart beat!

3. If you were already in a committed relationship…would you have a “net fling” on the side just to spice things up? Never happen- has never happened- as I can only handle one lady at a time!

Kudos for ya!


lunanegra

Aug 13 @ 10:37PM  
I've actually heard this topic come up on a radio show I was listening to, good one to bring up.

Uhm...so...

1.No, only old HS acquaintances

2. Lol, hes the reason I left one of the sites I was on..why would I want to reconnect? Well, let me take that back- if opportunity were good on either our ends, I would. Even if he were bald and paunchy and I had dentures and a cane, my fondest hope would be us together again one more time.

3. I wouldnt be tempted, I would keep my relationships 100(percent). I'd only remain on social sites to keep in touch with people I made friends with.
sawduster

Aug 13 @ 11:42PM  
just one answer for all three. NOPE

tried a few years ago to find one, but never did, which is just as well. more out of curiosity than anything else.

and the way the whole thing went then, no reason to think it would be other wise now.

if a relationship were that committed, no reason to even consider a "net fling".
slohand_47

Aug 14 @ 10:31AM  
On infidelity....... throughout history, people have cheated. Women were more likely to get caught than men because women could get pregnant and men couldn't. Whether men did it more than women is hard to say, after all..... men have to be doing it with someone.

The first modern sexual revolution came with the invention of the birth control pill. Women could now be as free as men with sex and not have to worry about getting pregnant. Now as to which gender is cheating more......... that's really hard to say. The numbers still have to indicate men.... simply because men outnumber women about 8 to 1 on the singles sitess

The new sexual revolution is the internet. One can now connect with people anywhere in the world. Old flame, new friend...... the possibilities are limitless. I was pretty sheltered as a teenager, but the last 12 years have been simply amazing.

On to the survey.
1) Not yet.

2. Heck yes.

3) Possibly. ( I notice every one else put a resounding NO. I think that is the flaw on surveys with sensitive issues....... most of the people that are doing some sort of socially unacceptable behavior won't admit it. )
.02
RJ53

Aug 14 @ 1:17PM  
people that are doing some sort of socially unacceptable behavior won't admit it

Some of us just would not do it and not for the reasons you think. One relationship is hard work. A relationship and a fling would be twice the work and who wants that? LOL Just too much of a hassle keeping the names straight and all those secrets.
maxximuss1967

Aug 14 @ 3:20PM  
1. I did reconect with a girl I went to school with 25 years ago. but just as friends

2. I don't think going backwards is a smart move...(keep the memory)

3.No.....I am not a cheater!
casuallylooking

Aug 14 @ 5:11PM  
Good blog subject Kit...kudos.

Before I answer, I have to say so many times I love slowhands' answers. This being one of those times.
I like his qwirky, tell it like he sees it without being offense to anyone attitude.

My answers...
1. I've gotten a few emails on facebook or friends requests, but they are all from my past and I have no desire to bring that into my present or my future.
2. I've done that, it didn't work. And honestly, I think I would always remember why it didn't work out the first time and would most likely not completely give it a fair try the second time around.
3.No...if I have to look else where for spice, then I need to be doing something different in my current relationship to add that spice...or I need to end it.
casuallylooking

Aug 14 @ 5:12PM  
But, ummm. just for the record.... slo can't count !
slohand_47

Aug 14 @ 6:31PM  
Which numbers were you referring to.... and how would you adjust it? I don't check out mens profiles all that often.
When i wrote that, I checked the number of people online. There were 7 pages of men and 2 pages of women. Not exactly 8 to 1, but certainly nothing near even. Never has been on ANY site I was on.
firstimer135

Aug 14 @ 7:07PM  
Nope I would not cheat. I like the open honest realationship I have with a friend.
No net flings or second chance. I have grown.
KitKat25

Aug 14 @ 7:34PM  
Pink:
Yes... and in the process of reconnected with another one.....
That's fantastic Donna. Please keep us posted.

Hog:
Wow this is weird! A lady just got in touch with me from when I was 18 and she was 14. I never really had much to do with her then because of her age, but I'm think of taking a road trip to see her next Mo.
That is so cool. Please keep us posted on how things turn out.

RJ:
Would you consider giving romance a second try with an old flame if everything went well? No because there were reasons they were OLD flames in the first place.
I pretty much feel the same way...but sometimes a lot of years makes a huge difference with certain people in terms of maturity and self-growth. That's why I MIGHT be open if the chemistry was right.

Somnium:
If you were already in a committed relationship…would you have a “net fling” on the side just to spice things up? Never happen- has never happened- as I can only handle one lady at a time!
I hear ya! I can only handle one guy at a time...and sometimes I find the one guy to be kind of tough to handle.

Luna:
Lol, hes the reason I left one of the sites I was on..why would I want to reconnect? Well, let me take that back- if opportunity were good on either our ends, I would. Even if he were bald and paunchy and I had dentures and a cane, my fondest hope would be us together again one more time.
Aww Luna...I can tell you really loved the guy a lot. His loss IMHO. I hope you find what you're looking for...but I really respect the way you hold onto your convictions and won't settle for just any guy. This is a wonderful trait to posses.

slohand_47:
Possibly. ( I notice every one else put a resounding NO. I think that is the flaw on surveys with sensitive issues....... most of the people that are doing some sort of socially unacceptable behavior won't admit it. ) .02
I agree with your .02...at least for some people. I know a few people who have cheated...and most are the type who you would never picture cheating in the first place. Very interesting if you ask me.

Many of you made some very interesting points...such as not wanting to revisit an old flame since it didn't work out the first time. I can see both sides to this coin and I think for me it would completely depend on the person.

Thanks so much for all the great comments...and for taking the time to respond openly and honestly.
casuallylooking

Aug 14 @ 8:23PM  
Which numbers were you referring to.... and how would you adjust it?

I was referring to this comment...

I was pretty sheltered as a teenager, but the last 12 years have been simply amazing
.

You know you are a tad bit older than 19(end of teenage scale) and 12. You need to add another 10 years to your age if being honest...
ladybootscooter

Aug 15 @ 12:30AM  
1. Yes, twice now I've "found" or rather had old flames find me on social networking sites.
2. Yes I would consider it if had ended fairly well the first time.

3. Nope. If I was in a committed relationship I wouldn't have time for reconnecting with someone else online!
slohand_47

Aug 15 @ 11:06AM  
Ohhhh.......... ok. Let me clarify.
As a teenager I grew up in a rural area and was very sheltered.

The first gal I ever had sex with was the first one I married. The second was wife #2. I never cheated on either one, but I wasn't tested either. Never had an opportunity so hard to say if I would have been tempted or not. I skipped over the married years in my comments but wasn't trying to decieve any one as to my age. It's right on my profile.

#2 and I split up in 98 and that's when I got online. And I'll repeat, it's been an amazing 12 years!
KitKat25

Aug 15 @ 5:22PM  
Ladybootscooter shared a wonderful story last night on how she reconnected with an old friend via Facebook...so I thought I would post a link here since it seemed to fit in nicely with this blog topic.

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