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Seeking an Relationship is Different than finding someone to "Have Sex " with! So I have been told!!!
Was that info Correct?

IF YOU ARE SEEKING AN RELATIONSHIP.........
Do you have Sex with someone before you have a relationship going? Is it sex first and relationship later?
Do you get to know someone before Sex?
I have to wonder....are we fucking ourselves by fucking 1st...talking later!!!???
Thoughts?

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Fckmhrdtnght

Aug 2 @ 8:13PM  
no goddamn idea ... tried it both ways and neither worked ..

I will keep reading the comments and see if can learn something.
theSkwirl

Aug 2 @ 8:14PM  
Yeah, if you are just looking to get laid.. and nothing else.. then it's fuck em and forget em. I know that sounds awful coming from a woman.. but hey.. it's been done to us for years.

However, I prefer to know someone before the nakedness happens. I am not into fumbling and bumbling someone I will never see again.
LuuvaGrl

Aug 2 @ 9:11PM  
Weird how this "topic" is such an unknown for some of us......cuz I don't know either. But here is my truth: I have been sleeping with this guy for 9 months now....bla bla bla....further details read my first blog. I laid out the rules: don't call me, don't text me....this will be PURELY physical. NOTHING more NOTHING less. First of all, I has NO IDEA that the first night was going to be as exceptionally amazing as it was.... BUT...I knew that in order to protect myslef, I could NOT give any more than that. JUST a FUCK! So.....for the first 6 months, he showed up at my door whenever I texted him and asked....be it once a week, or once a month. I opened my door, he kissed me, picked me up, carried me into my room, and we would screw for hours. Lay in bed and watch a little TV....but we hardly spoke a word to each other unless it was dirty talk to each other. Most often he would stay, not always but most of the time. Now, for the last 3 months, it has been at his place, we have been having conversations about so many things.....his life, my life, and just random unimportant things.....but....it's conversation....and it has been good. We still do not call each other or text unless we want to see each other and it's been about every 2 to 3 weeks.
So...was I seeking a relationship? NOOOO NO NNNNOOOO! Am I now? No, not with anyone else.....but I am more scared to get close to him than I have been in any other relationship....because I am so jaded from my last break up.....he does not want a relationship either...so what the fuck do you call this????

In my perfect world, I would prefer that we wait to get physical until we have a fairly established "relationship"....but I am one of those women who get sex and love confused sometimes...and I LOVE sex...so go fuckin figure.....I gues you could say I am one confused chick!! but at the end of the day...as I am sure many of us know full well......sex ALWAYS FUCKS things up!

For whatever that is worth...which probably aint worth much.....there's my piece!
Wordsofwit

Aug 2 @ 9:22PM  
Do you have Sex with someone before you have a relationship going?

Let me put it this way, if I am going to lease or buy a car, you'd better believe I'll take for a test drive first.

Is it sex first and relationship later?

More often than not, the correct answer to that question would be "no". That is because a relationship is much less likely than sex. Sex first, relationship...maybe but probably not.

Do you get to know someone before Sex?

If absolutely necessary, well, yes. That depends on how lucky I get and how charming I am combined with how much she has had to drink and how lonesome she is. Seriously, those two things go on simultaneously but progress at different rates depending on the person.

I have to wonder....are we fucking ourselves by fucking 1st...talking later!!!???

Not necessarily as long as there is a lot of communication and a sincere effort on the part of both people to get to know one another beyond the bedroom.
LuuvaGrl

Aug 2 @ 9:33PM  
[QUOTE] WHAT???? Where are the men that "communicate" then????? I am so not trying to be offensive.....seriously....I am not....but I would give anything for a guy who is willing to communicate! Sorry I just had to interject!
Wordsofwit

Aug 2 @ 9:46PM  
I forgot to add that historically my dick was much more willing to get involved with a woman than my heart was, not to mention much more quickly.
KitKat25

Aug 2 @ 10:30PM  
Ehhh...I don't fuck just to fuck.

Like Ms. Skwirl said...I would rather get to know someone before we slide between sheets. I mean if they're not worth talking to...are they really worth fucking? Seriously...why waste my time?

Besides...the sex is tons better when there are real emotions involved...at least that has been my experience.
lunanegra

Aug 2 @ 10:39PM  
Do you have Sex with someone before you have a relationship going? Is it sex first and relationship later?

Do you get to know someone before Sex?

Ideally, but sometimes I cant help myself, especially if the guy is irresistible. Of course, luck of the draw in whether they stick around or not though.

I actually have for a few months to a year. His schedule forced us to do that...it was worth the wait though.
ksk72

Aug 2 @ 10:44PM  
I have tried both ways...for me getting the sexual tension out of the way seems to work better.

Never believe what a man with a hard on says Fuck him first then he has no reason to lie to get in your pants
Wordsofwit

Aug 2 @ 10:45PM  
I mean if they're not worth talking to...are they really worth fucking?

Frequently, yes! Plus, some of the ones that were more fun learned at least two things from the mother: Don't talk with your mouth full and it is better to give than receive!
StraddleMyNose

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Aug 2 @ 10:52PM  
I have to be in a relationship before I ever decide to sleep with someone. I have to have feelings for that person as well.
StraddleMyNose

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Aug 2 @ 10:53PM  
Coming back in to leave a kudo!
1bunny629

Aug 2 @ 11:08PM  
some men just need to shut the fuck up...that doesn't mean I am going to fuck them when they do...it just meand they need to shut the fuck up...
LuuvaGrl

Aug 2 @ 11:21PM  
Bunny....I LOVE YOU!!!!
KitKat25

Aug 2 @ 11:27PM  
some men just need to shut the fuck up...that doesn't mean I am going to fuck them when they do...it just meand they need to shut the fuck up...

LMAO @ Bunny!

So Bunny...is this men in general...or one particular man?!?!
NightOfOld

Aug 2 @ 11:32PM  


Fckmhrdtnght

Aug 2 @ 11:47PM  
awesome
1bunny629

Aug 2 @ 11:48PM  
...I have to answer...
Frequently, yes! Plus, some of the ones that were more fun learned at least two things from the mother: Don't talk with your mouth full and it is better to give than receive!
...that tells it all...but on the other hand some woman need to shut the fuck up...doesn't mean you should fuck em...but they still nedd to shut the fuck up...seriously...
RJ53

Aug 3 @ 3:09AM  
Do you have Sex with someone before you have a relationship going?

Let me put it this way, if I am going to lease or buy a car, you'd better believe I'll take for a test drive first.

If I were getting to know a man I would find that more than a little insulting. It sounds very disrespectful. Good sex comes from knowing a person not jumping straight into bed with them. That attitude would make me lose my keys and there would be no "test drive" or even a second date. If all I wanted was a good fucking I have plenty of batteries.

Sex at the beginning of a relationship is fine as long as it does not turn into all sex at the expense of getting to know the person.

1bunny629

Aug 3 @ 2:05PM  
Hey RJ! Good to see you! ...Hey, Let's get Bruce a T Shirt that says Test Rider and park him at the Rodeo...next to the Bull Stales...
RJ53

Aug 3 @ 3:26PM  
Hey RJ! Good to see you! ...Hey, Let's get Bruce a T Shirt that says Test Rider and park him at the Rodeo...next to the Bull Stales...

Good to see you too

Come to think of it he does live in Texas. Would not have to go that far to find that rodeo.
Wordsofwit

Aug 3 @ 5:41PM  
Hey RJ! Good to see you! ...Hey, Let's get Bruce a T Shirt that says Test Rider and park him at the Rodeo...next to the Bull Stales...


Come to think of it he does live in Texas. Would not have to go that far to find that rodeo.


We have two regular ones around here, they are kind of going the way of the drive in. But the last time I went to one, around 35 years ago, you almost got your wish...I was rooting for the livestock. "Buck 'em Bronco!" "Swing to left, swing to the right, throw the cowboy into the night!" If a rider couldn't go the eight seconds, I'd yell out "Moo for you!" "Just horsing around, cowboy?!?" I had a good time but noticed that people in cowboy hats just don't have much of a sense of humor...oh well
sugarnspice005

Aug 3 @ 8:00PM  
Hey RJ welcome back!!!

IF YOU ARE SEEKING AN RELATIONSHIP.........
Do you have Sex with someone before you have a relationship going? Is it sex first and relationship later?
Do you get to know someone before Sex?
I have to wonder....are we fucking ourselves by fucking 1st...talking later!!!???

I'm like Skwirl, I have to know the person before I have sex with him. So, I guess that answer the second question.

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