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How to Date a Widow.......? Tips are Very Welcome!!!!!

posted 7/29/2010 11:07:04 PM |
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I Need the help from the "Women" here....Please!!! Men are Welcome also!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am dating a lady that is a Widow of .......4 1/2 years!
After we started dating(a Week ago) ....She is starting to get rid of some of his Gifts....!!!

She has dated others......but noone was interested in a relationship...at all! Shes no model...but really... seems real..to Me!!!!! That's what I am seeking!!!(Real) Plus she Cooks!!!!!!
Well... honestly........ I am seeking a relationship and She Knows it!!!

I don't want to be the "FALL GUY"(Rebound).......... Some of us Men have Feelers also..Yanno?
Ladies.... Please do tell.....am I gonna be the Fall Guy?
Any Info from someone Who..Knows would be AWESOME!!!! THX!!!!

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ladybootscooter

Jul 29 @ 11:19PM  
Four and half years? Nope, I think she's probably just finally ready to move on with her life. Best of luck to you A. you deserve it!
Fckmhrdtnght

Jul 30 @ 12:51AM  
I am a widow of 2 1/2 years but really it was nearly 5 years with his disease and such ..

a lot depends on her ... and what she wants ...

ask her ....

however I know that I didn't want to ever care about anyone again, because the pain of someone dying was so horrible ... even though the marriage was not that great.

I got rid of everything that had me remember my husband, it was the past and I didn't want reminders. I wanted to go forward.

Different house, car, job, clothes, hair colour, fresh start ... new life.

Find out her definition of a relationship ....

I had one guy tell me that this he wanted to date this beautiful gal and she told him that every weekend he had to spend with her ... if he wanted to see his friends, he had to do it during the week.
He walked away from her.

Good luck!!



1bunny629

Jul 30 @ 1:27AM  
Don't ask me...ask her....seriously, you have been thru how many woman in the past year??? I can't even get a date with a homeless man....anyway...honey...ask her all these questions. How about you date her awhile and see if you want to be in a relationship with her. Be yourself and see how it goes.
1bunny629

Jul 30 @ 1:28AM  
oh yeah...quit labeling...she is a woman...not a widow.
themama

Jul 30 @ 10:07AM  
Ask her what she wants.... Might just be wierd timing thats all of her getting rid of his stuff thats all... Does take time gettting over someone...She might just felt like she is ready to move on with her life..
Good luck!!!!!!
soft_touch938

Jul 30 @ 11:53AM  
These gals are right...ask her.

But yanno what I see? I see more eagerness in you to get hooked up with someone and I worry that you're wanting to get too involved too soon. From all your blogs we know you are lonely and you want someone so badly. That makes you vulernable and also may cause you to read meanings into something that are colored by your feelings.

Go slow. Above all else, establish communication...talk talk talk.

Every widow...and I don't find that term offensive...has their own time schedule of healing. I think she's ready to move on and you may have given her that incentive but that doesn't mean she's convinced in one week of seeing you that you are the ONE.

Go slow, walk carefully and communicate. Good luck...
slohand_47

Jul 30 @ 4:57PM  
I'm with softy....... one week and you want to know where it's going already? Lighten up and just have fun getting out and doing things...... which gives you a chance to get to know each other a little better.

Sooner or later, the question solves itself without ever being asked. Either
1) you decide she is NOT the one and call it quits. or

2) She decides YOU are not the one and breaks up with you. (and really, there is NOTHING you can do about that. We are not a perfect fit for everyone on the planet and if it's not right, it's not. or

3) At some point you SO comfortable with each other that the question is not where is this going....... but how and when do we want to pull off a merger.

Just let it happen.
.02
StraddleMyNose

Jul 31 @ 2:31PM  
am I gonna be the Fall Guy?
I doubt it.

I never knew of this until watching an episode of Roseanne years ago.
sugarnspice005

Jul 31 @ 6:33PM  
After 4 1/2 years..I doubt she's looking at you as a "fall guy". But, I'm going to agree with Fckm,Bunny, mama, and Softie.....ASK HER.

And I hope for the very best for both of you.
KitKat25

Jul 31 @ 8:42PM  
I agree with everyone else...so just relax, enjoy the ride and have lots of fun.

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