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Would you keep items given to you by your ex when with someone else?

posted 6/10/2010 3:19:58 PM |
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Would you keep items such as clothing, tools, jewelry from your previous relationship(s) that your ex (s) got you? Also, how would you feel if your s/o or spouse had decided to keep items from past relationships?

For me I guess it would have to depend on whom I'm with as to whether it would bother them all that much, and what the item may be as to if I wanted to keep it or not.

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RevDocLove

Jun 10 @ 3:28PM  
Sure!!! Why not??
sugarnspice005

Jun 10 @ 3:30PM  
Yes, I would. And I wouldn't expect my s/o to get rid of things they had gotten from an ex. That was something given before we were together and it would be up to my s/o if he wants to keep whatever it is or get rid of it.
justme4u

Jun 10 @ 3:54PM  
Yup
Wordsofwit

Jun 10 @ 3:58PM  
For me I guess it would have to depend on whom I'm with as to whether it would bother them all that much, and what the item may be as to if I wanted to keep it or not.


That sums up my feelings.

But I will extend that to say that if it bothered them too much, and they bitched too much about it, that would send up a major red flag about the person's insecurities.

Somebody that has been a veteran of the wars of the heart is no problem. But I have no interest in somebody who is a casualty and packing more baggage than the cargo hold of a 747. Past a certain point, their insecurities based upon their past poor choices in the opposite sex is not going to be my problem.
RJ53

Jun 10 @ 5:08PM  
packing more baggage than the cargo hold of a 747.

You find me a person our age who has been in relationships who says they do not have any baggage is either in denial or lying through their teeth. With life comes baggage unless you spent it under a rock as a hermit. Then that would be a whole different problem.

They can keep or get rid of whatever an ex gave them as far as i am concerned. Just as long as they do not have the ex's picture plastered all over the house I am fine with it. Now if they had kids together I would not care if the ex was in the family photos before I came along. By the time someone is in their 40s or 50s there is going to be residue from the past and it would be foolish to expect them to act like it never happened or get rid of all the reminders.
1bunny629

Jun 11 @ 2:54AM  
The way I look at it is...how would they know your SO gave you any of the items? If you tell them it seems to me you would be bragging or trying to stir up some shit.Nobody knows who gave me what. For all they know I bought it myself. I don't bring it up. No issues. I did keep the house, the dogs and some other things when I got divorced, but since then no one I have dated ever asked me where or from whom I got anything I owned.
casuallylooking

Jun 11 @ 4:26AM  
As long as they are not still holding onto the ex, I don't see a probelm with it.
Seriously, we all have a past....and Most of us even have children and/or grandchildren with an ex...
Nothing says, "I had a life before you with someone else" more than that.
It's wherre they want to be NOW that matters.
Material objects are just that...objects.

But good blog, Shawn.
Wordsofwit

Jun 11 @ 6:21AM  
The way I look at it is...how would they know your SO gave you any of the items? If you tell them it seems to me you would be bragging or trying to stir up some shit.

Excellent point!
Sunshine79

Jun 11 @ 7:06AM  
I have & I did before and I'd do it again. Some things are just going to be left behind. Most times, I say gifts are keepable. Which is usually jewelry.
My ex still has all his I ever gave him. I still have his.
RevDocLove

Jun 11 @ 8:26AM  
Shawn..I bet you're gathering all this info for future possible
differences of opinions you and your lady may have in the future..Right???
You being inexperienced in the art of marriage, etc.
Cootiesprayer

Jun 11 @ 8:32AM  
No I would take it to a pawn shop & keep the cash just to p them off chuckle.
StraddleMyNose

Jun 11 @ 12:59PM  
Shawn..I bet you're gathering all this info for future possible
differences of opinions you and your lady may have in the future..Right???
No, not at all. This has nothing to do with me. I just thought this would be a really good question to throw out there and to see all the feedback with peoples opinions.

Thanks to everyone for sharing their opinions on this topic.

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Would you keep items given to you by your ex when with someone else?