AddThis Social Bookmark Button
Free Dating

Don't Take it Personally.....

posted 1/3/2007 11:03:41 PM |
5 kudosgive kudos what's this?
    report abuse
  Loveyoulongtime2

If someone does not answer your email, do you take it personally? I used to, but it doesn't bother me most of the time.
This site is great for pretending and playing out fantasies if that's what you're into, but some of us are looking for more than sex. Sex is important that's why most of us are here. The forums and blogs are interesting.
If you only want to talk about sex and nothing else, then I'm not interested.

Copy & paste to friend: (Click inside box; Ctrl + C to copy; Ctrl + V to paste)

   read more blogs!

Blogs by Loveyoulongtime2:
Brazilian Spider Bite Causes Hours-Long Erection
Mind Control by Cats....And by Something in Them
Horny After Reading Blogs and Having a Couple of Beers
You Are Not Allowed To Comment?
Why post a blog and then delete it?
Don't Take it Personally.....


Comments:

post a comment!

Dominus

Jan 3 @ 11:23PM  
Have you ever shot someone a flirtatious smile on the street? When they didn't smile back, do you get offended at them?

That why it seems so rediculous when someone says they didn't get an e-mail response from so-and-so which is why they feel they are a complete bitch. Please! It's not like the e-mail you wrote took up half your day. You probably barely put any effort into it at all. not much more than a flirty smile.

So maybe people that fly off the handle at such simple things need a re-assesment as to what is important and what isn't.

belle1010

Jan 3 @ 11:38PM  
Don't take it personally. Not everyone you are attracted to is going to return it. Just like everyone attracted to you, isn't someone you want to be with. Sex is great, it's fun, and i happen to like it, however it's not all i like. There isn't anything wrong with wanting more, and you'll find it, you might even find it here. I did, so did some of my friends. Give it a chance, stick around, have some fun with it, and see how it goes.
kkatydid

Jan 4 @ 12:47AM  
You are looking for something more than sex???? Is that correct or am I misreading you? Tell us...........what is it you desire?
StraddleMyNose

Jan 4 @ 12:55AM  
I see nothing wrong with what Loveyoulongtime is looking for. I think a lot of us are looking for more than sex on here. Sex is great, and I want to meet someone on here that doesn't want to just talk about sex all the time. Finding that right person with a HUGE sex drive that I can connect and fall in love with would be great!
bentan

Jan 4 @ 1:04AM  
Have you ever shot someone a flirtatious smile on the street? When they didn't smile back, do you get offended at them?

Well, that's because a flirtatious smile isn't necessarily an appropriate thing to be doing on a street. On the other hand if I said a simple "Hi" and smiled at a person while waiting to cross at a traffic light, I think it would be pretty discourteous for the person to maintain a stone face or look away when I have taken the social risk of making contact. At least nod and show some sign of acknowledgement, Sure call me a fool for taking that risk but I wasn't brought up to be a snob.

That why it seems so rediculous when someone says they didn't get an e-mail response from so-and-so which is why they feel they are a complete bitch. Please! It's not like the e-mail you wrote took up half your day. You probably barely put any effort into it at all. not much more than a flirty smile.

The email may not have taken up half a day, but that does not mean no effort was involved. I can't speak for others but when I have sent mails it is usually after reading through the essays carefully and checking the profiles. The mails I send always talk about what in their profile interested me (and it always includes something non-physical) and a little about myself and how my interests correlate with theirs. In short, in what few mails I send out, each has been thoughtfully crafted and never rude. Even so, most of the recipients don't respond.

I think there are two points of view to be considered here, one of the sender and the other of the recipient. In my opinion, the sender should be prepared to be graceful in the face of rejection or non-reply. I always put non-replies down to busyness of the other party. But I also think that it behooves the recipient to have the basic courtesy, if time and circumstances permit, to write a short sentence saying thanks but not interested to mail that is not obviously salacious or inappropriate. In all of this, basic courtesy and respect for others should be the working principle. I realize when a person is "in demand" it is easy to forgo consideration for others but I would encourage people to do the right thing and not descend to snobbish behavior.
bentan

Jan 4 @ 1:09AM  
Don't take it personally. Not everyone you are attracted to is going to return it. Just like everyone attracted to you, isn't someone you want to be with.

Not returning attraction is reasonable, but not acknowledging it and saying no thanks, if time and circumstances permit, is snobbishness. One speaks of attraction, the other of courtesy.
zena343

Jan 4 @ 3:19AM  
I try not to take anything to personal, if someone doesn't email me back then I don't sweat it. I don't talk to a whole heck of alot of people here, but the ones I do, if I didn't get a reply back from them, then I may take it personal,

Zena
Loveyoulongtime2

Jan 4 @ 8:28AM  
Zena, sometimes not getting a reply bothers me for the reason you said, that's what inspired this blog, it's happened so many times. Seems that it could be happening again just when I start to think there really is a possibility and then there are no replies to emails.
Loveyoulongtime2

Jan 4 @ 9:26AM  
You are looking for something more than sex???? Is that correct or am I misreading you? Tell us...........what is it you desire?
kkatydid, I'm looking for the best combinaton...love with lots of sex, either one alone is not as good.
drmountebank

Jan 4 @ 11:39AM  
Perhaps if you're "looking for more than just sex", Having more than just photos of your dick might assist in that cause. Think about it. If you want more than that, you have to project more than that. Shallow is not not attractive to anyone desiring more than sex.


Use your brain.
Loveyoulongtime2

Jan 4 @ 12:02PM  
drmountebank, The last time I looked there ARE other pics and even an essay in my profile. And YOU are calling me shallow for what I want, just because I have dick pics? You are in a relationship and looking for sex and don't have a dick pic, yeah, everything makes sense now. Thanks for your comment.
zena343

Jan 5 @ 5:00PM  
Your right Loveyou, some are looking for more than just sex

Zena

free dating | mission statement | testimonials | safety warning | report abuse | safe list | privacy | legal | 2257 | advertise | link to us

© Copyright 2000-2014 Online Singles, LLC.
OS-WEB01
Don't Take it Personally.....